Resident Lune
Mistress DragonFlame
Besides, if I was in that circum stance, I would wish to be aborted rather then forcing my mother to birth me, then leave me in a Racist Baby Store.
First, it's
circumstance.
Second, as someone who was put in one of those "Racist Baby Stores" as you eloquently put it, I am offended by your perception that children who are not aborted would be better off dead anyway, when compared to being put up for adoption. Considering the fact that I, myself, am adopted.
I don't think you fully comprehend just how efficient adoption is. It's true, it has its faults, just like many other things. Children are passed up for the most illogical reasons; racism being one of them. But that does not mean that babies would be better off dead than in adoption agencies if they've already reached a point in the stage of pregnancy that they can survive out of the womb.
It's not that we (those who oppose placing infants for adoption) assert that the infants would be better off dead. It's that we assert that it would be grossly irreponsible of US to knowingly create infants and them place them into the flawed system.
Adoption does not replace abortion.
Cost of live birth in the US:
According to
babycenter.com
“The cost of a normal vaginal birth for a self-pay patient with a one-day stay ranged from $2,500 to $3,000. If, however, things do not go as you plan and you end up being delivered by cesarean section, then the cost will be significantly higher.”
An abortion in the US generally costs between $300 and $700 dollars, depending on your location, the type of abortion you’re getting, what clinic you go to, whether or not you can receive financial aid, so on and so forth.
Mind you, that doesn’t include the cost of prenatal care, which is only covered if you are lucky enough to have health insurance and if your insurance includes prenatal care. Many plans do not.
Adoption is the solution to unwanted parenting, not unwanted pregnancy. In order to place a child for adoption, one must first carry it to term and undergo all the physical, psychological, and sociological ramifications of that process. It’s generally a very much life-altering experience, it makes you undergo physical changes, many of them permanent, it alters your brain chemistry, and don’t forget, unless you cloister yourself away for the entire duration, it causes all kinds of social speculation among your friends, family, coworkers, acquaintances, strangers on the street, etc. Imagine being pregnant unintentionally with every intention of forking the infant over to waiting adoptee parents upon its birth. What do you think every time some random person lays their hand on your abdomen on the subway and congratulates you?
Adoption is viewed, by many, as a very socially irresponsible act. I personally think that it is far more wrong to bring into the world a child that you do not want and cannot care for, expecting others to bear the expense (mental, physical, financial) of raising it, than it is to make sure that the child never exists in the first place. Adoption doesn't necessarily assure you the knowledge that the child that you created will be cared for and provided for and raised in a way that you would agree with. You might never have contact with the child again, knowing only that you created one, not whether it is well, or whether it is even alive. The current system of Adoption in this country is deplorable, and until every single orphanage and foster home worldwide is empty and there's still a massive demand for children, adoption has proven itself not to be the end-all-be-all fixit solution. While I feel for the plight of the childless who seek offspring, it is not the job of the unintentionally pregnant to play broodmares for them.
Also, there is the argument that the existence of another human being at all is a problem. I personally could never live with myself knowing that I had created a new human, one that would continue to consume resources long after my death and one that would in all likelihood breed and continue the cycle, no matter WHO was footing the effort and the bill.
Racism in adoption
There is no lack of unwanted children in this world. If parents are awaiting a child to love, it’s generally because they have criteria that aren’t being met.
Take for example, this:
http://www.alternet.org/rights/19821/
“So. It wasn't about babies after all, but about white babies. They didn't tell us that in religion class, nor did they mention it at the march. But wait! Open any newspaper and you can find couples advertising, selling themselves as loving parents who wish to complete their lives with your baby. Yes. Your white baby.”
Don’t believe the article? Check this out:
http://www.lifetimeadoption.com/for_birtmothers/profiles.html
Choose any family, then click the ‘learn more about our family’ link. It’ll send you to a chart outlining the family and the criteria they seek in an infant. Here’s the most common answer:
http://www.lifetimeadoption.com/for_birtmothers/families/danny_michelle/our_family.html
Newborn. Caucasian. No special needs.
It’s not that there aren’t hundreds of thousands of unwanted and unloved children already existing in the world, desperately needing homes… it’s that they don’t fit the acceptable profile.
For every shiny new baby you add to the system, another existing child doesn’t get adopted.
Meet Dominique and Ivy.
http://photolisting.adoption.com/children/3396.html
http://photolisting.adoption.com/children/3395.html
They need a family. If I give birth to a perfect, healthy, white newborn, and a loving family adopts it, that's one less family who will consider adopting Dominique and Ivy.
For the record, I've never met anyone who supports abortion at a point where the fetus can survive outside of the womb. That's what elective cesarians are for.
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