Pirupi
David2074
Unfortunately the shop owners I spoke to were not going by ignorant assumptions but rather basing their opinions on observations over time. On at least one occasion I was present to witness some of what formed their opinions. Not that they necessarily thought all Americans are exactly the same any more than all folks from any country. But they did grow to expect some things to be more likely than others. On the whole I was typically more polite than average so I was probably at the other end of the spectrum from what they had some to expect.
That's often the case, though, because of confirmation bias and the fallacy of composition. People have the same ideas about people of
different people for the same reasons. I've only personally known one such person who spoke at length about their biases, but they justified their beliefs based on their observations too. Bad experiences and the like. It was sad.
The thing that gets to me isn't the bias, it's that they were rude enough to comment on their own biases. It's like a backhanded compliment. Like, "Wow, you're really non-violent for a man." I'm certainly more cautious around men, but not because I actually believe they are bad people, and I would never say something that degrades their gender by saying, "It's so nice that you're not like the others." If I did,
I would be the one who's acting like a jerk.
I get what you are saying but in fairness I think the comment was based on feelings brought to the surface by another American there at the same time who was being a bit of an a**. And I can't remember if it was the same incident or not but stuff like there was this pretty fat American who was both a bit rude and was wearing a t-shirt that said "World's largest supply of natural gas". A real class act. It's been a lot of years but so my memory of the specifics is hazy but I don't recall being particularly offended at the time due to the circumstances. Plus the person who said it was quite nice to me.
I can recall other times where the bias was not verbalized but was obvious in other ways. I found those situations more offensive but fortunately I didn't experience too many of them. Two dozen or so countries and my experience was mostly that if you are kind and respectful of other people they treat you the same.