ratgirl34
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- Posted: Fri, 11 Jul 2014 08:25:29 +0000
Amateur Hour
ChurBun
So i got into a discussion with a guy who says he would remain a virgin for life if the person he liked didn't want to have sex, ever.
My opinion in this matter.
That wouldn't be love. Sure, he is willing to sacrifice that, but the other person?
In my opinion, Love comes with Lust. When its Love, sex would be a way of expressing it with the other person. Embracing the other person. Becoming "one".
Of course, it's not a main factor, but it is necessary, in my opinion.
If you were to sacrifice sex in a relationship, like, FOREVER, i don't see how it would work. Of course like i said, sex isn't that important, in fact i'd be pleased having sex once a week, once every two weeks or so. Well, as long as its not once every 2 months... LOL! But see, it's just a way of expressing love for the other person. Feeling the other's warmth and such. Each human being goes through that.
If a grown up person comes up to you and says he is a virgin, would you believe him? No, of course not, it's hard to believe on someone's word about something so common like having Sex. Lust.
My opinion goes on and on but hard to type it, so yea, what do you think?
My opinion in this matter.
That wouldn't be love. Sure, he is willing to sacrifice that, but the other person?
In my opinion, Love comes with Lust. When its Love, sex would be a way of expressing it with the other person. Embracing the other person. Becoming "one".
Of course, it's not a main factor, but it is necessary, in my opinion.
If you were to sacrifice sex in a relationship, like, FOREVER, i don't see how it would work. Of course like i said, sex isn't that important, in fact i'd be pleased having sex once a week, once every two weeks or so. Well, as long as its not once every 2 months... LOL! But see, it's just a way of expressing love for the other person. Feeling the other's warmth and such. Each human being goes through that.
If a grown up person comes up to you and says he is a virgin, would you believe him? No, of course not, it's hard to believe on someone's word about something so common like having Sex. Lust.
My opinion goes on and on but hard to type it, so yea, what do you think?
I think our society revolves too much around sex and our minds are grossly perverted. It sounds like you believe being sexually active with the one you love is the defining act to profess your love to someone, regardless of how many times you reminded us "sex isn't that important".
Funny enough, you pretty clearly rebuke your entire post within your post:
ChurBun
But see, it's just a way of expressing love for the other person
It's just a way of expressing love. Believe it or not, you can show affection, love, your desire for the other person without sticking your p***s in her v****a. For a lifetime, too. A hug or a kiss, a word of affirmation, an act of service, quality time. All good things that keep the relationship healthy(sex isn't the relationship).
Sex is held as the ultimate end-all in many marriages(undeniably more often than not the man's thought process), but I believe that's exactly the mindset that ends many of those marriages.
That mentality certainly killed my last relationship. I felt more loved when he talked about exactly how photosynthesis works, or we gushed over Greek mythology, than when we cuddled. I felt more sexually attracted to him then too.
When he started putting pressure on for sex... I felt like he only saw a v****a with legs. There was no depth or love there. And it killed any attraction I had for him.