PARENTS. Do you think your children should have privacy?

[HorriblyCrazy]

As a teen I know that I would move out if my mom read my diary. I would be furious. It's a total invasion of privacy. I think that if you read your daughters diary that you are a flat out horrible person. If she's acting weird and in drug-related then she'll be suspicious and her diary wont talk about it. If you think she likes a boy then you shouldn't really care anyways because its just a crush.

Parent's should not try to go ninja,
We'll hate you when we find out.
And we will. 3nodding

[HorriblyCrazy]

crystal_pepzi

I'm the mother of two children.
I'll give my kids privacy as long as I believe that they're acting responsibly and are hanging out with an appropriate social circle. (This is not about cliques so much as it is about the personal behavior of their friends.) I do however reserve the right to put keystroke tracking software on my computer, check websites, install programs to record websites, the usernames and passwords on said websites as well as listen into conversations that are being held, look through their room or take any other steps I feel are necessary to keep them on what I consider the right track.

Any idiot knows that kids will lie if they think they can get away with it. I don't care how sweet they are or how much their parents trust them. I've seen it all, I've lived it before. And considering the crap gaia has on it now, they've only gotten worse.

So yeah, privacy is a given until they ******** up. Then I'm breaking out the lojack.

No offense ma'm,
But you sound like a b***h. Have faith in your kids. If they ******** it's because you didn't teach them 100% right, not just because of friends. I'd be a ******** without my friends. They save me from ruining my life. I trust your kids are likely the same.

I'd like to remind you, I did say no offense.

[Shattered_Blood_Molecules]

EmotionallyInconsistent

I feel privacy is a must... at least to me since I often have to vent about people, things and other stuff... if say my father got wind of what I think of him and his hypocrisy he'd probably be motivated to act out in violence again. neutral

Reminds me of how wonderful it is my mother doesn't read my diary. Oh, she would cry if she read it!

[xXGreenlylXx]

I think everyone has a right to privacy. If something seemed wrong to me and I was concerned I would look for information but they would know that and why I was concerned. I would give them the opportunity to respond before I went through their stuff and I would have to be very concerned. Other wise I would give my kids the privacy I would want in return.

[PeppyLawliet]

Kids NEED privacy. Without it, we would feel constantly paranoid and afraid to do anything, worried about the consequences.
In my household, my sister and I are not allowed to even close our doors. I feel extremely paranoid that somebody is watching me during my privacy time. If we close our doors, our parents are always like "Are you hiding something from us?". It makes me feel overprotected. I want to have a sense of freedom.

[Obscurity-cross]

Personaly I feel we need our privacy, but also we need to be able to talk to parents knowing we can trust them to listen to us and help rather than go off on a rant at us.

My mother constantly wants to know what i'm doing,talking about,talking to,writing and all that when im in my room. When her and my stepdad were having a look at my PC to see why it was screwing up, they reset my password, looked through my history and made an admin account. I now no longer trust her. I also feel I can't talk to her about anything because she seems to make a joke out of it rather than taking me seriously.

So privacy is important, because it helps to build trust, but in some situations it's a good idea to sit down and talk because the child could have something important they want to talk about.

[Prince Rilian]

husbands, do you think wives should have privacy?
masters, do you think slaves should have privacy?
government, do you think citizens should have privacy?

[Yami no Hitokiri]

Princess Z-M

No, it's a matter of different styles of parenting. Most comedians especially minority ones will tell you. Colored kids don't get the same "rights" white kids do. See when I was a child we didn't have locks on our doors and our parents could just bust into our rooms at any given moment and with the 4-9 of us running around the house you would have been stupid writing out anything in a book. When we finally did get a computer it was in dead center in the living room right next to the TV.

Again it's my damn house why should a child have privacy? What's to hide? I can't help but agree with Judge Judy when she said the only good teen is knocked out teen. I wish more parents used a bit more "caution" then all this teen violence and drama would cut down.

What people seem to not understand is Children under the age of 18 don't have the right to privacy when it comes to their parents. That's BS most of the time though assuming the parents are respectable people. Now due to the change in times some groups feel that children should be granted some "rights". However again that's for the parents to decided.

As again whatever in my house that I paid cash money for is mine. Rather or not some people disagree with that is fine but I'm have the right to raise my kid how I wish. I don't see anything wrong with it.

As I feel in a real trusting relationship no one hides anything and there's no need for any privacy.

Denying a person privacy causes stress because they must constantly vet their behavior. I'm sure you'd enjoy having to change your clothes in plain view of everyone.

Furthermore, denying privacy doesn't necessarily mean that teens won't do anything bad because of the fear of getting caught. It simply means they will get better at hiding it.

[Princess Z-M]

Yami no Hitokiri

Denying a person privacy causes stress because they must constantly vet their behavior. I'm sure you'd enjoy having to change your clothes in plain view of everyone.

Furthermore, denying privacy doesn't necessarily mean that teens won't do anything bad because of the fear of getting caught. It simply means they will get better at hiding it.

Like I said different styles of parenting. That's your opinion and not a full on fact.

Like I said it all boils down to what kind of relationship you have with your child and if BOTH trust each other there's no need for privacy. Also, I fail to see how the lack of privacy leads to nudity.

[Princess Z-M]

HorriblyCrazy

No offense ma'm,
But you sound like a b***h....

Do you have children? Have you taken any type of Child development classes?

If not then kindly shut your mouth. Anyone who knows anything worth a damn about children and teenagers know for a fact MOST of them can't be trusted. Really when you young the simplest stuff seems like a big deal. You constantly changing and making wrong decisions.

I salute parents that go the extra mile in parenting. You have no right to call that woman a b***h. Granted you don't know what her kids are like.

You sound like a spoiled American teenager who probably could use a good kick in the pants.

[Consecrated Oblivion]

Princess Z-M

HorriblyCrazy

No offense ma'm,
But you sound like a b***h....

Do you have children? Have you taken any type of Child development classes?

If not then kindly shut your mouth. Anyone who knows anything worth a damn about children and teenagers know for a fact MOST of them can't be trusted. Really when you young the simplest stuff seems like a big deal. You constantly changing and making wrong decisions.

I salute parents that go the extra mile in parenting. You have no right to call that woman a b***h. Granted you don't know what her kids are like.

You sound like a spoiled American teenager who probably could use a good kick in the pants.

Generalization in bold.

[Princess Z-M]

Consecrated Oblivion

Princess Z-M

HorriblyCrazy

No offense ma'm,
But you sound like a b***h....

Do you have children? Have you taken any type of Child development classes?

If not then kindly shut your mouth. Anyone who knows anything worth a damn about children and teenagers know for a fact MOST of them can't be trusted. Really when you young the simplest stuff seems like a big deal. You constantly changing and making wrong decisions.

I salute parents that go the extra mile in parenting. You have no right to call that woman a b***h. Granted you don't know what her kids are like.

You sound like a spoiled American teenager who probably could use a good kick in the pants.

Generalization in bold.

Hence I said Most. Stats show teens make stupid choices. It's one of the worst periods of MOST people. Your body, mind, and morals all go through various changes. Add that to the peer pressure, social norms, media, and a host of other environmental affects yeah I don't see how that a generalization at all.

More like a highly educated statement.

[Paramedico]

Legally, minors do not have the same rights as adults do; including the right to refuse medical treatment, the right to enter a contractual agreement, etc. They have, as far as I know, no right to privacy assured by the law.

Ethically, good parenting I believe generally requires a certain extension of trust placed on the child. However, I do not agree that children are guaranteed or should be guaranteed anything as if they were adults fully protected by the law against their parents. They are still under the guardianship of their parents, and subject to their wishes so long as those do not violate any law of the established government.

In short: they are not adults, and cannot be treated as such. Doing so, I believe, is foolish and harmful to all parties involved.

[Reminiscent Soul Dream]

Princess Z-M

Consecrated Oblivion

Princess Z-M

HorriblyCrazy

No offense ma'm,
But you sound like a b***h....

Do you have children? Have you taken any type of Child development classes?

If not then kindly shut your mouth. Anyone who knows anything worth a damn about children and teenagers know for a fact MOST of them can't be trusted. Really when you young the simplest stuff seems like a big deal. You constantly changing and making wrong decisions.

I salute parents that go the extra mile in parenting. You have no right to call that woman a b***h. Granted you don't know what her kids are like.

You sound like a spoiled American teenager who probably could use a good kick in the pants.

Generalization in bold.

Hence I said Most. Stats show teens make stupid choices. It's one of the worst periods of MOST people. Your body, mind, and morals all go through various changes. Add that to the peer pressure, social norms, media, and a host of other environmental affects yeah I don't see how that a generalization at all.

More like a highly educated statement.

I'm sorry - but this is a perfect example of how privacy and how much privacy given depends on each family.

In my opinion, that is.

So one person says that according to stats, most teens make negative choices.
MOST. So therefore, there must be a number of teens out there, however little, that make POSITIVE choices. Therefore, those teens may be granted more privacy than others.
But then, doesn't it depend on the parents' views of thinking? What if a teen is constantly doing good things, making good choices, and has never been caught doing anything bad or has done anything bad, or always fixes his/her mistakes after doing something wrong? And yet the parent still does not grant the child any privacy? Is that right or wrong? And in this situation I am questioning - the parents KNOW their child fixes his/her mistakes and does/make good decisions.

[Reminiscent Soul Dream]

Paramedico

Legally, minors do not have the same rights as adults do; including the right to refuse medical treatment, the right to enter a contractual agreement, etc. They have, as far as I know, no right to privacy assured by the law.

Ethically, good parenting I believe generally requires a certain extension of trust placed on the child. However, I do not agree that children are guaranteed or should be guaranteed anything as if they were adults fully protected by the law against their parents. They are still under the guardianship of their parents, and subject to their wishes so long as those do not violate any law of the established government.

In short: they are not adults, and cannot be treated as such. Doing so, I believe, is foolish and harmful to all parties involved.

You did say 'as far as you know'.
But I think I can change that.

My teacher last year told the class about this case of privacy.
http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/localnews/2002114234_webprivacy09.html

Of course, even with this Privacy Act, there's another side to it, mainly from parents that I think people ought to read as well.

http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/localnews/2002118807_privacyfolo14.html