Dadoong
cool post. i always found that with nice guys, for whatever reason they act as if they have an object of affection someone they're "owed them". i can see why us females go for the jerks because being too narcissistic and bit of an a** is better than dating a wall. there's plenty of guys that get the whole formula right, though, who are genuinely nice, have their limits, take control sometimes, and care about themselves. i kind of find it mind-boggling when nice guys get upset that girls always choose the jerk. well, i guess in the end it's better to be with an honest jerk than a dishonest one.
piece of advice. when a woman says she wants a nice guy, she wants a nice guy. but what she doesn't want is someone you can walk all over. she wants a considerate guy who can lead.
Well, I'll play devil's advocate for a minute and give you the counter argument I often used.
When a girl says she's tired of dating jerks and wants a nice guy, this is what goes on in my 3 lb. computer they call a brain.
She doesn't want A.
I am B.
If she doesn't want A, she wants B.
Therefore, she wants me.
And I cam up with all this even after I knew what a false dichotomy was. But what a crock of s**t this line of reasoning is. I was assuming that I, as a man, had some kind of clue about what women wanted while at the same time saying all women didn't know what they really wanted. I should have tattooed "hypocrite" across my forehead at that point.
Nice guys need to break out of this kind of thought. Like I said, women are not games to be played. It's not that you had the right spec and the other guy didn't. Humans are more complex than that.
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