Christinue
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- Posted: Fri, 07 Jan 2005 17:11:14 +0000
Seriously....
Congratulations! You've come out of the closet and realized that you are attracted to the same sex. Hurray. Whether you are Bisexual or homosexual, you now get to go through the whole ackward relearning of how to "know if someone likes you" or if this really is a date and so forth.
No, really, I'm discovering this myself. I feel as ackward, stupid, and out of sorts as I did in middle school when I found out Bobby who kept saving me a seat in the lunch room or sharing his candy bar really liked me.. and not in the best friends way.
Also, if we're both women, who pays? Who opens the doors? Who spoons on the outside? (My roommate, he really needed to know these answers, amusingly enough) Or do we just throw the whole gracious dating scheme (which would be compeletly underheard of here in the deep south)?
Not only do I have the ackwardness of learning how to date a girl, but also wondering if she "swings that way." Gay Bars only go so far and you definitely can't always tell just from looks or attitude...
So the discussion: What is the proper way to ask someone if they are Gay? How or what do you do to 'know' that person swings that way without being rude? What are somethings that are different from a same sex couple dating than a heterosexual couple dating? What are similarities? Are there just somethings that a same sex couple shouldn't do in public? In certain areas at this day and age? Not how you feel, but what you think would be more appropriate or acceptable?
This is not a discussion of whether it is right or wrong, but the intricacies of dating outside the "stereotypical" dating.
Congratulations! You've come out of the closet and realized that you are attracted to the same sex. Hurray. Whether you are Bisexual or homosexual, you now get to go through the whole ackward relearning of how to "know if someone likes you" or if this really is a date and so forth.
No, really, I'm discovering this myself. I feel as ackward, stupid, and out of sorts as I did in middle school when I found out Bobby who kept saving me a seat in the lunch room or sharing his candy bar really liked me.. and not in the best friends way.
Also, if we're both women, who pays? Who opens the doors? Who spoons on the outside? (My roommate, he really needed to know these answers, amusingly enough) Or do we just throw the whole gracious dating scheme (which would be compeletly underheard of here in the deep south)?
Not only do I have the ackwardness of learning how to date a girl, but also wondering if she "swings that way." Gay Bars only go so far and you definitely can't always tell just from looks or attitude...
So the discussion: What is the proper way to ask someone if they are Gay? How or what do you do to 'know' that person swings that way without being rude? What are somethings that are different from a same sex couple dating than a heterosexual couple dating? What are similarities? Are there just somethings that a same sex couple shouldn't do in public? In certain areas at this day and age? Not how you feel, but what you think would be more appropriate or acceptable?
This is not a discussion of whether it is right or wrong, but the intricacies of dating outside the "stereotypical" dating.