So does this make me a bad person?

[Overlord Fang]

You've got to be kidding me. You're not even close to being bad. Screw what these people say. Don't let them hurt you. ><;

[Artinous]

people have sex, its natural, so I don't see why you are worrying

[they_are_not_you]

Honestly, no. You seem to be in control of your life and as long as you two romantically love each other and have mutual feelings for each other and all the other yadda yadda nonsense, then why should it make you a bad person? Just be careful about the underaged part because even though you/he may not be qualified as an adult, it's still stagatory rape and that can sometimes be counted as a criminal offense.

The only thing that would be bad is if you had unprotected sex with your boyfriend, or one of you two unknowingly/knowingly had some sort of STD.... That would be veeery bad, but not to the degree that you're thinking of.

romapri chu

I'm still a young girl.
I am a straight A student.
I plan on going to college and becoming a psychiatrist.
I am very active in many clubs in my school.
I volunteer at various places whenever I have the time.
I am very close to my family, and I have never had problems with the law.
I do not drink, or smoke.

But very recently I engaged in sexual affairs with my boyfriend.
I am not married to him obviously - and we are both underaged.

I personally don't believe that participating in sexual acts with him makes me a bad person. Though I am still a "virgin", what is your take on this? Do you think that just because a person has been sexually active though they are not married and are young, that it makes them a bad person?

Just curious to know your opinions. C:

[Hashire-Greywolf]

I had sex with my boyfriend after 2 years of dating. we are not married.
Its not wrong to enjoy that intimate time with someone you love...

just be sure to be safe about it.

[electro romantic]

As long as you're safe and sensible, it's a natural thing. smile

[Paimonia]

Nope. Just makes you, indeed, a person. Good for you for fulfilling your desires in a sensible manner.

[blackmofo]

damn u work so hard to get those achievements u deserve a lil head...go on and do ur thing, altho i dont really like the under age thing tho

[tHe_dEaD_LiLy]

Kikarok

You're not a bad person, just make sure you don't do anything stupid.

i think so too .

[Vosi]

I don't get it. If her scale is the moral bar of the society she lives in she's a bad person; there is nothing to discuss since it is relative to the scale meaning we must throw aside our own scales and use that of the society in question.

[tHe_dEaD_LiLy]

BMWlover135

Define "Sexual Acts" for me.

eeeeeeeeeewwwwwwww yew sicko . thats nasty ! she dont have tew .

[Master SBK]

Vosi

I don't get it. If her scale is the moral bar of the society she lives in she's a bad person; there is nothing to discuss since it is relative to the scale meaning we must throw aside our own scales and use that of the society in question.

but she's asking for our opinions, which are based on our own scales of morality.

[tHe_dEaD_LiLy]

no it doesn't . so yew had sex , big deal . just dont take it fer granted . biggrin

[NuMedia Millie]

this is 2009,
use your own judgement.
Don't be pressured into anything
because there is a man out there who won't rush you if you don't want to be rushed.

[The Zodikosis]

This is the Zodiac speaking...

Though whole underage thing is a problem, but in my book that doesn't make you a bad person.

...that is all.

[imaginary people]

Wow, sounds almost exactly like me at around that age. And I'm still with the guy. Just don't be stupid. Keep it safe and get on birth control. As far as I'm concerned, the "no sex before marriage" is an ancient code of conduct that basically guilts people (young, irresponsible guys specifically) into doing the right thing and not knocking up a girl and running off. The underage rule is really to protect naive almost-adults from being taken advantage of. You're not a bad person. Far from it. You're human and you have a basic human need for intimacy. Enjoy it! If you feel guilty it will only hold you back from being as happy with yourself and your relationship as possible. Again, just don't be stupid and make sure to use condoms and birth control when the time comes.