Hanny_Franco
It's somt I've always wanted, not just for me but for my family. You see family is my #1 priority in life and I want to celebrate my life becoming our life with the people I care most about. I also want to have the memory of our celebration to hold on to. I want to show the world how much I love him thru our celebration I want him to know, with out a double that I love him. I want everyone to see our love at its purest. (Ok that sounded so stupid) but most importantly I want to get married in a way that represents BOTH of us, and I'm not an elope kinda person. I kinda don't even know if they are good reasons but I also feel like everyone deserves to have a wedding with the person they love.
A really confusing perception seems to surround marriage for some people. They think that marriage is a bonding between person A and person B. For most people, it's not. It's a bonding between
family A and
family B. Tell him you will have the rest of your life for "just us" moments, but for this milestone, you will not budge on having your family celebrate with you.
I will tell you my dirty secret: I love my husband. I love that we're married. I love that we'll be together forever. But I compromised on our wedding and I regret every moment of the ceremony. Not the fact that it happened - don't get me wrong, the highlight of my life has been tying the knot with this man, but the ceremony and the way it was done is something I'll never look back fondly on. It actually makes me a little angry to think about it.
I'm not saying don't compromise, but be careful about the parts of the ceremony you hold important. Weigh them carefully. You want a family wedding? Fine, but do you need all 148 people there, or just mom and dad? Just food for thought. Good luck.