being transgendered (please hear my story)

let me know that you've read my story. (please respond too)

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[Natsu5]

A few months ago, i had an epiphany. I found the answer to who i really am inside. I realized that i am transgendered. After thinking about it, i alwways have been, it's just taken me so long to finally realize it. I love women's clothing, i've always wanted to act like a girl without people thinking i'm gay. Girls who act like guys are considered as tomboys to everyone while boys who act like girls are considered gay. It's messed up.

The two friends that i've told were very supportive of me. My dad forced me to tell him what was the matter and he didn't believe me. My mom wasn't supportive like i thought she would be. in fact, she found out by invading my privacy by reading my msn e-mails. i was going to tell them in a few days later anyway. My sister is the devil's daughter and would give me hell for the rest of my life if she ever found out.

my mom is going to send me to a counseler to have me convinced that i was wrong all along and that i really am a guy. She asks questions like, "Why do you think you're transgendered?". it's very hard to explain. it could take me forever to think about what i would say and even longer and harder to say it.

i'm just heartbroken. my mom, who i thought would be the most supportive, can't accept the fact that her only son is really a girl on the inside. society in general doesn't accept people like me. i'm not gay or anything, i actually like girls even though i am one on the inside.

this thread has been going on for a while, so please respond to the first entry in my journal.

[Sadie ANOREXIC]

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[Erotophonophilia]

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*hugs* sad
I know how that feels. I told my dad I happen to be asexual and he got duper upset over it. Dx
But thank goodness for friends, as long as you have them y'know? heart

[Natsu5]

thanks for the support so far. at least i know who said yes on the pole. i always knew that my friends would be more supportive than my parrents. parrents just don't get it.

[Nephrastar]

http://www.gaiaonline.com/guilds/index.php?guild_id=6465

This guild is very helpful, a friend of mine is in it and although it's not terribly active, the people there are extremely kind.

If you like, I could tell my friend about you, she's very willing to help anyone.

[tiny sapling]

Erotophonophilia

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*hugs* sad
I know how that feels. I told my dad I happen to be asexual and he got duper upset over it. Dx
But thank goodness for friends, as long as you have them y'know? heart

that's ridiculous, why would a parent be upset over something like that?


and I hate how they always assume it's because there's something "wrong with you"

I was watching part of a short documentary about asexuality and this "expert sex therapist" was going on about how all asexuals are afraid of intimacy because they had ******** up childhoods, and how they need to be "fixed"

anyway I don't really know how to express my support, natsu, but I hope your family members get the hell over it and realize it isn't doing them any harm

[Natsu5]

that would be great nepha. could you do that for me? and i'll look at the guild in the morning. it's getting kinda late here.

[An Emotional King]

If you're interested in a guild invite to a place where people actually help with problems give me a pm, I'll have one of the mods send you an invite.

[Captain Kieran]

I feel ya man. I have many feminine traits myself in real life. I keep a brush in my locker to maintin my hair, and I don't usually wear the manliest of body sprays (I like apple mango personaly)So I get called a f** and whatnot. Anytime you wanna talk, just PM me, you've my full support.

[Perpetual_Malcontent]

Sorry to hear your mom isn't as supportive as you like. You have to be who you are and in time she will hopefully come around.

[Lexia_Starr]

I'm not being unsupportive, believe me, I love trannies, but I think you should try actually living as a woman for a while before you decide you actually are transgendered. There are a lot of people who think they are, but once they start living as the other gender they start to realize they don't fully want to change, they just prefer to be identified as and/or identify with that gender more than there one.

Where do you live? Is there a prominent community of trannies, drag queens or transvestites in your area that you can go to for help, support and advice?


Off topic: Just last night I watch the Tyra Show episode with the tranny beauty pageant contestants. They're all so cool! A couple of them were sooo pretty.

[Alcohol and Altar Boys]

I hate parents who can't be supportive
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[Metaphorically Inaccurate]

You are who you are.
No one can say otherwise. No one knows us better than ourselves.
Whatever you chose to do, those who are true to you will be by your side.
I may not 'know' you personally, but believe that I will support you.
If you need advice, or whatever, just PM me and I'll try my best to help

[Natsu5]

i've heard that before to live like a woman first. i will try it but i first need to actually move out of the house. the only reason i don't get a place of my own now that i'm graduated from high school is because of the gas prices, cost of housing, the drought we have this year. everything is so expensive here. as for groups, i need to research to see if there are any nearby.

[Pupfang]

Good luck with your newly-realized gender status.

A counselor could be good for you. Might be able to help you put your understanding of your state into words that can successfully communicate it to others. Might be able to validate your gender indentity to your mother. Might help out with any number of confusing points you may encounter in your own thoughts, or those of others.

Just make sure the counselor is actually qualified to work with a transgendered client. Ask about their education, there experience working with transgendered people, and just how many transgendered people they have worked with. If the counselor doesn't satisfy you, demand a better one.