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- Posted: Fri, 13 Apr 2012 01:55:29 +0000
hmm so I'm curious how would you personally feel if your son wanted a barbie doll or your daughter wanted the set of tools?
society doesn't need girls to be mothers or boys to fix things in the house so i think it is wrong to buy those toys exclusively for your child unless they enjoy the toys
i wouldn't care....i thought that was obvious. i would let them play with almost any toy they wanted.... except knives etc of course
I'm sorry i'm not going to buy my son a dress if he wants one, Call me the chauvinist male if you want to but i want my son (if i ever have one) although i agree that i think they should be able to enjoy what they want and learn about what they want and about life but I'm going to teach my son its wrong to wear a dress if your a male. As for a girl hmm that's different. If i have a daughter i want her to grow up a lady and respect herself ( this means if she wore "slutty clothes" then i wouldn't like it) but if she wanted to wear say blue jeans or comfortable clothes i wouldn't have a problem with this (some people think women should wear really feminine things all the time so i felt like i should add this). Now as for stereotypical dude clothes. Like suits and vests and such i would tell her that its wrong but if she chose to do such a thing when she grew up and moved out i would accept her but I'm not going to allow that if she lives with me.(same goes with the male) HOLY LONG ANSWER BATMAN!
a toddler will play with anything a couple times. i think it is best to buy every child a variety of of toys and have them color with all the crayons and let them dress how they want so that they learn what they enjoy and learn about life in general
you're not letting your son have a dress, why? he is hurting no one or doing nothing wrong by playing with a dress. that is wrong and you will have psychologically messed up children if they actually want to play with dresses but you don't let them for no reason. also, clothes are also just one tiny issue of the entire thing. we always tell girls how cute they are and tell boys how strong they are and the kids catch on and some get annoyed while others just go with it. i talked to a 4 year old girl and she said, "everyone calls me cute". we want to have something other to say to kids other than "you're so cute" because.....looks don't matter . later on a girl will develop an eating disorder because she will be trying to look cute like she has been since she was a toddler. that's just an example. it sounds like you will raise your kids to be a little bit superficial if you tell them boys can't wear dresses and girls can't wear suits. it will mess them up a little psychologically.
i honestly don't know what i would do if this situation were to arise where there was a severe clash on what my child wants to wear/what i think they should wear. This is something i would have to discuss with whatever woman i was raising said children with. but I'm not going to support of habit for him/her that's way out of normal.
also there is the obvious of when you talk to them you don't punish them for not acting like their gender, etc.
well you have to be firm with children about some things. no violence, etc, for example. but when the action doesn't hurt anyone you should let your kid experiment. the more kids experiment the more they learn.