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What gives you the right to be so judgmental? I know, I know... Anonymity and nobody will know who you are, but damn, show a little decency and respect.

You and your bigotted "friends" are not the only people who come here to enjoy themselves, and you just might be, you know, affecting their ability to enjoy this site. Yeah, yeah, you don't give a s**t.

So... Spoons:

What are some of the most bigoted and judgmental things you have witnessed on Gaia? Careful about your choice of language though! ninja

Do you notice that people judge you based on how your avi is dressed, items you use/buy for it, forums you post in, or other personal preferences you have?

I realize that this happens all over the Internet and Gaia is not unique, but do you find that it happens more or less here than on other forums/Internet handouts (excepting places specifically created for this purpose. We won't go there)?

Do you think the Gaia mods and admins do a good job of policing/preventing this sort of behavior?

Do you think that you might have done this sort of thing before, even unintentionally?

Are there places on Gaia that you avoid because this sort of behavior is worse there than elsewhere?
The constitution gives me the right to be so judgmental. Technically it gives me the freedom to be so judgmental but it's almost the same thing.

I don't have to be a decent person nor do I have to be a respectful person. In fact, you imposing your beliefs upon me is far worse than any opinion I could hold and/or show. If you take offense to something that I or my friends (btw, 'bigot' is an offensive term and you shouldn't toss it around lightly) do or say why don't you tell them about it and see if you can reach an understanding rather than whining about it on a message board to a bunch of people who aren't involved in an attempt to garner sympathy from them? Have you ever considered that by not being able to say or do what I want MY enjoyment of the site may be compromised? Why is it that you being able to enjoy yourself at the expense of my enjoyment is alright but not the reverse?

It's been a pretty long time since I've been on Gaia but this topic strikes me as entitled and judgmental while also holding onto that false sense of righteousness and indignation that so many 'activists' use to justify their attempt to violate the rights and freedoms of others.

People usually don't judge me based on my avatar, at least not to my knowledge. Generally they judge me based on my communicated thoughts or actions. Interestingly, this is actually vital to the survival of any society so I'm not sure why you seem to be using the term 'judging' with such a negative connotation.

As I have mentioned, I have not been on Gaia in a long time so I lack the expertise to compare the amount of judgments that occur here versus the amount of judgments that occur in or around other online communities.

Yes, I have judged people. Many times it has been intentional. For example, based on your post I have already made a rather unflattering judgment on your beliefs, developmental level and how much I like you on an overall level. I think perhaps a better question is 'does anyone believe that they have never judged a person online before?' or, if you wanted to appear less cynical, 'is there anyone here who hasn't judged a person online before?'.
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I think the judgemental part of the net you see is just part of human nature. We as people judge each other bakers on looks, the way We talk, the cars We drive, our age etc. Online We don't see faces or hear voices, We see avis and read text. It's when people take things too far that I think its a problem. Outside the net We can call these actions hate crimes online though it typicaly gets called trolling. Which fourms your in well Verry the trolling you see. In places like chatter box the trolls there get a kick out of just being trolls. In places like art they go to bash avis. In the fan based fourms the go to bash the show/manga/music/fans etc. As for the worst I've seen it was on a topic of gay narrate where one user was so against it they activly harrassed people who didn't argree with there side on the topic.
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I think the judgemental part of the net you see is just part of human nature. We as people judge each other bakers on looks, the way We talk, the cars We drive, our age etc. Online We don't see faces or hear voices, We see avis and read text. It's when people take things too far that I think its a problem. Outside the net We can call these actions hate crimes online though it typicaly gets called trolling. Which fourms your in well Verry the trolling you see. In places like chatter box the trolls there get a kick out of just being trolls. In places like art they go to bash avis. In the fan based fourms the go to bash the show/manga/music/fans etc. As for the worst I've seen it was on a topic of gay narrate where one user was so against it they activly harrassed people who didn't argree with there side on the topic.
The term 'hate crime' gets tossed around a lot but it's actually a lot more severe than you think. Being a Canadian I only have the Canadian criminal code to go by but their definition of 'hate crime' (which they term 'hate propaganda') actually requires the victims to be identifiable groups. Specifically based on "colour, race, religion, ethnic origin or sexual orientation" (interestingly, this seems to exclude gender. I guess that's a different crime then?).

I believe that this topic is primarily about elitists or people who harass you (as an individual) because they are anonymous. Bullying is not a hate crime. In fact it isn't a crime at all. I believe that the youth of today (ages 13 to 30, being generous) are taught that 'if you take offense to something it is wrong and the person who offended you should be punished' which is a childishly juvenile outlook on life.
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I think the judgemental part of the net you see is just part of human nature. We as people judge each other bakers on looks, the way We talk, the cars We drive, our age etc. Online We don't see faces or hear voices, We see avis and read text. It's when people take things too far that I think its a problem. Outside the net We can call these actions hate crimes online though it typicaly gets called trolling. Which fourms your in well Verry the trolling you see. In places like chatter box the trolls there get a kick out of just being trolls. In places like art they go to bash avis. In the fan based fourms the go to bash the show/manga/music/fans etc. As for the worst I've seen it was on a topic of gay narrate where one user was so against it they activly harrassed people who didn't argree with there side on the topic.
The term 'hate crime' gets tossed around a lot but it's actually a lot more severe than you think. Being a Canadian I only have the Canadian criminal code to go by but their definition of 'hate crime' (which they term 'hate propaganda') actually requires the victims to be identifiable groups. Specifically based on "colour, race, religion, ethnic origin or sexual orientation" (interestingly, this seems to exclude gender. I guess that's a different crime then?).

I believe that this topic is primarily about elitists or people who harass you (as an individual) because they are anonymous. Bullying is not a hate crime. In fact it isn't a crime at all. I believe that the youth of today (ages 13 to 30, being generous) are taught that 'if you take offense to something it is wrong and the person who offended you should be punished' which is a childishly juvenile outlook on life.


It might be a differance as I am in the united states?

Acctualy in the us some states have passed laws on bullying where a child could be sent to a juvinial detention facelity for a limited amount of time if the billing is excessive and is causing harm to the victim. Tipicaly phsyical how ever mental harm that could lead to the other child suffering mentaly. The problem is its up to the schools to enforce this and wall some are prone to call the police for little things others don't at all. But all the same that topic aside. When I ment hate crime I ment "color, race, religion, orintation etc." Gender isn't played into it? Hmm that its self is interestting but it might be considered sexual harrasment though that doesn't seam to fit yet at the same time it does.
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It might be a differance as I am in the united states?

Acctualy in the us some states have passed laws on bullying where a child could be sent to a juvinial detention facelity for a limited amount of time if the billing is excessive and is causing harm to the victim. Tipicaly phsyical how ever mental harm that could lead to the other child suffering mentaly. The problem is its up to the schools to enforce this and wall some are prone to call the police for little things others don't at all. But all the same that topic aside. When I ment hate crime I ment "color, race, religion, orintation etc." Gender isn't played into it? Hmm that its self is interestting but it might be considered sexual harrasment though that doesn't seam to fit yet at the same time it does.
I will plead ignorance towards practices in the United States.

It is rare to see online 'trolls' or 'flamers' actually advocating hatred against an identifiable group. Generally they just insult the individual or small [un]identifiable group present in the forum/message board/chat room/wherever. This is, of course, wrong from a moral perspective but it would take an awful lot for it to be a criminal offense.
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It might be a differance as I am in the united states?

Acctualy in the us some states have passed laws on bullying where a child could be sent to a juvinial detention facelity for a limited amount of time if the billing is excessive and is causing harm to the victim. Tipicaly phsyical how ever mental harm that could lead to the other child suffering mentaly. The problem is its up to the schools to enforce this and wall some are prone to call the police for little things others don't at all. But all the same that topic aside. When I ment hate crime I ment "color, race, religion, orintation etc." Gender isn't played into it? Hmm that its self is interestting but it might be considered sexual harrasment though that doesn't seam to fit yet at the same time it does.
I will plead ignorance towards practices in the United States.

It is rare to see online 'trolls' or 'flamers' actually advocating hatred against an identifiable group. Generally they just insult the individual or small [un]identifiable group present in the forum/message board/chat room/wherever. This is, of course, wrong from a moral perspective but it would take an awful lot for it to be a criminal offense.


Another thing to take into account is you can't track down the person who did it if it Got out of hand. Just think of how many use a computer? You can track the location but you can't moniter who it was on it at that moment in time. That said "tripping" or "flaimming" can get to the point where a person or group of people are targetting a racail, gender, sexual orientation etc. Of a group or person but at that point its best to find a site mod and report the incendent and hope it doesn't happen again.
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Those who say it's human nature that we're judgemental, and don't get along...stop. Most of our behaviours are socialised since we were young. From movies, internet, parents, teachers, shopping, wherever. People learn that they don't have to be decent to the lady that shops at WalMart, because it's funny to laugh at her body frame, her clothes, make assumptions about her parenting, etc. People learn that it's ok to feel self-entitled to make jokes about race and sex, because they are high-fived by like-minded people. I even do it myself about certain jokes because of popular memes, and other such jokes that my friends and I share.

On the internet I think it goes both ways, people complain to people, other people complain about those people. We all can see our own points of view so well...wait what am I even talking about anymore?

Actually let me seperate my first statement a bit. Judging someone in itself isn't wrong, it's that we usually see it paired with hurtful statements that makes us hate judging. Like, is it really so wrong to disagree with people and say so? Anything further that, name-calling, whatever, is wrong. It happens, very often, but no.

On Gaia, I've learned to stay away from certain areas, not because I don't enjoy being in them, but because I can't stand the way certain users to talk to each other, about each other, and anything else really.
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I don't see the big deal here.

Someone acts like a d**k, put them on your ignore list.

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What gives you the right to be so judgmental? I know, I know... Anonymity and nobody will know who you are, but damn, show a little decency and respect.

You and your bigotted "friends" are not the only people who come here to enjoy themselves, and you just might be, you know, affecting their ability to enjoy this site. Yeah, yeah, you don't give a s**t.

So... Spoons:

What are some of the most bigoted and judgmental things you have witnessed on Gaia? Careful about your choice of language though! ninja

Do you notice that people judge you based on how your avi is dressed, items you use/buy for it, forums you post in, or other personal preferences you have?

I realize that this happens all over the Internet and Gaia is not unique, but do you find that it happens more or less here than on other forums/Internet handouts (excepting places specifically created for this purpose. We won't go there)?

Do you think the Gaia mods and admins do a good job of policing/preventing this sort of behavior?

Do you think that you might have done this sort of thing before, even unintentionally?

Are there places on Gaia that you avoid because this sort of behavior is worse there than elsewhere?
The constitution gives me the right to be so judgmental. Technically it gives me the freedom to be so judgmental but it's almost the same thing.

I don't have to be a decent person nor do I have to be a respectful person. In fact, you imposing your beliefs upon me is far worse than any opinion I could hold and/or show. If you take offense to something that I or my friends (btw, 'bigot' is an offensive term and you shouldn't toss it around lightly) do or say why don't you tell them about it and see if you can reach an understanding rather than whining about it on a message board to a bunch of people who aren't involved in an attempt to garner sympathy from them? Have you ever considered that by not being able to say or do what I want MY enjoyment of the site may be compromised? Why is it that you being able to enjoy yourself at the expense of my enjoyment is alright but not the reverse?

It's been a pretty long time since I've been on Gaia but this topic strikes me as entitled and judgmental while also holding onto that false sense of righteousness and indignation that so many 'activists' use to justify their attempt to violate the rights and freedoms of others.

People usually don't judge me based on my avatar, at least not to my knowledge. Generally they judge me based on my communicated thoughts or actions. Interestingly, this is actually vital to the survival of any society so I'm not sure why you seem to be using the term 'judging' with such a negative connotation.

As I have mentioned, I have not been on Gaia in a long time so I lack the expertise to compare the amount of judgments that occur here versus the amount of judgments that occur in or around other online communities.

Yes, I have judged people. Many times it has been intentional. For example, based on your post I have already made a rather unflattering judgment on your beliefs, developmental level and how much I like you on an overall level. I think perhaps a better question is 'does anyone believe that they have never judged a person online before?' or, if you wanted to appear less cynical, 'is there anyone here who hasn't judged a person online before?'.
i don't mean to be that guy, but your constitution argument irks me.

Gaia is not the united states of america. Gaia has its own set of laws called the Terms of Service.

The constitution shouldn't really play in here. You know, unless gaia was like oppressing us or something.

I don't know why this bothered me, but it did.

Back to your regularly scheduled discussion.
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When I first came to Gaia seven years ago it was a case of constant judgement. Then I grew up, got wise and became more articulated than them ... They can't argue with good grammer.
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What gives you the right to be so judgmental? I know, I know... Anonymity and nobody will know who you are, but damn, show a little decency and respect.

You and your bigotted "friends" are not the only people who come here to enjoy themselves, and you just might be, you know, affecting their ability to enjoy this site. Yeah, yeah, you don't give a s**t.

So... Spoons:

What are some of the most bigoted and judgmental things you have witnessed on Gaia? Careful about your choice of language though! ninja

Do you notice that people judge you based on how your avi is dressed, items you use/buy for it, forums you post in, or other personal preferences you have?

I realize that this happens all over the Internet and Gaia is not unique, but do you find that it happens more or less here than on other forums/Internet handouts (excepting places specifically created for this purpose. We won't go there)?

Do you think the Gaia mods and admins do a good job of policing/preventing this sort of behavior?

Do you think that you might have done this sort of thing before, even unintentionally?

Are there places on Gaia that you avoid because this sort of behavior is worse there than elsewhere?
The constitution gives me the right to be so judgmental. Technically it gives me the freedom to be so judgmental but it's almost the same thing.

I don't have to be a decent person nor do I have to be a respectful person. In fact, you imposing your beliefs upon me is far worse than any opinion I could hold and/or show. If you take offense to something that I or my friends (btw, 'bigot' is an offensive term and you shouldn't toss it around lightly) do or say why don't you tell them about it and see if you can reach an understanding rather than whining about it on a message board to a bunch of people who aren't involved in an attempt to garner sympathy from them? Have you ever considered that by not being able to say or do what I want MY enjoyment of the site may be compromised? Why is it that you being able to enjoy yourself at the expense of my enjoyment is alright but not the reverse?

It's been a pretty long time since I've been on Gaia but this topic strikes me as entitled and judgmental while also holding onto that false sense of righteousness and indignation that so many 'activists' use to justify their attempt to violate the rights and freedoms of others.

People usually don't judge me based on my avatar, at least not to my knowledge. Generally they judge me based on my communicated thoughts or actions. Interestingly, this is actually vital to the survival of any society so I'm not sure why you seem to be using the term 'judging' with such a negative connotation.

As I have mentioned, I have not been on Gaia in a long time so I lack the expertise to compare the amount of judgments that occur here versus the amount of judgments that occur in or around other online communities.

Yes, I have judged people. Many times it has been intentional. For example, based on your post I have already made a rather unflattering judgment on your beliefs, developmental level and how much I like you on an overall level. I think perhaps a better question is 'does anyone believe that they have never judged a person online before?' or, if you wanted to appear less cynical, 'is there anyone here who hasn't judged a person online before?'.
i don't mean to be that guy, but your constitution argument irks me.

Gaia is not the united states of america. Gaia has its own set of laws called the Terms of Service.

The constitution shouldn't really play in here. You know, unless gaia was like oppressing us or something.

I don't know why this bothered me, but it did.

Back to your regularly scheduled discussion.

Actually, the ToS IS kind of like a Gaia "constitution" in a way, if you think about it. But yes, we are not subject to the US Constitution here. The owners and admins are completely well within their right to make their own rules and governing "laws" that would dictate how we are to behave in here. If the Constitution held sway, cyberers would not be banned because that is also a form of "free speech." xp
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What gives you the right to be so judgmental? I know, I know... Anonymity and nobody will know who you are, but damn, show a little decency and respect.

You and your bigotted "friends" are not the only people who come here to enjoy themselves, and you just might be, you know, affecting their ability to enjoy this site. Yeah, yeah, you don't give a s**t.

So... Spoons:

What are some of the most bigoted and judgmental things you have witnessed on Gaia? Careful about your choice of language though! ninja

Do you notice that people judge you based on how your avi is dressed, items you use/buy for it, forums you post in, or other personal preferences you have?

I realize that this happens all over the Internet and Gaia is not unique, but do you find that it happens more or less here than on other forums/Internet handouts (excepting places specifically created for this purpose. We won't go there)?

Do you think the Gaia mods and admins do a good job of policing/preventing this sort of behavior?

Do you think that you might have done this sort of thing before, even unintentionally?

Are there places on Gaia that you avoid because this sort of behavior is worse there than elsewhere?
The constitution gives me the right to be so judgmental. Technically it gives me the freedom to be so judgmental but it's almost the same thing.

I don't have to be a decent person nor do I have to be a respectful person. In fact, you imposing your beliefs upon me is far worse than any opinion I could hold and/or show. If you take offense to something that I or my friends (btw, 'bigot' is an offensive term and you shouldn't toss it around lightly) do or say why don't you tell them about it and see if you can reach an understanding rather than whining about it on a message board to a bunch of people who aren't involved in an attempt to garner sympathy from them? Have you ever considered that by not being able to say or do what I want MY enjoyment of the site may be compromised? Why is it that you being able to enjoy yourself at the expense of my enjoyment is alright but not the reverse?

It's been a pretty long time since I've been on Gaia but this topic strikes me as entitled and judgmental while also holding onto that false sense of righteousness and indignation that so many 'activists' use to justify their attempt to violate the rights and freedoms of others.

People usually don't judge me based on my avatar, at least not to my knowledge. Generally they judge me based on my communicated thoughts or actions. Interestingly, this is actually vital to the survival of any society so I'm not sure why you seem to be using the term 'judging' with such a negative connotation.

As I have mentioned, I have not been on Gaia in a long time so I lack the expertise to compare the amount of judgments that occur here versus the amount of judgments that occur in or around other online communities.

Yes, I have judged people. Many times it has been intentional. For example, based on your post I have already made a rather unflattering judgment on your beliefs, developmental level and how much I like you on an overall level. I think perhaps a better question is 'does anyone believe that they have never judged a person online before?' or, if you wanted to appear less cynical, 'is there anyone here who hasn't judged a person online before?'.
i don't mean to be that guy, but your constitution argument irks me.

Gaia is not the united states of america. Gaia has its own set of laws called the Terms of Service.

The constitution shouldn't really play in here. You know, unless gaia was like oppressing us or something.

I don't know why this bothered me, but it did.

Back to your regularly scheduled discussion.

Actually, the ToS IS kind of like a Gaia "constitution" in a way, if you think about it. But yes, we are not subject to the US Constitution here. The owners and admins are completely well within their right to make their own rules and governing "laws" that would dictate how we are to behave in here. If the Constitution held sway, cyberers would not be banned because that is also a form of "free speech." xp
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What gives you the right to be so judgmental? I know, I know... Anonymity and nobody will know who you are, but damn, show a little decency and respect.

You and your bigotted "friends" are not the only people who come here to enjoy themselves, and you just might be, you know, affecting their ability to enjoy this site. Yeah, yeah, you don't give a s**t.

So... Spoons:

What are some of the most bigoted and judgmental things you have witnessed on Gaia? Careful about your choice of language though! ninja

Do you notice that people judge you based on how your avi is dressed, items you use/buy for it, forums you post in, or other personal preferences you have?

I realize that this happens all over the Internet and Gaia is not unique, but do you find that it happens more or less here than on other forums/Internet handouts (excepting places specifically created for this purpose. We won't go there)?

Do you think the Gaia mods and admins do a good job of policing/preventing this sort of behavior?

Do you think that you might have done this sort of thing before, even unintentionally?

Are there places on Gaia that you avoid because this sort of behavior is worse there than elsewhere?
The constitution gives me the right to be so judgmental. Technically it gives me the freedom to be so judgmental but it's almost the same thing.

I don't have to be a decent person nor do I have to be a respectful person. In fact, you imposing your beliefs upon me is far worse than any opinion I could hold and/or show. If you take offense to something that I or my friends (btw, 'bigot' is an offensive term and you shouldn't toss it around lightly) do or say why don't you tell them about it and see if you can reach an understanding rather than whining about it on a message board to a bunch of people who aren't involved in an attempt to garner sympathy from them? Have you ever considered that by not being able to say or do what I want MY enjoyment of the site may be compromised? Why is it that you being able to enjoy yourself at the expense of my enjoyment is alright but not the reverse?

It's been a pretty long time since I've been on Gaia but this topic strikes me as entitled and judgmental while also holding onto that false sense of righteousness and indignation that so many 'activists' use to justify their attempt to violate the rights and freedoms of others.

People usually don't judge me based on my avatar, at least not to my knowledge. Generally they judge me based on my communicated thoughts or actions. Interestingly, this is actually vital to the survival of any society so I'm not sure why you seem to be using the term 'judging' with such a negative connotation.

As I have mentioned, I have not been on Gaia in a long time so I lack the expertise to compare the amount of judgments that occur here versus the amount of judgments that occur in or around other online communities.

Yes, I have judged people. Many times it has been intentional. For example, based on your post I have already made a rather unflattering judgment on your beliefs, developmental level and how much I like you on an overall level. I think perhaps a better question is 'does anyone believe that they have never judged a person online before?' or, if you wanted to appear less cynical, 'is there anyone here who hasn't judged a person online before?'.
i don't mean to be that guy, but your constitution argument irks me.

Gaia is not the united states of america. Gaia has its own set of laws called the Terms of Service.

The constitution shouldn't really play in here. You know, unless gaia was like oppressing us or something.

I don't know why this bothered me, but it did.

Back to your regularly scheduled discussion.

Actually, the ToS IS kind of like a Gaia "constitution" in a way, if you think about it. But yes, we are not subject to the US Constitution here. The owners and admins are completely well within their right to make their own rules and governing "laws" that would dictate how we are to behave in here. If the Constitution held sway, cyberers would not be banned because that is also a form of "free speech." xp
Yup and I could say "MOTHER ********" on neopets.

Yep, too true. The "constitution" arguement is weak.

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