The Peppermint Bunny
So, I want to get this out of the way first, since every time I see this kind of conversation, people get attacked for saying something they didn't actually say.
I am not at all saying that choosing to wait is the right choice for everyone, just as I am not saying not waiting is the right choice for everyone. Everyone has their own personal reasons for the choices they make when it comes to sex.
I've noticed that "slut shaming" is heavily frowned upon by many people today, and I think that's a good thing, because again, I don't think anyone should be criticized about the choices they make for themselves. What I've also noticed, however, is that no one seems to have a problem with "virgin shaming." When it comes out that someone has chosen not to have sex yet, it is almost followed by a thousand questions and assumptions. First of all, why should anyone have to explain themselves? Second of all, some people just choose not to have sex and it has nothing to do with religion, attractiveness, or the way they were raised. I've seen this happen to both men and women.
So, the question that will be discussed here is:
Why does it seem society is beginning to look down upon people who choose not to have sex?
First of all, I'd like to point out the hypocrisy of "No one should be criticized for their actions", yet at every turn, people criticize others for their actions all the time, like in the case of this thread. Proud enough to dish out your apparent wisdom, but too proud to listen to anyone else, eh? (not you, personally, but people in general)
I'd also like to point out that when I say "You", I don't mean YOU in the personal sense, but in a general sense.
Now we'll get into "Slut Shaming". I'm not going to go out of my way to "slut shame" anyone (and this is just another example of people putting a bad-sounding label on something they don't like in order to scare other people into silence), but my reason for being against sleeping around is because I feel it cheapens a person.
What it says about a person is "I just want to feel good, and I don't care what, or who, I have to do to get that." Your body becomes something that can be bought, whether with nice words, dinner and a movie, or anything else; sometimes very little or nothing at all will get you to open your legs or pull it out of your pants.
It means you have no self-control, no self-respect and/or very little self-esteem. Your body is not something you should be giving to just anyone, for little to no reason other than "they look cute". People love to use the Humans are Civilized/Animals arguments.
When crimes are committed, we're civilized creatures who should be above this sort of animalistic violence. It's what separates us from animals and makes us human.
When we want to have sex, we are no longer separated from animals, and people love to get all into the "science" of our attractions and instincts, and how humans are basically just "more evolved animals".
But it's either one or the other. Either you're an animal that has sex with the other members of its species with no remorse, no feelings of love or regret, or you're a civilized human being who should show the proper maturity to weigh the pros and cons of his/her decisions, and not to just rush into a situation blindly and recklessly just because "it's what you want to do".
The very fact that people are getting so upset over this apparent "Slut Shaming" means that many of us are not yet ready to face the real world, where our actions can have very real consequences, where emotional bonds are created with each joining and hearts are broken left and right. Yes, it can be hard to deal with peer pressure, or scary to go against what most people see as the more popular mindset, because it could mean you lose some friends, or all of your friends and you might end up alone. But if your friends constantly tell you to do things that could end badly, not only for you, but other people as well, then are they really your friends?
If you're doing something in your life, right or wrong, and someone challenges you about it, it may annoy or anger you, I'm not disputing that at all, it pisses me off too. But instead of just assuming that you're the one who's right and they're always wrong, maybe step back and observe your actions over any length of time. Maybe these people said what they did because they actually give a s**t about you, and what happens in your life. Maybe YOU'RE the one who's actually wrong, not them. I know that's a hard pill to swallow, but so many people have to throw away that foolish pride of theirs, that childish "I wanna do what I wanna do" mentality and maybe re-evaluate themselves and their lives. If they can't, it just shows that they are still children who can't deal with reality. Being grown up doesn't mean you're an adult.
