Kartos
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- Posted: Sat, 09 Apr 2005 17:47:15 +0000
Im a girl by the way, this is to protect my identity sweatdrop
Alright, I think this is going to be long so bear with me.
I have a boyfriend, we have been together for a year, I am crazy about him, but my mother keeps telling me to dump him, because he is no good for me and that he is going to drag me down. Now at first I wasn't bothered by this, but recently I have been thinking to myself, my mom has been right and helped me make the right desicions so far, is this one any different?
My boyfriend::
He doesn't work, he's applied for jobs but they all say no, he dropped out of school because he was very disrespectful to teachers and refuses to be told what to do. - This goes for me too, he wont do anything I tell him to.
He is planning to go to college next year, but he quits almost everything, so I'm not sure he will stick with it.
He lives with us, but of course with no job he doesn't earn, and my mother is getting angry having to look after 3 children instead of just me and my brother.
He has a best friend, he visits there nearly every other day, if not sooner, to hang around with him and play games and such, sometimes I think he wishes he swang that way so he could marry him.
He went into town to look for a job and didn't come back for hours, I got worried because we live in a bad area and tried to ring him, only to find out he was at his friends, of course I was steamed but carried on, I said that we were going to go eat that evening (i have mentioned it many times) and he replies "ring me when you want me back". So he has no intention of coming back to see me, but to eat.
These are only little problems to me, other then that he is caring, he buys me thing when he can, he makes me happy, he looks after me and protects me and I've grown very attatched to him, so I don't want to leave him.
Summed up: Hes a bum with no job, always visits his best friend, he is unreliable, he has no qualifications for a job. But he is kind and caring and looks after me and I don't want to loose him, I want to stick by him until he has a job and a car etc. It just... doesn't look like its happening any time soon. My mom is telling me to ditch him,because she thinks he wont be able to provide for me in the future and will only leech off me.
Fellow gaians, what do I do? Do I listen to my derranged mother? Or do I stay with who I love and help him go to college, get a job etc.? What would you do in this situation? I'm not a strong, confident person. I need help. Thanks.
Update on page 3
Alright, I think this is going to be long so bear with me.
I have a boyfriend, we have been together for a year, I am crazy about him, but my mother keeps telling me to dump him, because he is no good for me and that he is going to drag me down. Now at first I wasn't bothered by this, but recently I have been thinking to myself, my mom has been right and helped me make the right desicions so far, is this one any different?
My boyfriend::
He doesn't work, he's applied for jobs but they all say no, he dropped out of school because he was very disrespectful to teachers and refuses to be told what to do. - This goes for me too, he wont do anything I tell him to.
He is planning to go to college next year, but he quits almost everything, so I'm not sure he will stick with it.
He lives with us, but of course with no job he doesn't earn, and my mother is getting angry having to look after 3 children instead of just me and my brother.
He has a best friend, he visits there nearly every other day, if not sooner, to hang around with him and play games and such, sometimes I think he wishes he swang that way so he could marry him.
He went into town to look for a job and didn't come back for hours, I got worried because we live in a bad area and tried to ring him, only to find out he was at his friends, of course I was steamed but carried on, I said that we were going to go eat that evening (i have mentioned it many times) and he replies "ring me when you want me back". So he has no intention of coming back to see me, but to eat.
These are only little problems to me, other then that he is caring, he buys me thing when he can, he makes me happy, he looks after me and protects me and I've grown very attatched to him, so I don't want to leave him.
Summed up: Hes a bum with no job, always visits his best friend, he is unreliable, he has no qualifications for a job. But he is kind and caring and looks after me and I don't want to loose him, I want to stick by him until he has a job and a car etc. It just... doesn't look like its happening any time soon. My mom is telling me to ditch him,because she thinks he wont be able to provide for me in the future and will only leech off me.
Fellow gaians, what do I do? Do I listen to my derranged mother? Or do I stay with who I love and help him go to college, get a job etc.? What would you do in this situation? I'm not a strong, confident person. I need help. Thanks.
Update on page 3