Sexual Frustration

[Henrika]

jinxomg

Henrika

jinxomg

Henrika

I dunno, I very rarely see my bf and NOT have sex with him. Also, do you guys make out a lot? I find making out and being handsy usually turns me on, even when previously I might not have been that interested.

i like when a guy recites poetry

My boyfriend plays piano whee so hawt

redface redface

that means he's good with his hands

you're lucky

Oh believe me I am extremely lucky heart

[jinxomg]

Henrika

jinxomg

Henrika

jinxomg

Henrika

I dunno, I very rarely see my bf and NOT have sex with him. Also, do you guys make out a lot? I find making out and being handsy usually turns me on, even when previously I might not have been that interested.

i like when a guy recites poetry

My boyfriend plays piano whee so hawt

redface redface

that means he's good with his hands

you're lucky

Oh believe me I am extremely lucky heart

ehehehe

...

sigh

maybe one day i will have a relationship

or i will just end up with 10 cats

that could work too

[Suicidesoldier#1]

jinxomg

Henrika

I dunno, I very rarely see my bf and NOT have sex with him. Also, do you guys make out a lot? I find making out and being handsy usually turns me on, even when previously I might not have been that interested.

i like when a guy recites poetry

Violets are red, roses are blue... poems are hard...

Let's have sex! xp

[village midget]

Tiberius_The_Space_Viking

Henrika

I dunno, I very rarely see my bf and NOT have sex with him. Also, do you guys make out a lot? I find making out and being handsy usually turns me on, even when previously I might not have been that interested.

Used to.

Have you been together a long time? Is he/she bored? Have you become complacent in the way you treat him/her the rest of the time? Does he/she have a different work schedule to you? Are you framing your problem in terms of what would gratify you or in terms of what you would like to do to please him/her? Is the sex you do have good enough to make them want more, what could you do to improve on this?

[Tiberius_The_Space_Viking]

village midget

Tiberius_The_Space_Viking

Henrika

I dunno, I very rarely see my bf and NOT have sex with him. Also, do you guys make out a lot? I find making out and being handsy usually turns me on, even when previously I might not have been that interested.

Used to.

Have you been together a long time? Is he/she bored? Have you become complacent in the way you treat him/her the rest of the time? Does he/she have a different work schedule to you? Are you framing your problem in terms of what would gratify you or in terms of what you would like to do to please him/her? Is the sex you do have good enough to make them want more, what could you do to improve on this?

Apparently none of the above issues apply.

[Tiberius_The_Space_Viking]

RossetteAmi

Sex drive should match up. Orgasm's release oxycotin which produce a love hormone.

Inorite? People need to remember that passion is one of the ingredients in consummate love.

[X of Castigation]

I don't know, you could try asking for it maybe?

[Tiberius_The_Space_Viking]

Senator Armstrong

I don't know, you could try asking for it maybe?

I do that, I make a point to try and get some, I see it as making an effort. Oddly enough she's more likely to want sex when I don't.

[Sir Fharlanghn]

jinxomg

ehehehe

...

sigh

maybe one day i will have a relationship

or i will just end up with 10 cats

that could work too

Integrating p***y into one's life is always a good thing.

[Moubliez]

It was very very difficult for my partner and I to see eye to eye in this.
We started off passionate and then he said he's actually not a physical person at all, that hugs and kisses were going to be rare and so sex was going to be even more rare.

So pretty much I had to start discussing why I wanted these things. His view on physical stuff is that its overrated and not a big deal, but I don't share even close to that veiw at all.

So I'm sexual frustrated and literally masturbating all week or watching porn or whatever but I have to wait til he comes around to feeling comfortable with it.
It was really really hard at first,
but waiting and waiting doesnt mean being passive aggressive and making comments about it here and there. and I had to learn not to do that, and make sure the environment was as comfertable and neutral as possible, and letting him know if he ever feels ready just let me know. And now he'll hug me on his own, or kiss me, and the past week I havent had to initate sex at all.

So really its stick it out, dont let your partner see how frustrated you are it makes them feel worse and you're going to get the opposite results for that my friends.

[Henrika]

jinxomg

Henrika

jinxomg

Henrika

jinxomg

Henrika

I dunno, I very rarely see my bf and NOT have sex with him. Also, do you guys make out a lot? I find making out and being handsy usually turns me on, even when previously I might not have been that interested.

i like when a guy recites poetry

My boyfriend plays piano whee so hawt

redface redface

that means he's good with his hands

you're lucky

Oh believe me I am extremely lucky heart

ehehehe

...

sigh

maybe one day i will have a relationship

or i will just end up with 10 cats

that could work too

lol or both! I have 3 cats and a ferret haha smile


Luckily the BF is not opposed to cats and thinks the ferret is the most badass lil' guy ever.

[Riviera de la Mancha]

Tiberius_The_Space_Viking

Riviera de la Mancha

Tiberius_The_Space_Viking

Riviera de la Mancha

Tiberius_The_Space_Viking

Riviera de la Mancha

Work on better dialogue.

Most people expressing their desire for more sex either frame it badly, or don't explain why they want more sex. Finally, its also often cast as an all-or-nothing thing, that is to say, the person claiming sexual frustration just wants more sex and expects the partner to give it.

Yeah, I try the explaining thing but it turns defensive.

Yeah, like I said, most people can't explain things very well, especially sexual things.

Usually some wine helps the conversation.

Its also the tell-tale sign that you not only can't explain things, but you probably shouldn't be having sex.

How so?

By saying that wine usually helps, you are indicating to me that being somewhat intoxicated helps you and/or your partner explain or understand things. If this is true, that wine usually helps you both in either understanding or explaining, then your normal skills are deficient. That's why wine helps you - you lack the skills or listening skills while sober.

If this is true also, then you want to second guess your choice to have sex, because sex ought to be able to be something you don't "usually" need alcohol to get going, whether its the act itself or the emotional connection before hand. Dialoging is part of that emotional connection.

I live by the general rule that if I can't say something to someone while stone-cold sober, I shouldn't try for the liquid courage to do so, because there is probably a reason stopping me. I need to either get over that reason sober or embrace it.

[Tiberius_The_Space_Viking]

Riviera de la Mancha

Tiberius_The_Space_Viking

Riviera de la Mancha

Tiberius_The_Space_Viking

Riviera de la Mancha

Yeah, like I said, most people can't explain things very well, especially sexual things.

Usually some wine helps the conversation.

Its also the tell-tale sign that you not only can't explain things, but you probably shouldn't be having sex.

How so?

By saying that wine usually helps, you are indicating to me that being somewhat intoxicated helps you and/or your partner explain or understand things. If this is true, that wine usually helps you both in either understanding or explaining, then your normal skills are deficient. That's why wine helps you - you lack the skills or listening skills while sober.

If this is true also, then you want to second guess your choice to have sex, because sex ought to be able to be something you don't "usually" need alcohol to get going, whether its the act itself or the emotional connection before hand. Dialoging is part of that emotional connection.

I live by the general rule that if I can't say something to someone while stone-cold sober, I shouldn't try for the liquid courage to do so, because there is probably a reason stopping me. I need to either get over that reason sober or embrace it.

I'm simply saying the having a glass of wine while bringing up the issue of sex is helpful.

[Tiberius_The_Space_Viking]

Moubliez

It was very very difficult for my partner and I to see eye to eye in this.
We started off passionate and then he said he's actually not a physical person at all, that hugs and kisses were going to be rare and so sex was going to be even more rare.

So pretty much I had to start discussing why I wanted these things. His view on physical stuff is that its overrated and not a big deal, but I don't share even close to that veiw at all.

So I'm sexual frustrated and literally masturbating all week or watching porn or whatever but I have to wait til he comes around to feeling comfortable with it.
It was really really hard at first,
but waiting and waiting doesnt mean being passive aggressive and making comments about it here and there. and I had to learn not to do that, and make sure the environment was as comfertable and neutral as possible, and letting him know if he ever feels ready just let me know. And now he'll hug me on his own, or kiss me, and the past week I havent had to initate sex at all.

So really its stick it out, dont let your partner see how frustrated you are it makes them feel worse and you're going to get the opposite results for that my friends.

Porn gets old fast. Also the whole feeling of wanting sex, but trying not to pressure your partner makes it difficult. The worst is being criticized by your partner for watching porn, like what are you supposed to do at that point?

[Riviera de la Mancha]

Tiberius_The_Space_Viking

Riviera de la Mancha

Tiberius_The_Space_Viking

Riviera de la Mancha

Tiberius_The_Space_Viking

Riviera de la Mancha

Yeah, like I said, most people can't explain things very well, especially sexual things.

Usually some wine helps the conversation.

Its also the tell-tale sign that you not only can't explain things, but you probably shouldn't be having sex.

How so?

By saying that wine usually helps, you are indicating to me that being somewhat intoxicated helps you and/or your partner explain or understand things. If this is true, that wine usually helps you both in either understanding or explaining, then your normal skills are deficient. That's why wine helps you - you lack the skills or listening skills while sober.

If this is true also, then you want to second guess your choice to have sex, because sex ought to be able to be something you don't "usually" need alcohol to get going, whether its the act itself or the emotional connection before hand. Dialoging is part of that emotional connection.

I live by the general rule that if I can't say something to someone while stone-cold sober, I shouldn't try for the liquid courage to do so, because there is probably a reason stopping me. I need to either get over that reason sober or embrace it.

I'm simply saying the having a glass of wine while bringing up the issue of sex is helpful.

I am saying its helpful in the wrong way.