Abuse?

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Hello there Gaians. I'd just like to thank you in advance for your replies and help.

What happened

Already on a daily basis, I believe my mother mentally/emotionally abuses me. For example, I had recently put some red colored Sunny Delight in the fridge. I heated up some Pizza Rolls and had a seat at the table. I accidentally, keyword, accidentally spilled some on my grandma's old chair cushion. I quickly made an effort to clean it off. The stain wouldn't come out. I eventually gave up and knew she had seen it. I went for a walk to my grandparents only to get a phone call for her to ask me to come clean it. I came home, took my boots off and rushed to the laundry room. She had a bucket filled with hot water and specifically pointed at laundry detergent, stain remover, and bleach...This is where I begin to have a problem. It sounded as if she said to mix all three with the hot water, so I did. I don't know how to use bleach honestly so I didn't know it would ruin it even more. She came in to see me pouring the bleach into the mixture of solutions and she said, "I hope you're not putting bleach in there, that'll ruin everything!" I told her in a calm tone that I must've misheard her and she went crazy. She told me I had to use all my birthday money to buy a new table set and chairs. I knew I didn't have enough so I found it rather funny because she knew I only had the 10 dollars she had given me (it was my birthday a few days back). She told me to put the chair into the garage and I did so. My good friend Marielle called and I answered the phone in her bedroom since it was nearest. Marielle asked if I could hang out with her, I told her I was grounded because of the incident. I asked how long I was and my mom replied, "THE REST OF YOUR LIFE." Also, some words she spoke to me as I cleaned the chair were: "You a** you ruin everything!" "You careless b*tch."
Things I hear on a regular basis:
"You're not related to me."
"You piece of s**t."
"F*ck you c*nt."
"You're so lazy."
"All you do is sit on your a** all day."
and many more I do not feel like listing. I was wondering if any of this is considered abuse. It makes me feel horrible about myself. I have to deal with incidents like this on a regular basis. Also some physical contact too. She sometimes would hit me on the back of my head fairly hard. Thanks again Gaians.

[Volrezzo]

That does sound pretty abusive, and I'm very sorry. Did she ever give you bruises by any chance? If you have proof of this (at least if you need it) and if you're under 18 you might want to look into child protective services. It may also help to tell a school counselor about it, as they may be able to offer more help than I can.

[zoe_owen1]

yeahh that is abuse if youd like a professional opinion childline is free if ur frm america itsprobs called something els. she shouldnt speak to you like that id consider moving out

[Polina Oksana]

Sounds like a abuse to me.
I mean, for Christ's sake's, it's just a chair cushion. It sounds like she's bullying you for other things she's going through in her life. I think next time she does it, you should stand up to her and confront her. Ask her why she is behaving in such a way and tell her that if she continues to act this way, you're going to have to resort to contacting the law or moving out.

[Kaname_Is_Here]

Punch her....


LOL.


It sounds like she's a depressive, who's taking her boring lonely, s**t life out on you, like it should somehow be your fault. Is there anyone else you can stay with? Other family memebers? Anyone like that?
xx

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Thank you for all the replies and great advice everyone. No, I can't move out. As I'm under 18. I don't have any bruises either...maybe some advice on how to be happy with being grounded all the time? I'm starting to think something's wrong with me, like I'm the one who's being abusive towards her but I'm not sure.

[Volrezzo]

DuskDancer

Thank you for all the replies and great advice everyone. No, I can't move out. As I'm under 18. I don't have any bruises either...maybe some advice on how to be happy with being grounded all the time? I'm starting to think something's wrong with me, like I'm the one who's being abusive towards her but I'm not sure.

Nothing is wrong with you, if you have a friend to talk to about, that might help a lot. It may benefit you to be reassured that you aren't doing anything wrong. As for being grounded the best thing to do is try to find a hobby you can do in your room, where you won't cause trouble. Although if she does keep abusing you, you may want to at least let someone, a school counselor, the authorities, someone know that it's happening.

[Doctor g r a c i e]

Shoot her

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Volrezzo

DuskDancer

Thank you for all the replies and great advice everyone. No, I can't move out. As I'm under 18. I don't have any bruises either...maybe some advice on how to be happy with being grounded all the time? I'm starting to think something's wrong with me, like I'm the one who's being abusive towards her but I'm not sure.

Nothing is wrong with you, if you have a friend to talk to about, that might help a lot. It may benefit you to be reassured that you aren't doing anything wrong. As for being grounded the best thing to do is try to find a hobby you can do in your room, where you won't cause trouble. Although if she does keep abusing you, you may want to at least let someone, a school counselor, the authorities, someone know that it's happening.

Thank you so much. You have been a great help! 3nodding

[iDream version 2]

Any reason as to why this abuse has been happening recently? Lost her job, lost a family member, etc.? That might help you find a solution perhaps.

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iDream version 2

Any reason as to why this abuse has been happening recently? Lost her job, lost a family member, etc.? That might help you find a solution perhaps.

Well, it's been getting worse ever since she has had to stop working because of her medical conditions. There was still abuse before though.