Your "racial" preference IS racist, and here's why

[Comrade Kotka]

Jessi Danger

Comrade Kotka

Joan Darr

Yeah. Men's penises can be real fussy jerks.

Because penises too are utterly disconnected from the socialised brain. D: You're probably being facetious but whatever.
BTW, vaginas can totally have preferences informed by racism too.

Are peoples sexual preferences completely socialized? Could we socialize people for example to find only handicapped or other people sexually attractive? Or people with severe health issues?

I don't think they're completely socialised; that is why I said 'informed by'.
However, when you have a situation where many people across races have a demonstrable preference for one and/or an obvious aversion to another you have to think 'what could this be?'. And then you look at beauty standards and get a bit of a clue. Then you look at racist society in general.

[Joan Darr]

Comrade Kotka

Joan Darr

Yeah. Men's penises can be real fussy jerks.

Because penises too are utterly disconnected from the socialised brain. D: You're probably being facetious but whatever.
BTW, vaginas can totally have preferences informed by racism too.

So, really? The standard is now set where the only people undeserving of radical accusations and contempt are those that are permanently flaccid/frigid to prove that they're wholly indiscriminate? Really?

[logan the god of candy]

Op focuses on black's and situations unique to them. that does not translate with other races.

so homosexuals are sexist now?

[Comrade Kotka]

Joan Darr

Comrade Kotka

Joan Darr

Yeah. Men's penises can be real fussy jerks.

Because penises too are utterly disconnected from the socialised brain. D: You're probably being facetious but whatever.
BTW, vaginas can totally have preferences informed by racism too.

So, really? The standard is now set where the only people undeserving of radical accusations and contempt are those that are permanently flaccid/frigid to prove that they're wholly indiscriminate? Really?

I actually haven't a clue what you mean by this. Are you saying that someone, upon investigating where their attraction comes from, then must never sleep with anyone again? And also, that it's impossible to change?
...yep, confused.

[Joan Darr]

logan the god of candy

Op focuses on black's and situations unique to them. that does not translate with other races.

so homosexuals are sexist now?

Heterosexuals too. So it's okay to call everybody a sexist. You encounter a bisexual, accuse them of faking it and call them sexist anyways. Social justice at work.

[logan the god of candy]

Joan Darr

logan the god of candy

Op focuses on black's and situations unique to them. that does not translate with other races.

so homosexuals are sexist now?

Heterosexuals too. So it's okay to call everybody a sexist. You encounter a bisexual, accuse them of faking it and call them sexist anyways. Social justice at work.

stupidity and a bad thread.


honestly, what ******** retard don't like chocolate p***y?

[Jessi Danger]

Comrade Kotka

Jessi Danger

Comrade Kotka

Joan Darr

Yeah. Men's penises can be real fussy jerks.

Because penises too are utterly disconnected from the socialised brain. D: You're probably being facetious but whatever.
BTW, vaginas can totally have preferences informed by racism too.

Are peoples sexual preferences completely socialized? Could we socialize people for example to find only handicapped or other people sexually attractive? Or people with severe health issues?

I don't think they're completely socialised; that is why I said 'informed by'.
However, when you have a situation where many people across races have a demonstrable preference for one and/or an obvious aversion to another you have to think 'what could this be?'. And then you look at beauty standards and get a bit of a clue. Then you look at racist society in general.

Is it a very real phenomena though? I will state that I have routinely used the "I don't find black guys attractive" excuse mainly when approached by men of the African American persuasion who aren't very attractive as a nice way of avoiding saying "Nah, you look like a troll" among other concerns.

It could be that black women drawn to the social justice sally-verse that exists on blogs, mainly tumblr and elsewhere, but whatever, are just generally not very pretty and thus there is a confirmation bias.

[Tacit Effigy]

People live on preferences and assumptions. They are parts of human life.

[Joan Darr]

Comrade Kotka

Joan Darr

Comrade Kotka

Joan Darr

Yeah. Men's penises can be real fussy jerks.

Because penises too are utterly disconnected from the socialised brain. D: You're probably being facetious but whatever.
BTW, vaginas can totally have preferences informed by racism too.

So, really? The standard is now set where the only people undeserving of radical accusations and contempt are those that are permanently flaccid/frigid to prove that they're wholly indiscriminate? Really?

I actually haven't a clue what you mean by this. Are you saying that someone, upon investigating where their attraction comes from, then must never sleep with anyone again? And also, that it's impossible to change?
...yep, confused.

Well, being equally appreciative of everyone by being always turned on is even less realistic than the other extreme because it's unhealthy (priapism/clitorism)

Therefore, with adopting these standards, impotence is desirable.

Do you sense a problem with that?

[Vixianna]

Trollzors Vader

You may have no preference, but not everyone is you. It's probably a good thing too, because that would actually get really boring, really quick.

Why? No really why? Why is it necessary that you have hard and fast rules on what race or ethnicity you date for your dating life to be "interesting"? Seriously.

It isn't as if I don't find NO ONE unattractive, because that isn't true. I do think some people are hotter than others. However, none of that falls along racial lines, along hair or eye color lines, along skin tone lines, ect. That is, there are plenty of men I find unattractive, but it has nothing to do with them being of X group type. It's usually something specific to their combination of features.(rarely is it one feature unless it's something BIG)

So if you could explain how having no specific hard and fast rules would make life "boring" please?

Trollzors Vader

Yes, a good personality can change an initial thought on someone, but physical attraction is a big part of human mating. That's a completely normal part of sexuality.

Yes, and I do find men sexually attractive. I am not asexual. And I do find some men not attractive. I'm also demi-romantic though, so my continued attraction to someone is based on more than their looks. That is, I'm not going to bang someone I find uninteresting, unintelligent, bad personality, ect. even IF I think their body is hot.

Example, I think Paul Ryan is very cute. He's also a goddamn misogynist idiot I wouldn't touch with a nine foot pole.

Trollzors Vader

Realizing who you are, and what is attractive to you is a normal part of your growth as a sexual being, and while you personally have no preference, you can't expect this of everyone.

Why not? I'm not asking people to think everyone(individuals) is equally attractive, and I'm not asking them to have no preferences, sexuality, or standards at all. As I DO find some men more attractive than others, and many unattractive at all.(I do have standards!) What I'm asking is that they don't cut out an entire demographic of MILLIONS or more based on the fact they are X ethnicity, without even taking a look at them. Or getting to know them. That's what I'm saying.

That's not unreasonable as a request, because having no "would never date" list isn't the same as having NO standard.

You are obviously racist above and beyond your dating preferences(your language comment gave you away), and so I'm not talking about people like you.

[Vixianna]

Joan Darr

Comrade Kotka

Joan Darr

Yeah. Men's penises can be real fussy jerks.

Because penises too are utterly disconnected from the socialised brain. D: You're probably being facetious but whatever.
BTW, vaginas can totally have preferences informed by racism too.

So, really? The standard is now set where the only people undeserving of radical accusations and contempt are those that are permanently flaccid/frigid to prove that they're wholly indiscriminate? Really?

>Implying that it's impossible to have NO racial preferences

Seriously, who the ******** ARE you people?

[Vixianna]

Jessi Danger

Comrade Kotka

Jessi Danger

Comrade Kotka

Joan Darr

Yeah. Men's penises can be real fussy jerks.

Because penises too are utterly disconnected from the socialised brain. D: You're probably being facetious but whatever.
BTW, vaginas can totally have preferences informed by racism too.

Are peoples sexual preferences completely socialized? Could we socialize people for example to find only handicapped or other people sexually attractive? Or people with severe health issues?

I don't think they're completely socialised; that is why I said 'informed by'.
However, when you have a situation where many people across races have a demonstrable preference for one and/or an obvious aversion to another you have to think 'what could this be?'. And then you look at beauty standards and get a bit of a clue. Then you look at racist society in general.

Is it a very real phenomena though? I will state that I have routinely used the "I don't find black guys attractive" excuse mainly when approached by men of the African American persuasion who aren't very attractive as a nice way of avoiding saying "Nah, you look like a troll" among other concerns.
It could be that black women drawn to the social justice sally-verse that exists on blogs, mainly tumblr and elsewhere, but whatever, are just generally not very pretty and thus there is a confirmation bias.

The information for this post came from OKCupid among other dating sites. So unless you posit ALL these black women on these dating sites just aren't attractive(and not the OKCupid stats made sure the data mining was from equally attractive users AS VOTED by other users) then you're point is really ******** moot.

[N3bu]

Very true. I try not to make generalisation about "racial characteristics" but it occasionally happens since my geographical region does not have an abundance of "black" people and thus do not have a lot of experience to draw on regarding how diverse they may be, I just try to assume that they are as diverse as anyone else.

In regards to human attractions, such statements are often made with regards to what would be media perpetrated generalisations likely due to a combination of a lack of experience or lack of care.

In regards to it being racist, yes it is, but in that same respect, society everywhere, in every culture and every place is completely racist. So I'm more interested in trying to not be that way personally then I am in going on some moral crusade to fix the world.

[Joan Darr]

Vixianna

Joan Darr

Comrade Kotka

Joan Darr

Yeah. Men's penises can be real fussy jerks.

Because penises too are utterly disconnected from the socialised brain. D: You're probably being facetious but whatever.
BTW, vaginas can totally have preferences informed by racism too.

So, really? The standard is now set where the only people undeserving of radical accusations and contempt are those that are permanently flaccid/frigid to prove that they're wholly indiscriminate? Really?

>Implying that it's impossible to have NO racial preferences

Seriously, who the ******** ARE you people?

>Doesn't actually care what people say and just reads whatever she wants to read when people talk

And who are you again?

[Vixianna]

Joan Darr

Comrade Kotka

Joan Darr

Comrade Kotka

Joan Darr

Yeah. Men's penises can be real fussy jerks.

Because penises too are utterly disconnected from the socialised brain. D: You're probably being facetious but whatever.
BTW, vaginas can totally have preferences informed by racism too.

So, really? The standard is now set where the only people undeserving of radical accusations and contempt are those that are permanently flaccid/frigid to prove that they're wholly indiscriminate? Really?

I actually haven't a clue what you mean by this. Are you saying that someone, upon investigating where their attraction comes from, then must never sleep with anyone again? And also, that it's impossible to change?
...yep, confused.

Well, being equally appreciative of everyone by being always turned on is even less realistic than the other extreme because it's unhealthy (priapism/clitorism)
Therefore, with adopting these standards, impotence is desirable.
Do you sense a problem with that?

What is it with people assuming that having no preferences for race, hair, eye, or skin color means you'll get a boner for ANYTHING?

There are other parts of the face and body to find attractive/unattractive you know that have nothing to do with hard and fast rules about arbitrary social groups. Just saying.

I don't get hot for everything, and I don't have a racial preference(remember this thread is about to the point of exclusivity), how ******** surprising.

Is it that hard for you to imagine not cutting out an entire group that you think people either have to have a perpetual boner or be completely slacked in order for it to work?