I think we all agree you misused the word "pay to play" but I understand where you're coming from. It's more like you have to pay to enjoy the site more on a whole. Not a whole lot of people will acknowledge you if your avatar isn't worth a whole lot or if you can't put a decent cheap outfit together. When I came back with my old avi (which is considerably "cheaper" now) not a lot of people would reply to me in forums or talk back to me in towns. Ever since I got it updated more people have approached me and I've made more friends. Not sure if coincidence or fact tho? I remember seeing someone on a different forum make fun of an avatar arena winner because he/she used gold shop shoes. Imo that was so rude and out of place, and surely made me feel bad since I use gold shop items myself. Sure I'm still not worth "a lot" of gold these days and it gets depressing not only cause lots of people can afford to look downright amazing compared to you, but a lot of threads focus on discussing gcash items whether it be item discussion, vending, etc. As someone who has never bought gcash or been lucky enough to earn enough gcash from the daily videos (y u no work?? and why don't I ever get those ad prizes emotion_donotwant ) I feel out of place participating in them.
Imo it's not so bad that I'm going to turn away from Gaia. It's just a lot harder to earn gold. But booty grab, daily chance, and dumpster dive (which I literally do as often as possible - I've gotten some awesome things from it) all help a ton. If your quest isn't hard, why quest at all you know? It's half the fun. Only complaint is that you have to constantly watch the marketplace to be able to get good at earning gold. A lot of us don't have time cause of work & inrl priorities. It's a bummer but you deal.