Why do you/don't you want children?

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AloneAngel

Personally, I have a long list of reasons why.

I just wish that all of the childed respected the childfree decision.

There is a choice to have children... not everyone can or should have them.

I feel so sorry for the childless, as I'm sure every time someone asks about having children it hurts to hear. (Since they want children and can't, whereas the childfree choose not to.)

Still, society expects everyone to have children. Yet not everyone should, hence why we have so many abusive/neglecting parents.

This is a bold claim.


The younger generations seem to not want children, while older generations do, but that's simply because they're from an older generation.


Look around and you'll many people frown on Children.

[Kaosgirl]

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AloneAngel

Personally, I have a long list of reasons why.

I just wish that all of the childed respected the childfree decision.

There is a choice to have children... not everyone can or should have them.

I feel so sorry for the childless, as I'm sure every time someone asks about having children it hurts to hear. (Since they want children and can't, whereas the childfree choose not to.)

Still, society expects everyone to have children. Yet not everyone should, hence why we have so many abusive/neglecting parents.

This is a bold claim.


The younger generations seem to not want children, while older generations do, but that's simply because they're from an older generation.

The younger generations that allegedly do not want children are still only a small segment of overall society. And I say 'allegedly,' because those who truly want no children are themselves only a small portion of that generation.

There's still an overwhelming message that we're all expected to have children. Not only that, but there's a growing concern that even those of us who do have children aren't having enough children.

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Joodoo

If your own and your spouse's income is just enough to support yourselves, then you shouldn't have any children.

If you were to calculate my mother's finical assets you'd notice she has little money to support both of us, but she still does because of a little thing called organization.

Low Income =/= Inability.

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Kaosgirl

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AloneAngel

Personally, I have a long list of reasons why.

I just wish that all of the childed respected the childfree decision.

There is a choice to have children... not everyone can or should have them.

I feel so sorry for the childless, as I'm sure every time someone asks about having children it hurts to hear. (Since they want children and can't, whereas the childfree choose not to.)

Still, society expects everyone to have children. Yet not everyone should, hence why we have so many abusive/neglecting parents.

This is a bold claim.


The younger generations seem to not want children, while older generations do, but that's simply because they're from an older generation.

The younger generations that allegedly do not want children are still only a small segment of overall society. And I say 'allegedly,' because those who truly want no children are themselves only a small portion of that generation.

There's still an overwhelming message that we're all expected to have children. Not only that, but there's a growing concern that even those of us who do have children aren't having enough children.

I think it's fair to say that once the right information is gathered would know that's bullshit.


I'm not saying your statements aren't true, my mother thinks we're actually underpopulated, but with schools addressing the issue of overpopulation and younger generations having to be more involved with society, as in getting jobs and the such, the distaste for children is on the rise.
Personally, it shocks me when I do come across people who claim to want children because from what I'm witnessing the majority doesn't.


Edited;

Actually, I'm willing to tell you there's times when I think Not Wanting Children is just a trend.

[Kaosgirl]

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Kaosgirl

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The younger generations seem to not want children, while older generations do, but that's simply because they're from an older generation.

The younger generations that allegedly do not want children are still only a small segment of overall society. And I say 'allegedly,' because those who truly want no children are themselves only a small portion of that generation.

There's still an overwhelming message that we're all expected to have children. Not only that, but there's a growing concern that even those of us who do have children aren't having enough children.

I think it's fair to say that once the right information is gathered would know that's bullshit.


I'm not saying your statements aren't true, my mother thinks we're actually underpopulated, but with schools addressing the issue of overpopulation and younger generations having to be more involved with society, as in getting jobs and the such, the distaste for children is on the rise.
Personally, it shocks me when I do come across people who claim to want children because from what I'm witnessing the majority doesn't.

And from what I'm witnessing, the majority does.

Obviously, one or both of us is not perceiving the whole truth.

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Edited;

Actually, I'm willing to tell you there's times when I think Not Wanting Children is a trend.

Go for it. But be aware, by doing so you in essence dismiss the feelings of those who don't want children as 'just a fad' and thus become part of the social pressure to have children.

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Kaosgirl

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Kaosgirl

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The younger generations seem to not want children, while older generations do, but that's simply because they're from an older generation.

The younger generations that allegedly do not want children are still only a small segment of overall society. And I say 'allegedly,' because those who truly want no children are themselves only a small portion of that generation.

There's still an overwhelming message that we're all expected to have children. Not only that, but there's a growing concern that even those of us who do have children aren't having enough children.

I think it's fair to say that once the right information is gathered would know that's bullshit.


I'm not saying your statements aren't true, my mother thinks we're actually underpopulated, but with schools addressing the issue of overpopulation and younger generations having to be more involved with society, as in getting jobs and the such, the distaste for children is on the rise.
Personally, it shocks me when I do come across people who claim to want children because from what I'm witnessing the majority doesn't.

And from what I'm witnessing, the majority does.

Obviously, one or both of us is not perceiving the whole truth.

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Edited;

Actually, I'm willing to tell you there's times when I think Not Wanting Children is a trend.

Go for it. But be aware, by doing so you in essence dismiss the feelings of those who don't want children as 'just a fad' and thus become part of the social pressure to have children.

Well, I'm located in Toronto, Canada and there's quite the claim of us being underpopulated and from what I last heard, the Government has actually been encouraging us to have children. So, I can see where you're coming from, but when I speak with those around my age huge distaste of children is spoken along the lines of "They're annoying"


For some one to actually think that, they must be concerned about what others think of their personal choices.
Just because said thing is a trend doesn't or shouldn't affect your personal stance on it.
Having an opinion doesn't put pressure on anyone. It's quite the stretch to say so, besides I don't want children myself.

[Oni Kita]

I don't want kids. Mainly because I just don't have the patience for them and I'm scared to death of pregnancy and babies.

I don't want the responsibility that comes with having them and I don't want to devote the time or money or anything to properly raising them. I know kids are a lot of work and are expensive. And I know they can add a lot of stress to a person's life, which I don't think I could handle well. A child whimpering is enough to make me want to run from the room, let alone listening to a full-blown tantrum. *shudders*

I'd also hate to pass on my family's medical history. I had a gyno tell me that people have babies all the time even if they don't have a good medical history, so it's not a good reason not to have them, but I think it's selfish to have kids knowing what kind of things you might be putting them through.
I had a lot of trouble with physical activity growing up due to issues with keeping my blood sugar up, knee and ankle problems, and a minor heart condition. I was always twisting my ankles and was lucky on quite a few occasions that I didn't break one (hypermobility; didn't know anything was wrong until I was in high school and we discovered that it was also what was causing some of my knee pain), I had trouble with cardio activities because of a mildly faulty valve in my heart, and my blood sugar would occasionally drop for no reason, leaving me sick to my stomach, irritable, and shaky. Most of that's been dealt with to some degree - changes in diet and physical therapy and orthopedic inserts for my shoes - but I don't want to put someone else through that, or risk doing so.
And those are just my health problems (or, a couple of them, anyway); there are too many other health issues in my family that I risk passing on.

[GunsmithKitten]

Don't want children.

-My bad temper is far too short to deal with them. I barely have enough to deal with adults.
-I like my disposable income and free time.

[Riviera de la Mancha]

Child birth is a natural good of humanity. That is why it goes unquestioned, for it touches to the essence of our human nature.

I would like to have kids some day, but not any time soon. I have some goals to accomplish, and kids would be an obstacle, and I never want to think of my children as the things that stood in the way of my life. I also want to be able to provide for their needs and to give them the best life I can, and a good solid job is necessary to this end.

[Riviera de la Mancha]

GunsmithKitten

Don't want children.

-My bad temper is far too short to deal with them. I barely have enough to deal with adults.
-I like my disposable income and free time.

I always find that second statement roundly disturbing; that money and time is more valuable than a human connection.

[GunsmithKitten]

Riviera de la Mancha

GunsmithKitten

Don't want children.

-My bad temper is far too short to deal with them. I barely have enough to deal with adults.
-I like my disposable income and free time.

I always find that second statement roundly disturbing; that money and time is more valuable than a human connection.

No, it's more valuable than a gamble on a human being who may or may not be worth it.
I don't intend to spend 100 grand to get a kid to 18 only to have them end up on Maury Povich bragging about their pregnancy, how I'm a bithc, and how it's their hot body they'll do wut they wan'.

[I got bored one day]

I don't want children because I don't know how to parent.

[Riviera de la Mancha]

GunsmithKitten

Riviera de la Mancha

GunsmithKitten

Don't want children.

-My bad temper is far too short to deal with them. I barely have enough to deal with adults.
-I like my disposable income and free time.

I always find that second statement roundly disturbing; that money and time is more valuable than a human connection.

No, it's more valuable than a gamble on a human being who may or may not be worth it.
I don't intend to spend 100 grand to get a kid to 18 only to have them end up on Maury Povich bragging about their pregnancy, how I'm a bithc, and how it's their hot body they'll do wut they wan'.

That is the sort of 'gamble' we all must make in all human interaction. If this be an issue, then I have to ask how you have friends or even a family at all.

As I said, it always disturbs me when one chooses money and time over dealing with an essential element, the chief desires of the heart.

[Sid Chastity]

Toffee Cuntwaffle

EyesSetToKill

I want children for the experience and to see how I can really teach my own.... In life time I might like 3....

I wouldn't want a child unless I am fully sure that me and my (Wife) are truley in love and could never break up....... I'm really paranoid of this so I don't know if I would ever be that sure to be ready to bring another life into it..

Truly in love =/= never gonna break up. Things happen. Nothing in life is certain.

That's true. Things just don't work out even when the two people love each other.

[Riviera de la Mancha]

Death and Misery

I don't want children because I don't know how to parent.

There are classes.