Sooo...you best relate to a char with low end autism and mommy issues?
I think you missed the point of people giving you a gift. And receiving them, to a certain extent.
Probably because I HAVE low end autism myself?
I guess my outlook is a result of environment... My family doesn't go in for gifts, holidays, showing affection, or even spending time with each other.
Also, I hate the false social niceties and so-called holidays that have lost their meaning and become commercialised...
But mostly, I'm just too proud to accept handouts. (Must be a latent masculine trait...)
Sure you do, buddy.wink Just like everyone else with social interaction issues.
But the topic is not about umbrella diagnosis from the armchair or a slacker doctor.
If you hate the commercialism of it, fine, then make it something meaning to you, not brush it all under the rug.rolleyes
But the topic is not about your personal disenfranchisement and tight pockets.
It's about being anon gifted, and the possible ensuing complaints and lack of thanks given. And since you have it turned off, you opinion seems to be the 'head in the sand' approach. Which is your call.
Gifting is cool. I have a list in my profile listing every gift I've gotten and names if applicable.
However, faeries/elves/anons giving stuff that amounts to inventory trash feels like an insult. If something comes with a creative message it's all good, but someone gifting trash anon is abusing the system.
The only thing I don't like about Anon gifting is how over-saturated the events get with them. It just loses any meaning.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets really discouraged by people's attitudes towards gift giving when events roll around. For Christmas, I can kind of understand it, but it's still a little strange to see people grubbing for gifts and posting constantly in the gift giving threads.
I don't expect gifts, and when I get them, even if it's something objectively terrible, I'm still thankful that someone thought enough of me to give me something.
Haha I got a bunch of ocean tops this Christmas. But as you can see in my siggy, I'm collecting them I'm quite glad. XD
As for the topic of thankfulness of gifting, I can understand not being overjoyed with getting paper or bugs. That's not really giving from yourself, unless you put a clever message with it. I love a good joke if it's well intentioned.
The only time I got bothered by that, was when I gifted someone something from a quest in their sig and their response was unexpectedly indignant. Or at least dismissive.
I didn't buy the most expensive item on their list, so it was probably a bit of a downer that they didn't get something fabulous. It was more that they didn't mark it on their quest signature at all that kind of irked me then. Nowadays it's a bit silly to think of XD
I still see that user around. Not that I'm stewing about it, but I don't think I'd buy them anything.
In my experience, I get always happy just to see the little message in my inbox. Some of my favorite anons have been inexpensive but very funny or thoughtful items.
For instance, once someone gave me a necklace from Agathas that matched perfectly my outfit, and I absolutely loved it. Or this year, the undies anon was also one of my favorites.
To me, it is about making someone happy by giving them a small surprise. Like other people said, just the fact that someone thought of you is really nice and puts a smile on your face.
I disagree with the OP though, in the sense that I believe there are a few unspoken rules about anonymous gifting. Most gaians, myself included, do not think it should be used instead of dumpster dive. (If someone wants to get rid of daily chance or game items, for instance, it is not hard to go to CB, Game Exchange or any other informal forum and make a thread offering any or all of it. There are always happy takers, people whose day you are actually making a little brighter by doing that.)
And also, it is a pity when people do anon gifting to annoy others, because cmon, life is short, why bother with that sort of thing. Instead of going after people we dislike, we should focus on those we actually like blaughheart
Merry Christmas everyone!! And thank you very, very much, whomever you are!!emotion_hug
I never know how to thank for anon gifts. This year I got gifted a lovely MC by an awesome anon, but I had no idea what to do. I changed my sig, but that doesn't feel like enough. Should you make a random chatterbox post in thanks?
I could get gifted something worth 1g and I still get excited. The fact someone sent me anything is always nice. Hell, I even appreciate the ones occasionally with not so nice messages lol.
That's why I hate unappreciative people though. I used to love "Gift the Person Above You" threads but have since quit since they keep raising minimums. I always try to gift 100k+ but it should be about the giving, not how expensive the items are.
I've come to learn I don't like anon-gifting as much. I like when people key-smash me silly messages. lol And the last few people I anon'd didn't acknowledge it in anyway which made me sad.
My biggest peeve is no wishlist though. How can you want nothing? emotion_donotwant