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Meroko_Love
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Also, I just wanted to point out that I wouldn't necessarily say that the masculine gender role harms men more than the feminine gender role harms women; you want to be careful about blanket statements like that since it potentially minimizes the harm an individual felt.
It could vary from person to person, however, I feel like the separation of roles into "masculine" and "feminine" hurts men more because the "masculine" traits tend to be violence, aggressiveness, and repression of emotions, and I think that's the reason so many more men end up convicted of violent crimes like assault and murder. Traits like empathy and compassion are considered "feminine", and it encourages men to repress their emotions and act a little, well, meaner to people.
Yes, that most likely is the reason why males make up the majority of perpetrators of violent crime and also the majority of violent crime victims. Men tend to express aggression with verbal assault or physical assault to each other.
However, women can be very mean to each other as well. Relational aggression is very common among women in our culture, (because we are not supposed to be assertive at all), and it can arguably be even more deeply scarring than a punch to the face. There are many women who have been victims of this and need therapy to overcome the hurt.
The point I'm making is not that women are terrible, but that given our patriarchal society, physical violence is seen as the worst and most destructive kind, because it is historically what men have done, while the relational aggression that women have done gets brushed aside as "oh, that's just women being catty" as though it's not nearly as bad as the physical aggression.
Even in schools, bullying is addressed as physical and verbal aggression, while the girls have their own culture of violence and ways to harm each other that is not even noticed by teachers or parents. Example: "Mean Girls".