Queen of Mercury
If you were to pay attention to dates, you would see there is a lapse in responses, like now. Yes my initial comments were when I was online, hence them being closer together. Working 40 hours a week and then having other priorities outside of work tend to make one a busy person.
Which is fine -but let's be honest here. We both know your having an offline life's not the problem, nor was that ever implied to be the problem. My problem was you were using your social life as an excuse to both not to read the OP and mock me.
Queen of Mercury
I never said everyone who read all of it had no lives, I said you must not, given your insistence that a person
has to read every last word of the OP. Some days I am lucky if i have six hours of relaxation with my girl, and those are usually at night, when we try to work in some sexy time as well. The hectic schedule is going to last for a little while longer and then blessed relief because I'll have two of the other priorities gone. The joys of working full time. going to school full time, and having to do intern hours as well. C'est la vie. It'll be worth it. I read your post, you made little sense about 'those things' because you seemed to have completely misread, either accidentally or deliberately, what I'd said.
By saying I must not have a life because I took the time to read the OP, you're also implying that anyone else who did the same must not have a life either. That's the point on that matter. And once again, yes, if you're going to post in any forum like this (especially topics like this) you should read the entire first post is also another point. If you've got time to make a post in the thread when you haven't
even read all the subject matter then you should have been using that time to read it first. There really are no excuses. (see #3)
And finally I didn't misread, you split up my post and messed up the context.
Queen of Mercury
I did use those words, but as I'd said then and said again, and am saying yet again for the third time, it wasn't accurate, it was the only thing that popped into my mind.
Then.. why even say that?
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Queen of Mercury
No, just you, and that was me being bitchy, and I do apologize for it. That was a rough day and I was feeling snarky. That's no excuse to be nasty to a complete stranger.
Like I said abouve, it's a "by extension" thing. Aside from that...
Queen of Mercury
Well, you do realize that you're derailing it as well by responding this way instead of privately right?
And now i'm gonna side-eye you a moment here because that's some alarm-ringing, manipulation (and possible abuser logic) right there. And it's triggering me.
If you punch me in the face in public, i'm not going to drag you into the nearest bathroom/private area
and then get upset at you, no. I'm going to be instantly upset at you right there, on the spot -and for damned good reason. It is not my job as the person who got hit to take it with a chortle and invite you back to my apartment for tea away from the public eye,
it's your job not to have punched me in the first place. Period.
Failing that, your job is then to acknowledge what you did, own it and apologize -not shift the blame onto me in a attempt to place me as the bad guy, tone police me and control me all at once.
Queen of Mercury
Now, as for the OP, I have read a bit more of it, and I still say that all the links seem pointless to me when it would be fairly easy to give a brief explanation of what it meant with perhaps a photo to accompany, but I am a stickler for simplicity when I can get it so that is most likely my failing, not the OP's.
*shrug* like I said before, it's at the length that it is because:
- quite a few people wanted more in-depth explainations on certain terms
- too many people were blatantly missing the point (hell some still are)
And I could go into a rant on how no matter what the OP does when it comes to racial issues, the excuses of "there's not enough [x] it's too short!" and "it's too long!" are always gonna get flung... I'll leave it at that cause i'm too tired emotionally to bother right now.
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Queen of Mercury
Anywho, when I first started skimming the first post my initial reaction was 'Wow, she's talking about racism while coming off a bit racist herself'. But then I decided to ignore that the last time I was online and read a little more. I have done that again today, and I think I get where she was going with it. Those of us who haven't been subjected to racism (yes I admit I am of the 'privileged' race in the US), have a hard time seeing what she means, I think, at least some of us, because we don't
see it the same way. Not being subjected to blatant racism can be blinding. However, when I put this in a different pattern in my head, ie one based on sexual orientation, its a lot easier to 'get' it I suppose. I know they're not entirely the same thing, but it made my brain process it without going 'No, that's not true, she's just being a racist herself'. Its a sad and unfortunate thing that we all have a bit of discrimination inside us, no matter how much we may deny it. Our attitudes will convey it even if our words do not.
Forgive my rambling, I am running on three hours of sleep and have to leave in ten minutes so I am trying to get what is in my head written down before I forget it.
That said, ignoring the concept of personal attraction in dating, since this isn't technically about that even though it does come across in that way (again attitudes convey things that our words may not intend), that statements such as those in the first post are racist. If one applies a single characteristic, or a group of characteristics, to an entire ethnicity or race, based on the few they have come in contact with, then they are turning that entire race or ethnicity into a 'hive', so to speak. They are making them all carbon copies of each other, and that is certainly not true about any race or ethnicity. Everyone is different, there may be some characteristics a person finds unappealing on an individual, but that in no way means that everyone has that characteristic and to suggest otherwise while trying to hide behind the qualifier of 'what I have seen' is racist. Whether the person acknowledges it, embraces it, and then rids themselves of it, or not is their choice, but they have to come to terms with the fact that others will see them as racist behaviors.
Anywho, I have only a few minutes left so that is all I have time to say.
Again, my apologies for my previous snarkiness, and my apologies to the OP for derailing her thread. Here's hoping this post has made up for it at least a little bit.
[********] That's the bottom line, yeah.
I'm a bit confused here though,
Queen of Mercury
That said, ignoring the concept of personal attraction in dating, since this isn't technically about that even though it does come across in that way (again attitudes convey things that our words may not intend), that statements such as those in the first post are racist.
I'm not sure what you were trying to convey here...?
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