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I want kids because it will be an adventure.
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I don't want kids because I hate them and see no big deal over bringing them into the world. If I ever change my mind as I age and mature, I will adopt. I do not want biological children. |
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1: I like my disposable income
2: I have anger issues and don't have the temperament to deal with a kid. 3: I don't feel like showing up on Maury Povich or Sally Jessy, or any other talk show because my daughter feels like dressing like a slut and whoring around at the age of 10 |
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Elrin_02 I have no problems with the CF folks--some people are just not the parenting sorts, and that's totally understandable. Parenting is a LOT of work and a HUGE responsibility, and it's obviously not everyone's cup of tea anymore than being a lawyer or a pig farmer. The only thing that annoys me is when people move beyond their personal choices and begin actually discriminating against other people's children. For example, two Xmases ago, when my son was a mere 3 months old, we took him to my husband's office Xmas party, and all was well and good. He didn't cry, people loved seeing him, and we left when he got tired. This year, my husband's new company also had an Xmas party, but at this party, children and babies were not allowed. Orly? Do you allow blacks and Jews at your fancy upscale parties, or do you just discriminate against people based on age? Now, these people probably aren't even CF-ers. They just think it's appropriate to discriminate against children, while I think this is highly inappropriate. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- As for myself, I am quite fond of children, babies, teens, and people of pretty much all ages. I am especially fond of my own children, who are the best children in the entire world (yes, every parent thinks that about their own kids.) We currently have one toddler and one fetus, and in a perfect world, I think I'd like 8 kids, but who knows how things will go? My reasons for liking kids are fairly straightforward--evolution has primed me to reproduce and take care of my offspring. I don't think it's much more complex than that. My reasons for wanting so many are partly straightforward, and partly egotistic: my husband and I happen to think we have high quality genetics, and that our progeny will bless the planet with their existence. Honestly, this is what pretty much every parent thinks, but we've got the credentials to actually somewhat justify the belief. I dont see the issue with it. Most kids are not angels and can be nuisances when one is trying to host a party. It is proper etiquette to seek to make all of your guests happy, especially at a company affair, and children, ignoring yours of course, do not all behave in a manner that is conducive to adults or what adults want to interact with. Thus, a party where equals can be maintained is a perfectly fine request to make. You ought not take an issue with it. You also reproduce simply because you can? I love kids too, but forgive me if I find that thought alittle weird. |
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GunsmithKitten 3: I don't feel like showing up on Maury Povich or Sally Jessy, or any other talk show because my daughter feels like dressing like a slut and whoring around at the age of 10 Most of the kids I know aren't like that. Kids who are like that have largely their parents to blame. |
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I think that i need to keep my bloodline going. Also everybodys like having a kid is something special... I dont know I'll have one or two
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Kyoko Hanera I think that i need to keep my bloodline going. Also everybodys like having a kid is something special... I dont know I'll have one or two What is so special about your bloodline, in your opinion? What would the world be missing if it was allowed to end? |
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Botox Panda Kyoko Hanera I think that i need to keep my bloodline going. Also everybodys like having a kid is something special... I dont know I'll have one or two What is so special about your bloodline, in your opinion? What would the world be missing if it was allowed to end? Less genetic diversity? I don't actually think that matters. But I hear people say it all the time. |
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GunsmithKitten 1: I like my disposable income 2: I have anger issues and don't have the temperament to deal with a kid. 3: I don't feel like showing up on Maury Povich or Sally Jessy, or any other talk show because my daughter feels like dressing like a slut and whoring around at the age of 10 1.) I personally never got this one. Money to me only has meaning because of what it allows me to do. It in and of itself has no value to it. 2.) Really? I find that adults are not terribly different from children in most cases. 3.) Seems like you are kind of assuming you would suck as a parent. |
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Botox Panda Kyoko Hanera I think that i need to keep my bloodline going. Also everybodys like having a kid is something special... I dont know I'll have one or two What is so special about your bloodline, in your opinion? What would the world be missing if it was allowed to end? I dont agree with this as a reason myself, but I do have a particular like for my genetic traits. Good resistance to illness. Strong metabolism. Apposable toes. Dark Skin. The only things I think that are down sides is my elevated heart beat and my issues with acne when I was growing up. |
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Children take up too much time and money. I want to either be a librarian or run a cafe, and I don't think those jobs would get me a large amount of money (unless it was a Beverly Hills library and I was a supermodel/celebrity or if I had a really successful cafe). I want to be able to travel the world and collect swords. I don't want to drag a kid along to Japan or England or Africa, and common sense tells you that it's a bad idea to have weapons and small children in the same house. Kids are also a lot of work, and I don't want to have to devote my entire life to another person.
I don't want to go through labor pain, or have to go through 9 months of pregnancy with the morning sicknesses and such. Another reason I have is fear of raising my kids poorly... What if I don't take care of myself very well while I'm pregnant, and my kid is born very sick? What if he has Down's Syndrome or another serious mental illness that will make raising him harder and more expensive? What if the other kids make fun of him? What if he makes fun of the other kids? What if she gets pregnant, or he gets another girl pregnant? What if I turn my head for a few seconds and he gets hit by a car? The list goes on and on. I don't really understand many of the reasons people have their own kids, but I won't question or criticize them. I don't have the urge to have kids that many of my peers have, so I wouldn't understand that, but I won't question it. If I ever entered some alternate universe where I did want kids, I would adopt. First off, all of the kid and none of the morning sickness. What's not to love? Second, I could get a slightly older kid. What I don't like about babies is that they are completely helpless. Some people are good with taking care of such a young, needy creature, but I'm not. Third, I could give a kid who is already here a good home instead of bringing a new one into the world. That said, I have nothing against people who have their own kids, just as long as they don't pressure their viewpoints on people. I have been criticized by other people my age because I don't want children in the future. According to them, you're weird if you don't want to have 9 months of vomiting and stretch marks only to pop a helpless being out of your v****a... Although, I can understand a few of the reasons people would want their own kids (these are only the reasons I really understand. I don't really get why people want to have something with the same genetics and stuff, but hey, that's just me): Genetic history: You can learn your genetic history, but for some kids in the adoption system, you won't learn everything you could. Prenatal care: You would know what kind of prenatal care the kid is getting when it grows inside of you. You can make sure you give it enough nutrients and such, and avoid the bad things. However, you may not know if the mother of the adopted kid drank or did drugs during pregnancy that could result in negative effects later in the kid's life. The kid's biological parents: Some people are afraid that if they adopted a kid, the kid might abandon them as an adult to find their biological parents. There have been a few cases (very rare, though) where the biological parents track down you, the adoptive parent, so they can find their kid and try to take him back. Those instances are very rare, but since people hear about them they can still have that fear. To Elrin_02: Maybe they just wanted an adult party with no children getting in the way. It's not like they were saying you were an evil monster for having kids. Just because your kids are well behaved (kudos to you. It's annoying when parents don't control their kids) doesn't mean all of them are. When I have parties with my friends, I wouldn't like it very much if they had to bring young siblings along. |
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I am, for the time being, childfree. I say "for the time being" because I know I may eventually change my mind and want children. In some ways I do want children, because I want to raise and teach them. But the possible negatives I see are worse than the possible positives (at this point in my life).
First, I'm afraid of being a bad mother. Neglectful or abusive or something. I refuse to hold other people's children when they're small, because I'm afraid of harming the child. Second, I like having my freedom. My time is spent between myself and my boyfriend, and I like it that way. Third, my boyfriend doesn't want kids, and I don't want someone to claim that since I decided to have children without him, and since they're already his biologically, he has to pay for them. That would be unfair, and I could see members of my family intervening to do just that. I do know that if I were to become pregnant I would keep the child (not abort) but give the child to one of my boyfriend's friends, who cannot have children and is unable to adopt. I still would consider myself childfree after this, though, because I wouldn't be raising the child in any way. To me, the months carrying the child would be nothing more than me being a glorified incubator. *shrugs* |
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I'm terrified of childbirth, but I would like to adopt someday with my husband (I do want to get married 3nodding ).
My opinion will most likely change, but.. eh. Just the thought of squeezing a baby out of me makes me uncomfortable. |
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I hate kids and I would be a terrible parent.
I'm also afraid of childbirth and pregnancy and if for some crazy reason changed my mind, I would adopt a teenager. I hate babies. |
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I defintely want children, and the older I get the more that desire is growing, especially in the last year. I'm going to be desperate for kids by the time I'm 30 I think, if I haven't already had them.
I can't really explain why I want children, I just do. I guess it's biological instincts wanting to pass on my genes essential, but it's defintely not concious, as there's not anything really special in my family or anything. But I've always wanted kids. 2 kids namely, never have 3 children, at least not 3 of the same gender (I say that as one 3 girls). 4 would also be a good number, but I know I don't want that many personally. And I don't want to quit my job to have them, so will one day have to work out how to fit mine and my husbands jobs around them. I think it's totally unfair for the mother to be expected solely to fit her job around the family. I sort of have it planned out-I start work early, he starts his lates and makes them breakfast anddrops them off at school. I finish early, and pick them up for school and make dinner. Yes I am aware I totally get the better deal there xD Also aware might not work out that perfect either. |
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