That feel when you were gone for three years and thousands of items were added that you know nothing about...
I was pretty miffed when I first saw all of these items and couldn't find their names anywhere, but all you really have to do is narrow your search parameters to what you are looking for.
For instance, If you wanted to find the shirt that I am currently wearing:
1. Go to the marketplace
2. Change the filter to "tops"
3. Adjust the price floor and ceiling based on what the avi is wearing (Floor=1000000 Ceiling=5000000)
4. Items that can be worn on your torso that are between 1Mil and 5Mil will be displayed, all you really have to do is look.
This method takes a little bit of time, but it ultimately results in you finding what you are looking for.
Gaia took the time to make a list of tags for every item, so even a vague search will show you what you are looking for, just don't expect the pose your are looking for to be the thumbnail.
I have my equipped list hidden just to make the people who legitimately hide their lists angry, but I am always happy to tell anybody what I have equipped in a PM.
Heck, I'd just go to tektek, hit the Dream Avatar thing, and sort by black tops. It's worked more than a few times.
I admit that I have mine set to hide too but I had an issue with someone on my friends list constantly mimicking me and trying to start crap in forums dressed like me. If you want to know what my avi is wearing, feel free to ask. I really don't mind. I love getting messages and starting conversations with random people. That's what a social site is for. I don't think you should ever be afraid to message someone.
Well, is not only the reason of being stole, but the fact, there's still people with "wannabe" issues and I guess that thinking a lot about certain outfit and then see another with the same, do offends.
And as many have suggest you always have the option to comment or Pm the person and gently ask as a fast way.
I'd never had a rude response for asking as well never had give a rude response for getting them.
I've also had my avatar copied before. And if you really think this is a case of unwarranted self-importance, think of the audacity that comes with your feeling ENTITLED to know the origin of every pixel on me. It goes both ways.