WishingTreeCreation
Mountain Baby Roses
Haha! Yeah, Jake(my husband) has his moments which is nice. But he treats me right like a queen sometimes and I'd rather that then "lovey" actually. "Lovey" won't last. But "loving" and taking care of each other, and seeking one another.... That's where it's at. i believe If your husband is still seeking you after the wedding bells... You're going to-be just fine.
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I couldn't agree more.
So, I have a question/need advice if anyone can help me out. Actually, maybe I just need some reassurance...I don't know. I've been feeling really down lately because I've had to work so much to pay all the bills. My husband and I both work night shift and have to sleep durring the day, but as Piper (our baby) has gotten older, that's been harder and harder. We've started leaving her with my husband's mom in the morning for several hours so we can sleep (otherwise it's pretty much impossible to get through work the next day) then go pick her up. But I feel like I'm still not getting to spend much time with her. I'm looking for another job right now so that I can work durring th day and sleep at night with her, but in the meantime, I'm getting kind of depressed and I feel like I'm a 'bad mom' I guess. I'm working so that I can take care of her obviously, but I hate that I don't get to spend as much time with her and it makes me feel awful. Any suggestions or words of advice?
Hmmm...
1st off
emotion_hug everything is going to be OK. No you are not a bad mom because you work. Bannish this thought from your mind anytime it comes up! If your motives are pure,(which it seems to me it is, otherwise you wouldn't be asking for help,) you are doing great!
2nd) hmmm...Let's put it this way, just because I am a stay at home mom, doesn't mean I spend quality time with Anna Rose...I still have to seek out that time to play with her, to read to her, and so on. And my opinion, honestly... I don't think that you sleeping with her during the nights going to fix much. I mean you're both asleep...your still not really spending time with her, and it also might form an attachment that she needs you in order to sleep So naps during the day will be hard, and an attachment may last till she's older too. And I can't see daddy liking that haha!
3rd. allot of the things that are going through my mind I'm guessing you have already thought about. I know the economy is rough right now, but it doesn't feel that way to us I guess because Montana is kind of ...doing really great actually. Haha! (Ever consider moving to Montana? Haha! )
.....where was I going with that........Oh! Have you looked into jobs that wasn't So demanding of your time and energy? like a part time job? Or maybe somewhere you could bring her to work with you like a daycare?
Also do you and your husband have a budget written out? This will do wonders( if you stick to it) and I know you might be thinking "blah! Budgets are too strict or structured for me" well, that's why YOU get to plan it ^_^ but if you haven't done it yet, you maybe surprised at how much you are spending on something you really don't need and once you cut down on a couple things you can afford to have a part time job.
I highly recommend Dave Ramsey's Financial Institute program thingy.(official title) he is funny, and it is really insightful. my husband and I are not in any kind of debt now, and his "emergency fund" has helped us out allot of times.
....I hope this helped....