- Posted: Thu, 03 May 2012 18:46:36 +0000
My father is impervious to logic. He's turning 59 on Monday, and so the topic of retirement came up. He wants to retire at 60, mainly because my highly autistic brother, who is turning 19 in December, stops getting schooling when he turns 21. My dad wants to be able to take full-time care of him in our home. However, this just isn't realistic. I'm in college and my brother is still in diapers, which, for those of you who don't know, cost an arm and a leg. We also have many other expenses, such as loan payments, regular bills, and the day-to-day expenses. My dad is a single parent and only makes about 50k a year, so we live from week to week as it is. We are always struggling with money. I tried explaining to my dad that retiring so soon is in the worst interest of the family, but he refuses to believe that's the case. He thinks the exact opposite - that retiring in a year is in the best interest of the family. My dad also suffers from paranoia and hasn't taken medication for it in over twenty years. His paranoia stops him from receiving care people for my brother that we are entitled to. As I mentioned, my dad's also turning 60 and he's getting older. My brother, even though autistic, is a tall, sturdy young man, and will soon be able to overpower my father, if he can't already. But no matter how much you try to talk to my father, and try to reason with him, he refuses to believe anything but the thoughts already in his mind. He is going to seriously hurt this family if he goes along with his plan, and I don't know how to stop him.