Wife Still Cannot Have Sex With Husband After 9 Years

[Pachilo]

Michaela and James Reece from Australia have made headlines for their online appeal to raise treatment funds for her vaginismus, which they say has meant they've not had 'pain-free' sex for the 9 years they've been married.

On their Go Fund me page, the couple share how they 'fell madly in love' when they first met but have since been able to enjoy full intercourse. Michaela was first diagnosed with Vaginismus after experiencing what she described as 'excruciatingly pain' the first time she tried to have sex with her husband during their honeymoon. Read their story below...

Married 9 Years... Can't Make Love.

Hi, our names are Michaela and James.

What we are about to share with you will make you friends so you might as well call us Mickey and Jimmy smile

We are a couple that have been married 9 years and we have never had (pain-free) sex.

Jimmy made a decision at the age of 14 that he would wait for his wedding night to have sex with his wife. We met, fell madly in love and dated and waited for 21 months before we got married (the waiting was SO HARD!).

As you can imagine, we were VERY excited for our honeymoon (Jimmy was 25 and a virgin - and Mickey couldn't wait to jump him *hee hee*).

Imagine our heartbreak when sex was excruciatingly painful - to the point of impossible - and ended up in infection. This has been our reality ever since sad

Three years and MANY specialists and mis-diagnoses would pass before we would FINALLY be given a name for this condition.

Vaginismus/vulvodynia.

An involuntary muscle spasm which causes any penetration to be excruciatingly painful.

We'd never heard of it.

In our 9 years of marriage we have tried every therapy, specialist and treatment that we can in Australia (having also travelled to Perth and Adelaide and all over Brisbane) but to no avail. At our wits end we'd given up.

It has broken us. Brought us to tears. And eventually became a thing we just didn't talk about.

Until now.

Recently Michaela discovered a vaginismus support page on Facebook where other women with this condition have been 'fixed'. This place - our last resort - is in New York and is called the Women's Therapy Centre (see YouTube clips below). We've been in touch with them and they think they can help.

The treatment and travel cost is going to cost about AU$25,000 but we're hoping to raise AU$15,000.

Our 10 year anniversary is coming up in December this year. It'd be lovely if THIS was the year that we could be together in 'that way' for the first time.

We have booked a 2-week block at the WTC in NY for treatment in October this year. They have a 95 % success rate... PLEASE HELP US RAISE THE FUNDS.

Thank you for your support and understanding. (We hope you can appreciate that this hasn't been an easy situation to share).

Cheers
Mickey and Jimmy

Source: http://www.naijazine.com/2015/03/wife-still-cannot-have-sx-with-husband.html

[PantheaMarlon]

I wonder how the procedure is done?

[azulmagia]

Have they tried a**l, by any chance?

[Unknown Lifeform Brett]

Or oral?

I'm sure it sucks for them that they can't have sex, but they shouldn't be trying to get other people to fund their trip to the US for treatment.

If they can't afford to pay for the full trip and treatment themselves, then they should just suck it up and wait until they can. It's wrong for them to ask strangers to pay for them to have sex.

If vaginal sex hurts so much, there are other ways for them to get their jollies off. They should look into those options if having sex is so important to them.

[Asuia]

Awh. ):

[FirstBornTripletZack]

Elemental Rhythm

Or oral?

I'm sure it sucks for them that they can't have sex, but they shouldn't be trying to get other people to fund their trip to the US for treatment.

If they can't afford to pay for the full trip and treatment themselves, then they should just suck it up and wait until they can. It's wrong for them to ask strangers to pay for them to have sex.

If vaginal sex hurts so much, there are other ways for them to get their jollies off. They should look into those options if having sex is so important to them.

I like how you suggest they have oral sex and then use the terms "sucks for them" and "suck it up" but you are correct, no one should have to fund them for their treatment. It is not a life threatening condition. Now if one of them needed an operation and was going to die without it then it would be different, but this operation is not something that can save their lives.

[Pho Far East]

Lol, oh wow. is anyone really helping these people get laid with no pain? Kudos for the husband for being faithful though, right?

[Unknown Lifeform Brett]

FirstBornTriplet

Elemental Rhythm

Or oral?

I'm sure it sucks for them that they can't have sex, but they shouldn't be trying to get other people to fund their trip to the US for treatment.

If they can't afford to pay for the full trip and treatment themselves, then they should just suck it up and wait until they can. It's wrong for them to ask strangers to pay for them to have sex.

If vaginal sex hurts so much, there are other ways for them to get their jollies off. They should look into those options if having sex is so important to them.

I like how you suggest they have oral sex and then use the terms "sucks for them" and "suck it up" but you are correct, no one should have to fund them for their treatment. It is not a life threatening condition. Now if one of them needed an operation and was going to die without it then it would be different, but this operation is not something that can save their lives.

Lol! xd I didn't even think of that! Good catch.

And yeah, if she had cancer or something and needed money to help pay for chemo, I'd gladly open up my wallet for her. But while sex is awesome, it's not a necessity in life. She can live a long, full life without vaginal sex, so I'm keeping my wallet firmly closed in this case.

[MarigoldMari]

Wonder if her condition prevents her from being able to conceive children the natural way. I wonder, if this is the case, if they mentioned that people would have been more willing to open their pockets.

[A mali]

They are literally getting people to pay for sex! eek

[Faustine Liem]

PantheaMarlon

I wonder how the procedure is done?

If it is anything like the surgery my great grandma had for cancer down there, it would probably entail cutting away muscle, or severing the nerve that controls that muscle. I've seen commercials about it in fact, maybe for stuff like bladder mesh stuff, or transsexual stuff, but still. I can go ask a doctor or two... or rather the surgeon. Hmmm would he know about it?

((sometimes it benfits having nurses as parents))

[David2074]

Elemental Rhythm

Or oral?

I'm sure it sucks for them ....

I see what you did there. rofl rofl

[MegaTurkey]

PantheaMarlon

I wonder how the procedure is done?

Faustine Liem

If it is anything like the surgery my great grandma had for cancer down there, it would probably entail cutting away muscle, or severing the nerve that controls that muscle. I've seen commercials about it in fact, maybe for stuff like bladder mesh stuff, or transsexual stuff, but still. I can go ask a doctor or two... or rather the surgeon. Hmmm would he know about it?

((sometimes it benfits having nurses as parents))

That's a bit radical, remember it's not cancer that's the issue! Treatment will be a combination of conventional techniques such as gradual desensitisation - insertion of vaginal dilators slowly increasing in size, step by step until the partner's fingers and then ultimately, his p***s can be introduced - as well as more personalised approaches in therapy and counselling, guidance and education for both partners. What they will be paying a premium for in visiting a particular clinic is the one-to-one time with professionals they get as part of their treatment plan. Also bear in mind they have to include flights, accommodation and living expenses in their cost. No surgical procedures should be involved.

[MegaTurkey]

MarigoldMari

Wonder if her condition prevents her from being able to conceive children the natural way. I wonder, if this is the case, if they mentioned that people would have been more willing to open their pockets.

The problem isn't infertility but rather a painful muscle spasm on attempted penetration, or not allowing penetration at all, so they can't conceive simply because they can't have sex. I suppose you could get round the problem with just intrauterine insemination but then again as I'm sure you know, as do they in the article, the ability to have sex is a crucial part of a healthy, happy life.

[ChocolateXCheese]

MarigoldMari

I'm sure you know, as do they in the article, the ability to have sex is a crucial part of a healthy, happy life.

Well, at least for people who are allosexual.