BOYFRIEND PROBLEM PLEASE HELP

[Blazing Green Dragon]

It sounds like you aren't ready for a relationship.

[littlemandi123]

Kunoichiban

Why not take an interest in his "car meets" and ask if you can come along?

eek

its not that i dont like it. i like going to them but i want him to have a guys night if hes going to go out with his friends. but if he says he will be home at like 11 he should be home and if he will be home later to atleast call. but nothing.

[dumb yet sweet LALA]

TBH, honey, i think he thinks that you're over-protective. 3;

[littlemandi123]

dumb yet sweet LALA

TBH, honey, i think he thinks that you're over-protective. 3;

i really want him to keep atleast one promise that he says and talk to me when we have a problem.

[MarmeeXnoir]

littlemandi123

MarmeeXnoir

Honestly it sounds like you need to grow up and learn to trust your boyfriend. If you're so insecure about what he's doing then maybe you should sit down and talk to him about your feelings. But don't treat him like a little kid by telling him he has a curfew to be home by.


And just because you don't feel the need to have social life doesn't mean that he shouldn't have one either.

well that i ask him what time will you be home and he says ill be home at 11 then it 1am and idk where he is and he doesnt answer. and if he does hes angry.

we both decided to focus on school and us and not have a social life. so i put my friends to the side and he didnt. and we talk and talk about it but he never says anything back. i can talk to him forever and he wont say anything. so i never know how he feels

And like I said. If he's 24 he doesn't need a curfew. So he doesn't actually have to be home at one. He's an adult, treat him like one.

And if he is at a meeting or trying to hangout with friends or something I can see why he would get annoyed by you trying to call to check up on him. That just screams "Hey I don't trust you to be out by yourself.. and I'm afraid you're messing with someone else even though you're more than likely just trying to have a good time with friends." And in which case, like Kuno said, if you can't trust him.. then go with him or see if you can.

He shouldn't have to devote himself to school and nothing else besides what you would want him to do. If you can't treat your boyfriend like human and not a animal or something you own.. than maybe you should get out of the relationship scene until you can learn to have a little more trust in people and not be so controlling.

After being together for three years you should be trusting of him.

[lee rei]

littlemandi123

Kunoichiban

Why not take an interest in his "car meets" and ask if you can come along?

eek

its not that i dont like it. i like going to them but i want him to have a guys night if hes going to go out with his friends. but if he says he will be home at like 11 he should be home and if he will be home later to atleast call. but nothing.

if it's a "guys night out" then let it be a "guys night out" special event like those should not have any time limit,they're over when they're over simple as that

[littlemandi123]

MarmeeXnoir

littlemandi123

MarmeeXnoir

Honestly it sounds like you need to grow up and learn to trust your boyfriend. If you're so insecure about what he's doing then maybe you should sit down and talk to him about your feelings. But don't treat him like a little kid by telling him he has a curfew to be home by.


And just because you don't feel the need to have social life doesn't mean that he shouldn't have one either.

well that i ask him what time will you be home and he says ill be home at 11 then it 1am and idk where he is and he doesnt answer. and if he does hes angry.

we both decided to focus on school and us and not have a social life. so i put my friends to the side and he didnt. and we talk and talk about it but he never says anything back. i can talk to him forever and he wont say anything. so i never know how he feels

And like I said. If he's 24 he doesn't need a curfew. So he doesn't actually have to be home at one. He's an adult, treat him like one.

And if he is at a meeting or trying to hangout with friends or something I can see why he would get annoyed by you trying to call to check up on him. That just screams "Hey I don't trust you to be out by yourself.. and I'm afraid you're messing with someone else even though you're more than likely just trying to have a good time with friends." And in which case, like Kuno said, if you can't trust him.. then go with him or see if you can.

He shouldn't have to devote himself to school and nothing else besides what you would want him to do. If you can't treat your boyfriend like human and not a animal or something you own.. than maybe you should get out of the relationship scene until you can learn to have a little more trust in people and not be so controlling.

After being together for three years you should be trusting of him.

the thing is the we both decided it would be a certain way and he is trying to do other stuff. after i gave up my life so it could be the way we planned it. so it could be easier on us. he goes off and spends alot of money to. he doesnt want me going out if i wanted to. especially not come home later than 10. i have to be home taking care of our puppies.

[littlemandi123]

we have alot of things to pay and he is off spending money. bills, car payments, dog vet, dog stuff, etc and thats one of the reasons we decided we wouldnt go out much.

[Blazing Green Dragon]

******** you. grow some balls. be your own person. This situation is none of our business. Also what the ******** are we going to do to help you? absolutely nothing. Maybe give you ideas but it's up to you decide. Even if you could decide on something you probably wouldn't be on this site talking about it. GROW UP.

[littlemandi123]

he says i want to buy a new hood, body kit, gps, a new system,motor mounts, etc. and i say ok but save the money separate and he doesnt do it even though he says he will.

[MarmeeXnoir]

littlemandi123

MarmeeXnoir

littlemandi123

MarmeeXnoir

Honestly it sounds like you need to grow up and learn to trust your boyfriend. If you're so insecure about what he's doing then maybe you should sit down and talk to him about your feelings. But don't treat him like a little kid by telling him he has a curfew to be home by.


And just because you don't feel the need to have social life doesn't mean that he shouldn't have one either.

well that i ask him what time will you be home and he says ill be home at 11 then it 1am and idk where he is and he doesnt answer. and if he does hes angry.

we both decided to focus on school and us and not have a social life. so i put my friends to the side and he didnt. and we talk and talk about it but he never says anything back. i can talk to him forever and he wont say anything. so i never know how he feels

And like I said. If he's 24 he doesn't need a curfew. So he doesn't actually have to be home at one. He's an adult, treat him like one.

And if he is at a meeting or trying to hangout with friends or something I can see why he would get annoyed by you trying to call to check up on him. That just screams "Hey I don't trust you to be out by yourself.. and I'm afraid you're messing with someone else even though you're more than likely just trying to have a good time with friends." And in which case, like Kuno said, if you can't trust him.. then go with him or see if you can.

He shouldn't have to devote himself to school and nothing else besides what you would want him to do. If you can't treat your boyfriend like human and not a animal or something you own.. than maybe you should get out of the relationship scene until you can learn to have a little more trust in people and not be so controlling.

After being together for three years you should be trusting of him.

the thing is the we both decided it would be a certain way and he is trying to do other stuff. after i gave up my life so it could be the way we planned it. so it could be easier on us. he goes off and spends alot of money to. he doesnt want me going out if i wanted to. especially not come home later than 10. i have to be home taking care of our puppies.

Well apparently he really didn't expect you to drop your life since he didn't do the same. So it's really no one else fault but yours that you're trying to force to stick the routine just because you are. If it's not fair to you that he's doing stuff and you aren't then get over the issue and do stuff.

And honestly. If you both do try to control each other like that, than you both need out. Because that's just plain ridiculous.

[littlemandi123]

Blazing Green Dragon

******** you. grow some balls. be your own person. This situation is none of our business. Also what the ******** are we going to do to help you? absolutely nothing. Maybe give you ideas but it's up to you decide. Even if you could decide on something you probably wouldn't be on this site talking about it. GROW UP.

well i want ideas and i want to get my feelings out because he wont talk back to me when i speak. its like im talking to myself.

[littlemandi123]

MarmeeXnoir

littlemandi123

MarmeeXnoir

littlemandi123

MarmeeXnoir

Honestly it sounds like you need to grow up and learn to trust your boyfriend. If you're so insecure about what he's doing then maybe you should sit down and talk to him about your feelings. But don't treat him like a little kid by telling him he has a curfew to be home by.


And just because you don't feel the need to have social life doesn't mean that he shouldn't have one either.

well that i ask him what time will you be home and he says ill be home at 11 then it 1am and idk where he is and he doesnt answer. and if he does hes angry.

we both decided to focus on school and us and not have a social life. so i put my friends to the side and he didnt. and we talk and talk about it but he never says anything back. i can talk to him forever and he wont say anything. so i never know how he feels

And like I said. If he's 24 he doesn't need a curfew. So he doesn't actually have to be home at one. He's an adult, treat him like one.

And if he is at a meeting or trying to hangout with friends or something I can see why he would get annoyed by you trying to call to check up on him. That just screams "Hey I don't trust you to be out by yourself.. and I'm afraid you're messing with someone else even though you're more than likely just trying to have a good time with friends." And in which case, like Kuno said, if you can't trust him.. then go with him or see if you can.

He shouldn't have to devote himself to school and nothing else besides what you would want him to do. If you can't treat your boyfriend like human and not a animal or something you own.. than maybe you should get out of the relationship scene until you can learn to have a little more trust in people and not be so controlling.

After being together for three years you should be trusting of him.

the thing is the we both decided it would be a certain way and he is trying to do other stuff. after i gave up my life so it could be the way we planned it. so it could be easier on us. he goes off and spends alot of money to. he doesnt want me going out if i wanted to. especially not come home later than 10. i have to be home taking care of our puppies.

Well apparently he really didn't expect you to drop your life since he didn't do the same. So it's really no one else fault but yours that you're trying to force to stick the routine just because you are. If it's not fair to you that he's doing stuff and you aren't then get over the issue and do stuff.

And honestly. If you both do try to control each other like that, than you both need out. Because that's just plain ridiculous.

thanks. i really needed someone to tell me off and give their opinion

[Blazing Green Dragon]

To be honest. You need to figure this kind of s**t out on your own. No one can give you the right answer. You have to do it on your own. STOP BEING A CHILD. GROW SOME BALLS!!!!!!

P.S. You make life the way you want it. No one is blame but yourself. If you can't figure out your own life. Please commit suicide a long with the other millions of people who can't.

P.S.S. You're lucky I'm not spamming your thread with "I don't support pity parties"

[littlemandi123]

Blazing Green Dragon

To be honest. You need to figure this kind of s**t out on your own. No one can give you the right answer. You have to do it on your own. STOP BEING A CHILD. GROW SOME BALLS!!!!!!

P.S. You make life the way you want it. No one is blame but yourself. If you can't figure out your own life. Please commit suicide a long with the other millions of people who can't.

P.S.S. You're lucky I'm not spamming your thread with "I don't support pity parties"

thanks kid