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Honestly I see that kind of thing more on tumblr than anywhere else, which is funny because you can basically get away with anything short of child porn on that website, making it sort of a bizarro 4chan. The *amount* of screaming that happens if you tell a joke or disagree with someone on that website.

It's unfortunate if that's spread to Gaia, which actually *does* have a working system of consequences, sort-of. There is nothing on this planet that I hate more than censorship. I do not believe that I should have to temper my language in order to avoid hurting the feelings of a total stranger on the internet. I barely temper my language to avoid hurting the feelings of people I actually know and like IRL, and somehow people online think this is, like, a right? ******** you, go away. I hope people who are that buttsensitive ignore me.


i kinda overlook that a**hole nature in people b/c it's not worth getting upset about. When you have a mother like mine, it's harder to be hurt by strangers. I kinda say whatever and then realize that I might've been too harsh.


:> You bring up an interesting point. My family's always been made up of piss-takers and assholes. So going into an environment where not everybody grew up needing a thick hide I tend not to notice when I'm upsetting someone until I already have, and then I tend not to feel that bad about it because I grew up dealing with worse.


it's really bad when your mother makes it a point to put you down in front of others and ruins your first impression on someone who you wanted to impress. I grew up with everybody putting me down, i don't actually expect strangers to be nice to me.


The depressingest thing is this is actually a pretty good survival tactic :V hooray pessimism?

I mostly just expect people to be annoyed by me, so it's a pleasant surprise when they're actually charmed by my roguish nature. I feel like saying what you mean gets you the *right* kind of friends, but not as many of them.


Hey- you got me. u 3u
I easily count for 50.

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50 might be selling yourself short?? biggrin
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:> You bring up an interesting point. My family's always been made up of piss-takers and assholes. So going into an environment where not everybody grew up needing a thick hide I tend not to notice when I'm upsetting someone until I already have, and then I tend not to feel that bad about it because I grew up dealing with worse.


it's really bad when your mother makes it a point to put you down in front of others and ruins your first impression on someone who you wanted to impress. I grew up with everybody putting me down, i don't actually expect strangers to be nice to me.


The depressingest thing is this is actually a pretty good survival tactic :V hooray pessimism?

I mostly just expect people to be annoyed by me, so it's a pleasant surprise when they're actually charmed by my roguish nature. I feel like saying what you mean gets you the *right* kind of friends, but not as many of them.


Hey- you got me. u 3u
I easily count for 50.

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50 might be selling yourself short?? biggrin


It was a conservative estimate. u _u
For real though we're so ******** cool I don't know how our eyelids don't freeze shut
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I'd also like to add that kids aren't being taught how to fail and get back up. We're protecting them from so much. Playgrounds have changed so much just to prevent injuries. There's so many things that kids aren't learning and it's really causing our society to suffer.


          Exactly, because they're getting passed on and never giving the opportunity to fail, by their own parents who go through and fix their homework before it's handed in no less, they'll never learn from their mistakes and go through life thinking they have more talent in school and sports than they really do. The moment a teacher actually fails them or they don't automatically get an A they run home to mom and dad crying that their teacher hates them when they really don't. It's become a society of enabling not true and actual learning.

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I wouldn't call my ability to ignore someone, who deserves to be
on my own personal ignore list because of how incredibly rude and ridiculous
they act towards me, used because I'm weak or thin-skinned. I don't use it
lightly. Any ******** on my ignore list earns their spot there. It's very rare.

You can't tell tone from the internet because they are written words. Those
are up for interpretation. The beauty of being a human is the fact that we
can interpret things differently. It's good and bad since it leads to stupid
misunderstandings, etc. But yeah. I'm brash and I don't give a s**t.

People need to grow balls on the internet. In a way it's sort of like
real life too.. people misinterpret the dumbest s**t and then cry about
it. People need to grow balls irl too, I think. emotion_donotwant Everyone isn't
going to be there to hold your hand through things, you know?
Honestly, if something on the internet annoys someone enough then
they can just distance themselves from it or hit the ignore button.


the rats in the c e l l a r you know who you are
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I don't mind stronger moderation, but it doesn't seem to be evenly applied. I still see a LOT of stuff that I find absolutely disgusting floating around, but I believe you guys when you say you've been warned over trivial things. I've had people flip out at me for being nice to them. I don't understand how someone can invent insults where there are none, but apparently some people can. Worst. Superpower. Ever.

I don't think I'm ignoring anyone, and if anyone's ignoring me, I haven't noticed. I must just avoid the worst of it automatically.
People may be getting sensitive but I don't see that as a problem. I just think some people need to watch what they're saying.
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I think the general rule is that you can't say, "You're ******** stupid for selling your kidneys for RIGs," but you can say, "Selling your kidneys for RIGs is ******** stupid."

The problem about sensitivity arises when people misinterpret the latter for a personal attack.
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There's an old saying:
"Life is a grindstone; whether it grinds you down or polishes you up depends on what you're made of."

I think you need a certain degree of maturity to use the internet these days.
Not just to be a good person yourself, but to be able to stop and consider the meaning behind someones words.
Of course, personal attacks still happen, and you have to just learn to shrug them off and not descend to their level.

I heard that they are considering adding "netiquette" to the national curriculum here in the UK.
Sadly, cyber bullying is on the rise, and some of the younger kids can become really messed up because of this...
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Sir Black Tea
I think the general rule is that you can't say, "You're ******** stupid for selling your kidneys for RIGs," but you can say, "Selling your kidneys for RIGs is ******** stupid."

The problem about sensitivity arises when people misinterpret the latter for a personal attack.
Green-Tea you took what I was going to type and made it perfect.

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Did you know that bullying is actually a survival mechanism?

So, we're predatorious pack omnivores.

Basically, what all groups come down to, especially groups of men, are hunting packs. If one member of the pack is illiciting poor group behavior, it would have literally been life or death to weed that out of them for early man. Thus, bullying.
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Are they more sensitive? I think it's more that people realise that they can do something about being trolled? I do think that misunderstanding the meaning behind what's been said is a part of the problem as well so people who aren't good at interpreting what's been said go way off the handle and misinterpreted something as derogative rather than just a turn of phrase. Also, there's been a steady decrease in manners as people are exposed to the net at a younger and younger age, there's a general sense that because it's the net it somehow there's a dissociation between reality and often people forget that t's another person on the other side. (Purely, anedotal observation)

In the same vein, it isn't just Gaia either there are a lot of instances where employees have said silly things about colleagues or customers causing most workplaces to make you sign workplace regulations stating that you're not allowed to discuss work related matters online.
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I completely agree with that. It's really easy to say the wrong thing here lately or last 5 years give or take. It's gotten to the point I worry if I'll get in trouble for saying an unpopular opinion. Honestly if someone tells me off I find it amusing, I much prefer direct communication to passivity. Though I do wonder if people use the state of affairs as both sword and shield. That is what mainly concerns me.
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The world mostly just wants to put up a big child friendly zone around all of the internet.
Best to do it since we do not want parents moaning about their kids feelings being hurt now do we?

I see it all the time....Parents who moan and cry because their kids on Facebook saw some swear words or had someone say something mean to them.
Then that parents story shows up in news websites all over the world.

It does not help when troll facebook pages for example get put into the media and of course no one understands that the page is just a troll page and was just created to get people angry.

Anyway, if parents today think that the internet is to horrible for their kids just because someone was a bit mean to them, then they do not know how horrible the internet can be.

I remember the days on Gaia of shock images, porn dumps and the most horrible of all was a script which made IE windows pop up over and over again while the song "You are a idiot" played and each window which came up had a shock image inside it. Normally that script would crash my computer with the blue screen of death (Back in 2004)
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It's weird, today i learned someone ignored me and i really liked this person. i kinda want to know why i'm ignored. i know i come off harsher than i mean to be, i never type things properly.

I think eventually it happens to everyone on here.
And sometimes people put "ignore-locks" on you, like, they'll ignore you for 3 days and then gone, which I find stupid. Most of them don't really have any good reason, or they actually act before they think.

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