PARENTS. Do you think your children should have privacy?

[Paramedico]

HorriblyCrazy

crystal_pepzi

HorriblyCrazy

18randa

cheetahtmss

My parents looked through my web history once... I still don't trust them, and that was 4 years ago. Kids should have privacy, absolutely. Unless you have REASON, but before you go through their crap, Talk to them. There are SO many kids that are afraid to talk to their parents, and it sucks. I can't talk to my parents, because they've already told me they don't approve of anything I do. My parents don't even let me lock my own door, not even when I'm getting dressed, so my mom constantly walks in, leaves the door wide open, when we have guests and I'm trying to get dry from the shower. It's horrible not to have privacy.

If my mum did that to me I'd go into her room and totally trash it, steal her phone and then live somewhere else.

Same.

You realize that if you did that you can be arrested, charged and put in juvie for those crimes right?

Bad judgement.

Would you throw your daughter in jail for that? Get mad, sure! Demand money for repairs sure!

And i mean through her blankets and stuff like that around. Maybe through her clothes everywhere. Not break the window.

If a child thinks that they can get away with damaging or stealing anyone's property, especially their parents' property, and cannot be dealt with by any other means, then law enforcement can and should be involved.

Unfortunately, there isn't a lot parents can do on their own to manage a destructive child when they reach a certain age. Some parents throw in the towel and say, "Well, I can't do anything to stop them and they know it, they're just gonna keep acting this way and I can't stop them." and others say, "Fine. You want to act like a criminal? Then you're going to be dealt with like a criminal, I don't care if you are my son or daughter." and I don't really know which way is better, but I'm inclined to think that an unruly child who cannot be controlled any other way must be dealt with by any (legal) means possible, even if that means having them put into juvenile detention and sent to a counselor. Hopefully, the dislike of being locked up combined with therapy can teach them that, as much as they may dislike their parents' rules, they must obey them so long as those rules do not violate the law.

[crystal_pepzi]

HorriblyCrazy

crystal_pepzi

HorriblyCrazy

18randa

cheetahtmss

My parents looked through my web history once... I still don't trust them, and that was 4 years ago. Kids should have privacy, absolutely. Unless you have REASON, but before you go through their crap, Talk to them. There are SO many kids that are afraid to talk to their parents, and it sucks. I can't talk to my parents, because they've already told me they don't approve of anything I do. My parents don't even let me lock my own door, not even when I'm getting dressed, so my mom constantly walks in, leaves the door wide open, when we have guests and I'm trying to get dry from the shower. It's horrible not to have privacy.

If my mum did that to me I'd go into her room and totally trash it, steal her phone and then live somewhere else.

Same.

You realize that if you did that you can be arrested, charged and put in juvie for those crimes right?

Bad judgement.

Would you throw your daughter in jail for that? Get mad, sure! Demand money for repairs sure!

And i mean through her blankets and stuff like that around. Maybe through her clothes everywhere. Not break the window.

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Stealing is just as bad as breaking things. And though I would rather take almost any other action besides having my sons arrested, if i thought that no other way would teach them such things are unacceptable I would regretfully do it. It would be my last option though.

[Yami no Hitokiri]

This whole problem could be avoided if we abolished the age of majority and just let people move out whenever they felt they were ready.

[Prince Rilian]

Princess Z-M

HorriblyCrazy

No offense ma'm,
But you sound like a b***h....

Do you have children? Have you taken any type of Child development classes?

If not then kindly shut your mouth. Anyone who knows anything worth a damn about children and teenagers know for a fact MOST of them can't be trusted.

I disagree. Most people, including minors, are not evil or amoral.

Getting to know some children for realz is how you actually know them, not by taking stupid classes.

[Prince Rilian]

Crazy Game Informer

Reminiscent Soul Dream

And I think this brings up another point.
Isn't it a natural thing for a parent to worry about their children? They could just use the excuse of "I was worried about her/him" to get away with reading their son/daughter's diary or journal.

You can't really say that parents won't lie about it. They might say they are always worried and because of their responsibility as a parent, they should be given the right to invade their child's privacy - mainly referring to reading a diary/journal. They might be perfectly content of their child/children's behavior and attitude but may use the excuse of worry to intervene in their child's life because their child doesn't do things the way their parents want them to. There is more than one way to do something right.

Why the hell would a parent lie about something like that?

I don't know, but people do weird things. I told a couple of lies in childhood, but I've caught my parents in dozens of lies. And who knows how many I haven't caught?

[Legendary_Blade]

My parents told me they felt i was mature enough, at an early age, to keep some level of privacy and even pick out my own movies or videogames. Despite their ratings, I was generally allowed to watch or play what I wanted. I'm currently a college student going for my major in Computer Info Systems (Programming major), straight A student, and I'm being recommended to take a job tutoring by my teachers. I'd like to think I came out alright.

What i'm saying is it's not necessarily harmful to give your kids some room. However, all children are generally different. The levels of freedom I got may not be wise for some kids.

[Prince Rilian]

crystal_pepzi

HorriblyCrazy

18randa

cheetahtmss

My parents looked through my web history once... I still don't trust them, and that was 4 years ago. Kids should have privacy, absolutely. Unless you have REASON, but before you go through their crap, Talk to them. There are SO many kids that are afraid to talk to their parents, and it sucks. I can't talk to my parents, because they've already told me they don't approve of anything I do. My parents don't even let me lock my own door, not even when I'm getting dressed, so my mom constantly walks in, leaves the door wide open, when we have guests and I'm trying to get dry from the shower. It's horrible not to have privacy.

If my mum did that to me I'd go into her room and totally trash it, steal her phone and then live somewhere else.

Same.

You realize that if you did that you can be arrested, charged and put in juvie for those crimes right?

No, I don't. Prove.

[Prince Rilian]

If your parents aren't reasonable, then it becomes a who-can-stand-it-longer thing. Who will get sick of the yelling and give in first? Or maybe it will go beyond that and be a physical strength contest. Unfairly, when you are young your parents are usually stronger than you, especially if there's two of them and only one of you. Might makes right, you know.

[veren enkeli]

Hm, I'm going to try and evaluate this with an unbiased view.


If the kid seems to be guilty of suspicious activity then I say intrusion is more than important. If the kid is getting straight As, doesn't do drugs/doesn't hang out with the wrong crowd, etc, then I say leave them alone.
More importantly just make your child feel loved and give reasons for whatever rules you have for them.

[I got bored one day]

Healthy Kids need Privacy

[Foxie-Sama]

Overexposure

Parents, what do you think?
Should kids have a right to their privacy?
Discuss:
Privacy in phone conversations, Instant Messaging, Text Messaging, Diaries, Blogs, Journals, Letters, etc.

First things, first, I am not a parent yet. I am of that age and find myself considering these things now.

So my answer is:
Only as much as they earn.

Privacy is a privilege granted from the trust they've earned from me. Catching them in a lie will make me wonder what else they've lied about and lead to snooping.

With no reason to pry, I would not read a private diary or a blog, but I will correct you on accusing parents of stealing things in their house.

As to the "make them think one thing" part, that is what parents do. Intentionally or otherwise, parents are molding their children to resemble themselves. The goal is to raise a child that is a better person than you are (or so I believe), but your personal beliefs will be passed on.

I reserve the right to know everything that happens in my home. My children will be aware of this and also be aware that I will allow them as much privacy as I trust them with.

A key point to this plan, is to make myself available for them to talk to without shame. I haven't worked out exactly how to do that, but I'll think of something.
This has to be the most intellegent post in this thread. It sums up my views on this issue. I have just one thing to add. Why should the parent know whats going on in their own house? Because if something illegal is going on, its the parent that gets the rap, the kid, no so much. If the kid is growing pot in the house, and the police raid it, the parent is going to jail first.

[Blakaize]

I'd stay out of my kids' stuff unless they give me reason to look.
If they start acting strangely, do a face-heel turn, or ******** up to the point where they don't desearve my respect or my acknowledgment of their privacy, well, that privelege is revoked.
So long as they live in my house, that's my perogotive.

[Foxie-Sama]

Rawkxy

More often then not, if kids are given their 'privacy' they're gonna do something stupid.
Parents need to keep a CLOSER watch on their children if anything.

I require proof that a kid will ******** up if they are given the opportunity.

[7-Volt]

I give him all the privacy he wants. I don't like it when people snoop into my stuff, so why should I do it to him?

[Reminiscent Soul Dream]

veren enkeli

Hm, I'm going to try and evaluate this with an unbiased view.


If the kid seems to be guilty of suspicious activity then I say intrusion is more than important. If the kid is getting straight As, doesn't do drugs/doesn't hang out with the wrong crowd, etc, then I say leave them alone.
More importantly just make your child feel loved and give reasons for whatever rules you have for them.

I like unbiased views on this too!
People can't try to flame or insult or judge you.
And, I agree with you. Parents should tell their kids the reasons they set rules, rather than say "Because I'm your parent and I said so."
Understanding and communication should be two key aspects in developing a trusting and positive family relationship. Children won't behave or make as good decisions if they don't understand why their parents are doing what they are doing, or if their parents don't communicate well with them.