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AngelofRelief

While I can see what you're saying, but your arguement is terribly flawed in that you don't know my mother. I do admit that using the term "dream" was a bit far-fetched and created some confusion, however she had no previous desire to be homosexual. In fact she was raised Catholic and hated homosexuals, so at no point in time was she a "supressed homosexual." She was the one that taught us that being homosexual was wrong, so guess how my family reacted when she did the exact opposite of what she preached. Tell me how to support a mother that abandons her children, tell me how to console a thirteen year old brother and explain to him why she left. This was not the result of us suppressing her, it was the result of her just saying one day, "I want to be gay."

I'm sorry if I came off as harsh, however when you point the finger from the outside without knowing the full details of the situation, and blame me and my family for her abandoning us, then you have crossed a very treacherous line.
Perhaps I should take this opportunity to inform you about repressed homosexuality. There have been studies where the fiercest homophobes and anti-homosexuals were often masking their own repressed homosexuality as a result of the societal pressure to conform to what they perceived as "normal". I will say, and any gays in ED will back me up, that nobody chooses to be gay. It's an opinion held by many groups (including the APA) that "ex-gay" programming does not work.

Your mother's upbringing might be the very reason why she held back as long as she did. I'm not here to judge you, or justify her abandonment, but please don't bring your personal life onto the internet, obscure key details, and then act offended when a person responds to you based on the information given.
 
     
 
Methcalarjalope
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Wasn't marriage originally a non-religious agreement of partnership between two people? Why do people keep saying it was originally a religious concept? And even then, this is about the LEGAL benefits of marriage, and as GSK said, there are religions that will marry gays so the topic is irrelevant.


Monogamy dates to the Roman laws and Christianity which equated it to 1:1 ration man to woman. Matrimony means, "the making of a mother."


You know, in the bible there are many types of marriages mentioned besides monogamous marriages.
     
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Methcalarjalope
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Wasn't marriage originally a non-religious agreement of partnership between two people? Why do people keep saying it was originally a religious concept? And even then, this is about the LEGAL benefits of marriage, and as GSK said, there are religions that will marry gays so the topic is irrelevant.


Monogamy dates to the Roman laws and Christianity which equated it to 1:1 ration man to woman. Matrimony means, "the making of a mother."


You know, in the bible there are many types of marriages mentioned besides monogamous marriages.



Correct, and the consequences of polygamy are outlined in full fail.
 
     
 
AstroFemme
It makes me sad that Christians are so adamant about denying rights to people based on religious beliefs. Reminds me of the same thing that happened during the legalization of interracial marriages.


There is not enough direct correlation between Christianity and the 31 states rejecting gay marriage.
     


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Methcalarjalope
AstroFemme
It makes me sad that Christians are so adamant about denying rights to people based on religious beliefs. Reminds me of the same thing that happened during the legalization of interracial marriages.


There is not enough direct correlation between Christianity and the 31 states rejecting gay marriage.


yes, add in Mormons too.
 
     
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AngelofRelief
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Bullshit. Please show proof of age and the way people vote are related. I'm 21 and I'm against gay marriage. I know old 60 somethings that are for gay marriage.

My grandma just turned 60 and she's for gay marriage. My friend who is... 16 is against gay marriage. So, I agree with Octane.

Apparently you two fail to see the correlation in the generation gaps. I did not say that everyone was that way, by all means I don't support gay marriage, however to deny that it will happen would simply be denying the inevitable truth. Take Civil Rights; originally such a thought was unheard of and considered blasphemous, however in our day and age equality among races has become more and more socially acceptable. Are there still racists and bigots? By all means yes, however most of us have progressed past that and see each other as equal.

Appeal to history and incorrect comparesent. First off, race and homosexuality cannot be compared as you have. Sexual deviency cannot be compared to race. The second is just because it happened before is not a guarantee that it will happen again.

AngelofRelief
Now the fact that I have to explain the "baby boomer" situation is just downright despicable, shame on the both of you for not knowing your history. It is not news that the percentage of religious people back in the day was much higher than it is now, these people were raised on hard-lined morals and developed a strong sense of right and wrong.

You act like religion was the only reason people are against gay marriage. Again, its up to you to provide the sources of your claim of two thing.
1. Percentage of religious people are higher in the past than now.
2. Percentage of non-religious anti-gay voter ratio against religious anti-gay voter.
3. Then cross examine proportionally (very important that its a proportion figure) both of the source to come up with an analysis of your claim. However I strongly suspect you just pulled that statement out of your a** without validating it just because "it seems like so".

AngelofRelief
Many of these people were hold extremely Christian morals and as such are not quite as tolerant of homosexuality.

Sure many do, but again you have ignored non-religious and non-christian voters that is also against homosexuality. I for example was not raised Christian, but I'm still against gay marriage.

AngelofRelief
Also note that the "Baby Boom" was started do to a fear of another world war and thus the people felt the need to populate the Earth as much as possible.

Hoo, boy... You know what I'm going to ask right now... because I heard a very different story regarding this.

AngelofRelief
Now take our generation, we find that more and more people in our generation are not necessarily brought up to believe that homosexuality is wrong, thus many will either find it acceptable, or they have a "who gives a s**t" mentality. Let us also not forget that the older generation outnumbers ours by the masses.

One more thing, you're entire argument rests on several fallacies. You're assuming that the way people are raised are the way they will vote. You're assuming that the older population vote a certain way because of religion. On the other side, you're doing the exact same thing. You're assuming that the younger population will vote a certain way due to a lack of religious values.

Again, where are you getting these claims from?

AngelofRelief
So let me put it into simple perspective for you; once many of the hard-lined Christian "baby boomers" have started to pass away, our generation will rise up and will find homosexuality either "socially acceptable" or they'll just give them their rights to make them all shut the ******** up. Now I hear what you're saying, I don't like homosexuality either, but if you look at it from a theoretical perspective and use a little something called "logic" and "analysis," you will find that gay marriage in itself is inevitable. And like I said before; I don't like gay marriage, repeat DO NOT LIKE gay marriage (although with no bias to people that are so), but cannot deny the facts that have been laid out before me.

I have pointed out serveral times where you're premises have lacked solid backing. Sure, you made a logical argument, but you're argument is not sound due to the fact that you rest on several logical fallacies and unvarifiable assumptions.


Cite, cite, cite. Statistics, statistics, statistics. If I honestly had the time or, let alone, an actual reason to copy and paste such information then I would. However the fact that you're knit-picking my arguement, and for some reason can't see a correlation in trends, leads me to the conclusion that you can't use deductive reasoning to figure this out on your own.

No. You expect me to believe a statement that you're making based on assumptions and your own personal experiences and observations.
Here: http://theautonomist.com/aaphp/permanent/fallacies.php
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Anecdotal evidence fallacy - (Confabulation fallacy) Attempts to establish a proposition as fact or as a universal principle based solely on anecdotes, personal experience, and testimony, where no other evidence for the assertion or way to test it exists.


AngelofRelief
So I'll put it simply; go back in time, oh say, one hundred years and ask yourself this, "in a time when scientific knowledge hasn't yet posed a serious threat to religion, are the people as accepting of homosexuality as they will be now." If you answered yes, then you are a lost cause.

Ever herd of Greece?

AngelofRelief
Homosexuality was demonized in the past due mostly to the fact that religious institutions stated that it was immoral, science had not yet played a part. If you compare science to how it was back in the day, you will find that it was almost nowhere close to providing a "logical" explanation other than a diety forming all of humanity. Today, science is the main reason why so many people turn their backs on religion. Religion typically teaches that homosexuality is downright wrong, and back then almost nobody argued that case. However, now science is gaining more and more influence while also making it harder for people to believe in their faith.

So you are still assuming that religion is the reason people are against homosexuality, more specific Christianity. I would like to point out that you ignore those that are not religious and against homosexuality as well those that are not Christians against homosexuality. Also you're assuming that the younger generations are not going to be homophobic. All I'm asking is you prove that statement and not merely use your own personal anecdotal as the basis of your argument.

AngelofRelief
And if you haven't been clued in yet, atheists are typically more accepting of homosexuality because they don't have a religious institution telling them it is wrong.

Yet the same unfound statement. The bolded is the keyword.... You're using purely observations of what it seems like to you to make a statement as if it was facts.

AngelofRelief
I'm not saying that all people feel this way, however you are constantly denying the fact that society progresses as it sees fit. Look at Europe, they've become socially accepting of homosexuality, the Islam states haven't because they are ruled by religion and believe homosexuality is a sin punishable by death. (Yes I'm aware the Islam states are in the middle east, I was doing a compare and contrast, before you knit-pick at that.) Europe, and America are not run by religion, therefore at some point in time homosexuals will be allowed to wed. I personally don't want to see it happen, but you are denying an inevitable fate that will eventually come to fruition.

I'm not anything. You cannot call it "fact" unless its varifiable. I'm asking you for sources to back up your statements and not merely use personal experiences and observations.

Regarding the different countries, the comparesents are invalid due to the political and social differences, not just religious difference. So you cannot pinpoint the reason to religion as there are many factors at work.
The second thing regarding this is, again, you're appealing to history. Something happening before or in another instance dont mean it must apply to this case.
     
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AngelofRelief
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How is it the homosexuality was the cause of the family unit breaking apart? Your story is sad (BAW), but all pity aside where are you getting it from?


To better explain how it broke my family apart I'll try to put it as simply as possible. This all took place three years ago. My youngest brother (eight at the time) was upset about the divorce, but seeing as how young he is he accepted her being gay rather quickly. The middle brother (thirteen at the time, very hormonal age) actually exploded when it happened; refused to talk to her, called her vulgar names, said he hated her, you name it. And for some reason my mom tried to get me to get him to calm down. Being the eldest (fifteen) I took a neutral position on it, somewhat, and acted civil around her although inside I despised everything about her. This actually threw me into a major battle with depression because of the mixed emotions I was feeling at the time, and the fact that I kept everything bottled up. As for my step-father, you can imagine that your wife leaving you for someone else, not to mention a woman, was a major blow to his ego. That and the fact that she, in essence, abandoned us, infuriated him beyond belief to the point where anytime her name came up he would slander it as much as humanly possible. (Mostly for her leaving us, and somewhat for her being gay. We were raised in a Christian household if that puts it in better perspective.)
I can sympathize with your struggles but you need to put this into perspective:

Your mother was a repressed homosexual. Society, her upbringing, your stepfather, maybe even you- they, even unconsciously, pressured her to stay in the closet. So much so that she went against every natural instinct in her body and married a man.

If it wasn't for the anti-gay camp and heteronormative society directing her life, she would have been a happy, loved lesbian woman.

Being a lesbian wasn't your mother's "dream". It's not a vacation you take when you turn 50. It's not something you do for fun. The fact is, she was and always will be a lesbian (or maybe bisexual). She didn't just turn. She just was.

Your family's lack of support? Your internalized hate? You've just made it that much harder for her. You don't need to like it. You don't need to like her partners. You don't even have to agree with her decision.

But you still need to LOVE her. Because she is your mother, the one who raised you and gave you life. She is still the same person she was before she came out.

That being said, you need to realize that her repression is the fault of people like you and who think like you.


((To everyone, I had to eat, but now that I'm back I'll get to anyone who quoted me/asked me a question.))

As to the above, I must call casuistry on your argument. (Essentially I'm saying that it's bullshit. Love the word "casuistry"! Anyway-) Whether she was or wasn't a lesbian isn't even the point. NO mother, or father for that matter, should ever abandon their family unless there is a clear abuse present and no, being in a married relationship with a man that you chose to be in when you're a lesbian doesn't fly as abuse. If she got married, then that's a commitment. Period.

I'm a guy, therefore I'm programmed to want to have sex with every girl that I see. Does this make it acceptable in any way, shape or form? Hell no. Would it be right for me to abandon my spouse and (theoretical) children to go and do whatever the hell I want because of the way I'm programmed? No. How about blaming the victims, AKA the family that I'm leaving, for repressing my urge to screw every woman that I meet? No, I don't think so.

To try and pull this casuistry and make the mother the victim while at the same time blaming the family that SHE abandoned is the highest form of insult and disgrace that you could have performed. And I have to say shame on you for posting that.


And now that is out of the way I'm going to calm down and respond to the others that are waiting on me.
 
     
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((To everyone, I had to eat, but now that I'm back I'll get to anyone who quoted me/asked me a question.))

As to the above, I must call casuistry on your argument. (Essentially I'm saying that it's bullshit. Love the word "casuistry"! Anyway-) Whether she was or wasn't a lesbian isn't even the point. NO mother, or father for that matter, should ever abandon their family unless there is a clear abuse present and no, being in a married relationship with a man that you chose to be in when you're a lesbian doesn't fly as abuse. If she got married, then that's a commitment. Period.

I'm a guy, therefore I'm programmed to want to have sex with every girl that I see. Does this make it acceptable in any way, shape or form? Hell no. Would it be right for me to abandon my spouse and (theoretical) children to go and do whatever the hell I want because of the way I'm programmed? No. How about blaming the victims, AKA the family that I'm leaving, for repressing my urge to screw every woman that I meet? No, I don't think so.

To try and pull this casuistry and make the mother the victim while at the same time blaming the family that SHE abandoned is the highest form of insult and disgrace that you could have performed. And I have to say shame on you for posting that.


And now that is out of the way I'm going to calm down and respond to the others that are waiting on me.
Did I at any point state that I agreed with her abandonment of her family? She is a bad parent and wife because she is a bad parent and wife, and because she chose to come out AFTER having a family. She is a bad parent and wife because she put people who were close to her in pain and ruining what they thought was a happy family. She is NOT a bad person because all homosexuals are bad people and deadbeats. I only addressed his post because he is using his resentment of his mother as a justification to hate ALL homosexuals who want to have legally recognized partnerships, and that affects ME and my community and all of my future relationships.

Also, I'm not blaming it on him. I blame it on people who think like him. People who use irrational matters to justify their hate.
     
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So OP, you dont address people that dont directly ask you a question? I'm curious to see what your opinion is regarding my view.
 
     
 
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Thanks. I appreciate it. People should in general judge a person by the content of what they say isntead of their name. Hate using cliches, but "dont judge a book by its cover".


Hence why I judge you based on your creepy BDSM pick up lines and death threats against the woman I love.
     
They're too busy doing gay stuff.
 
     
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That aside, the primary reason that I have been against gay marriage is the way that it has come around, not by the will of the people. I see the US as a country of majority rule, always has been, always will be.


So you also beleive that segregation and slavery should be resinstituted? Both of those were destroyed by fiat, not majority rule. Every time they were put to a vote, they were preserved.
     
GunsmithKitten
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Thanks. I appreciate it. People should in general judge a person by the content of what they say isntead of their name. Hate using cliches, but "dont judge a book by its cover".


Hence why I judge you based on your creepy BDSM pick up lines and death threats against the woman I love.

stare You are one to talk about creepy BDSM......
 
     
If you support my cause, AIM me at: D In Octane
 
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Good evening, Octane. I'd just like to say that I disapprove of people calling you a troll instead of using logic to debate your positions.


Maybe when he threatens to kill your girlfriend and tells you in public how you can whip him all you like just as long as you allow him to eat your poo you'll understand why some of us feel the way we do about him.
     
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GunsmithKitten
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Thanks. I appreciate it. People should in general judge a person by the content of what they say isntead of their name. Hate using cliches, but "dont judge a book by its cover".


Hence why I judge you based on your creepy BDSM pick up lines and death threats against the woman I love.

stare You are one to talk about creepy BDSM......


I also never threatened your loved ones with violence.
 
     

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