PARENTS. Do you think your children should have privacy?

[I got bored one day]

What the hell did you do? Kill your sister?

[kitten tea]

Yes; they should.
Now, if that child is in constant trouble, then no. I think a parent has a right to look in on things.
I am 16, and I would be absolutly PISSED if my parents got in on my things. I'm not hiding things, but I don't go through their things, do i?

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What exactly is it that you kids are trying to keep hidden from your parents?
And it's not an invasion of privacy when you live in their house.

Well, kids can't exactly choose their parents. They're usually stuck living in their parent's house until they're 18.

To cheetahtmms: I don't even have a lock. My mom just barges in without warning. At least my dad knocks.

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What exactly is it that you kids are trying to keep hidden from your parents?
And it's not an invasion of privacy when you live in their house.

We might not be hiding anything, but for a parent to distrust their children so much that they have to go through their stuff is just wrong. I'm not a bad kid, I don't write about anything bad in my journals or blogs or whatever, but it's NOT RIGTH for a parent to go through their kid's things.

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What exactly is it that you kids are trying to keep hidden from your parents?
And it's not an invasion of privacy when you live in their house.

Well, kids can't exactly choose their parents. They're usually stuck living in their parent's house until they're 18.

So, they should be able to hide things in their parents house because they can't choose their parents? What kind of logic do today's kids use?

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What exactly is it that you kids are trying to keep hidden from your parents?
And it's not an invasion of privacy when you live in their house.

We might not be hiding anything, but for a parent to distrust their children so much that they have to go through their stuff is just wrong. I'm not a bad kid, I don't write about anything bad in my journals or blogs or whatever, but it's NOT RIGTH for a parent to go through their kid's things.

Who says they don't trust them? Kids will always have things they want to hide from their parents, even if it's nothing big enough to warrant hiding it. That doesn't mean the parent does not have every right to look through their child's stuff as long as they live in their house. It is right, you just don't like the idea.

[Overexposure]

Parents, what do you think?
Should kids have a right to their privacy?
Discuss:
Privacy in phone conversations, Instant Messaging, Text Messaging, Diaries, Blogs, Journals, Letters, etc.



First things, first, I am not a parent yet. I am of that age and find myself considering these things now.

So my answer is:
Only as much as they earn.

Privacy is a privilege granted from the trust they've earned from me. Catching them in a lie will make me wonder what else they've lied about and lead to snooping.

With no reason to pry, I would not read a private diary or a blog, but I will correct you on accusing parents of stealing things in their house.

As to the "make them think one thing" part, that is what parents do. Intentionally or otherwise, parents are molding their children to resemble themselves. The goal is to raise a child that is a better person than you are (or so I believe), but your personal beliefs will be passed on.

I reserve the right to know everything that happens in my home. My children will be aware of this and also be aware that I will allow them as much privacy as I trust them with.

A key point to this plan, is to make myself available for them to talk to without shame. I haven't worked out exactly how to do that, but I'll think of something.

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What exactly is it that you kids are trying to keep hidden from your parents?
And it's not an invasion of privacy when you live in their house.

We might not be hiding anything, but for a parent to distrust their children so much that they have to go through their stuff is just wrong. I'm not a bad kid, I don't write about anything bad in my journals or blogs or whatever, but it's NOT RIGTH for a parent to go through their kid's things.

Who says they don't trust them? Kids will always have things they want to hide from their parents, even if it's nothing big enough to warrant hiding it. That doesn't mean the parent does not have every right to look through their child's stuff as long as they live in their house. It is right, you just don't like the idea.

And why would they go through their things if they trust them?
"oh, hey, I'm bored, let's go read Beth's diary."

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What exactly is it that you kids are trying to keep hidden from your parents?
And it's not an invasion of privacy when you live in their house.

We might not be hiding anything, but for a parent to distrust their children so much that they have to go through their stuff is just wrong. I'm not a bad kid, I don't write about anything bad in my journals or blogs or whatever, but it's NOT RIGTH for a parent to go through their kid's things.

Who says they don't trust them? Kids will always have things they want to hide from their parents, even if it's nothing big enough to warrant hiding it. That doesn't mean the parent does not have every right to look through their child's stuff as long as they live in their house. It is right, you just don't like the idea.

And why would they go through their things if they trust them?

You don't need to not trust a kid to check up on what they're doing.

[I got bored one day]

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What exactly is it that you kids are trying to keep hidden from your parents?
And it's not an invasion of privacy when you live in their house.

We might not be hiding anything, but for a parent to distrust their children so much that they have to go through their stuff is just wrong. I'm not a bad kid, I don't write about anything bad in my journals or blogs or whatever, but it's NOT RIGTH for a parent to go through their kid's things.

Who says they don't trust them? Kids will always have things they want to hide from their parents, even if it's nothing big enough to warrant hiding it. That doesn't mean the parent does not have every right to look through their child's stuff as long as they live in their house. It is right, you just don't like the idea.

Humans factually need space. This is not about rights and liberties, this is literally about biology. Not giving your kids space can almost be considered abuse in some cases. You may have the legal right to dive through their personal affects but it's hardly socially accepted or encouraged unless you have just reasoning ( I.E. you washed your kids jeans and found a dime bag or something ).

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What exactly is it that you kids are trying to keep hidden from your parents?
And it's not an invasion of privacy when you live in their house.

We might not be hiding anything, but for a parent to distrust their children so much that they have to go through their stuff is just wrong. I'm not a bad kid, I don't write about anything bad in my journals or blogs or whatever, but it's NOT RIGTH for a parent to go through their kid's things.

Who says they don't trust them? Kids will always have things they want to hide from their parents, even if it's nothing big enough to warrant hiding it. That doesn't mean the parent does not have every right to look through their child's stuff as long as they live in their house. It is right, you just don't like the idea.

And why would they go through their things if they trust them?

You don't need to not trust a kid to check up on what they're doing.

So, it's just RIGHT and PROPER for your parents to walk into your room while you're watching tv, dig around your stuff, and just walk out? Just because they want to?

[Reminiscent Soul Dream]

Death and Misery

What the hell did you do? Kill your sister?

Uhh...no, no I didn't. I don't even have a sister...as far as I know that is.
I just posted this thread to see what others think.
I think my privacy had been broken but my parents believed that nothing in my life is private as long as I live in their house.
So I want to know what others think and if I am right to be angry.

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What exactly is it that you kids are trying to keep hidden from your parents?
And it's not an invasion of privacy when you live in their house.

We might not be hiding anything, but for a parent to distrust their children so much that they have to go through their stuff is just wrong. I'm not a bad kid, I don't write about anything bad in my journals or blogs or whatever, but it's NOT RIGTH for a parent to go through their kid's things.

Who says they don't trust them? Kids will always have things they want to hide from their parents, even if it's nothing big enough to warrant hiding it. That doesn't mean the parent does not have every right to look through their child's stuff as long as they live in their house. It is right, you just don't like the idea.

And why would they go through their things if they trust them?

You don't need to not trust a kid to check up on what they're doing.

So, it's just RIGHT and PROPER for your parents to walk into your room while you're watching tv, dig around your stuff, and just walk out? Just because they want to?

It's by the parent's discretion. It's right, if they choose to, and fine if they don't.

[OneWithDunamis]

If your child is masturbating you should sit there and watch, and make sure he or she doesn't hurt the vital organs or stunt their growths.

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What exactly is it that you kids are trying to keep hidden from your parents?
And it's not an invasion of privacy when you live in their house.

We might not be hiding anything, but for a parent to distrust their children so much that they have to go through their stuff is just wrong. I'm not a bad kid, I don't write about anything bad in my journals or blogs or whatever, but it's NOT RIGTH for a parent to go through their kid's things.

Who says they don't trust them? Kids will always have things they want to hide from their parents, even if it's nothing big enough to warrant hiding it. That doesn't mean the parent does not have every right to look through their child's stuff as long as they live in their house. It is right, you just don't like the idea.

Humans factually need space. This is not about rights and liberties, this is literally about biology. Not giving your kids space can almost be considered abuse in some cases.

Proof, please and thank you.