BOYFRIEND PROBLEM PLEASE HELP

[littlemandi123]

i am 21 and my bf is 24. my problem is that my bf thinks i nag to much about him coming home "late" he gets to his house at like 1am sometimes. he says he goes to car meets and stuff like that. we get into fights because he says i have no right to tell him what time he should get home. he says if he wants he will get home at 3am and i have no right. i feel i have a right because we have been together for 3 years we have been threw alot. i wash some of his clothes sometimes. during school he would come over and i would make him lunch and diner for him to take to work everyday for the past year. i give him back rubs and foot rubs. we share money. i try to please him in everyway i can. He says he wants to marry me and he loves me so much. but then if he goes out. i tell him please dont come home late and he gets mad. idk whats up. can someone give me advise?

[sweaty latina]

why is it such a problem if he stays out late?

[littlemandi123]

sweaty latina

why is it such a problem if he stays out late?

well like a 1 year and a half he started talking to his ex and some other girls and idk how they found me and they told me about it and ever since i have like trust issues. with him because he would tell me he loved me and then his ex would send me the text that he wanted to shower with her. in that same moment and when i asked him if he was doing something he denied it. then when i told him i knew he said he would change but i still have like this feeling that maybe he might be doing something. i have tryed to forget about it but its hard

[lee rei]

sweaty latina

why is it such a problem if he stays out late?

seriously

why do you try to give him a curfew,you're not his mother

[littlemandi123]

lee rei

sweaty latina

why is it such a problem if he stays out late?

seriously

why do you try to give him a curfew,you're not his mother

i feel like it makes me feel like he isnt doing anything bad if he is home early. idk what it is? am i wrong?

[lee rei]

littlemandi123

lee rei

sweaty latina

why is it such a problem if he stays out late?

seriously

why do you try to give him a curfew,you're not his mother

i feel like it makes me feel like he isnt doing anything bad if he is home early. idk what it is? am i wrong?

yes,he should be aloud to come and go as he pleases,and you need to learn to cope with your insecurities,have you tried stalking him as a new hobby?

[littlemandi123]

i dont know how to make myself feel better about everything that has happend. i feel like he needs to grow up. and there is no need to go out late. i dont go out at all. just school and work and him. i dont feel there is a need to.

[littlemandi123]

lee rei

littlemandi123

lee rei

sweaty latina

why is it such a problem if he stays out late?

seriously

why do you try to give him a curfew,you're not his mother

i feel like it makes me feel like he isnt doing anything bad if he is home early. idk what it is? am i wrong?

yes,he should be aloud to come and go as he pleases,and you need to learn to cope with your insecurities,have you tried stalking him as a new hobby?

i wouldnt stalk him. i just want him to learn to keep his word

[Kamorynth]

3 years into a relationship, you have some right to be able to sit down and discuss why you'd like him to come home, lets say by midnight. Whats so wrong about spending some quality time with you before you two go to bed? Maybe you should let up if you do it too often, but considering he's given you reason to have trust issues, he's just being immature if he won't consider your feelings at all.

[MarmeeXnoir]

Honestly it sounds like you need to grow up and learn to trust your boyfriend. If you're so insecure about what he's doing then maybe you should sit down and talk to him about your feelings. But don't treat him like a little kid by telling him he has a curfew to be home by.


And just because you don't feel the need to have social life doesn't mean that he shouldn't have one either.

[littlemandi123]

we have discussed it many times. so many that im tired of it and he is to.

[Kachoot]

He already has a mother,he doesn't need two.

You need to stop being so controlling,let him come home when he wants to...damn. neutral

[littlemandi123]

MarmeeXnoir

Honestly it sounds like you need to grow up and learn to trust your boyfriend. If you're so insecure about what he's doing then maybe you should sit down and talk to him about your feelings. But don't treat him like a little kid by telling him he has a curfew to be home by.


And just because you don't feel the need to have social life doesn't mean that he shouldn't have one either.

well that i ask him what time will you be home and he says ill be home at 11 then it 1am and idk where he is and he doesnt answer. and if he does hes angry.

we both decided to focus on school and us and not have a social life. so i put my friends to the side and he didnt. and we talk and talk about it but he never says anything back. i can talk to him forever and he wont say anything. so i never know how he feels

[littlemandi123]

Kachoot

He already has a mother,he doesn't need two.

You need to stop being so controlling,let him come home when he wants to...damn. neutral

thats the only thing he tells me. and then he will say ok ill change and make things work and he will do it for one week and go back to how he was

[Kunoichiban]

Why not take an interest in his "car meets" and ask if you can come along?

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