Marluxiana
(?)Community Member
- Posted: Sun, 07 Oct 2012 12:52:11 +0000
Now here's something to think about!
A nice guy will open the door for you, return your wallet, help you move in. He doesn't expect anything. He does it because he wants to help.
Nice Guys, however... They'll do all that, too. Except that they don't do it because they're nice.. The entire time, they are thinking they deserve something for it. Sometimes, yes, it's a date or sex. Other times, they feel you're obligated to give them something, like friendship. They feel ENTITLED to something.
Nice Guys are the people who complain that a woman they've given flowers and opened doors for and bought lunch for won't go on a date with them, why is she so stuck up? Why won't she go on a date with me because I did all this stuff for her? Why are all women so stuck up? There is a habit of lumping all women together and a refusal to look at their own flaws. Everything is the other person's fault.
(There are female equivalents, as a disclaimer.)
Do not be a Nice Guy. Be a nice guy.
A nice guy will open the door for you, return your wallet, help you move in. He doesn't expect anything. He does it because he wants to help.
Nice Guys, however... They'll do all that, too. Except that they don't do it because they're nice.. The entire time, they are thinking they deserve something for it. Sometimes, yes, it's a date or sex. Other times, they feel you're obligated to give them something, like friendship. They feel ENTITLED to something.
Nice Guys are the people who complain that a woman they've given flowers and opened doors for and bought lunch for won't go on a date with them, why is she so stuck up? Why won't she go on a date with me because I did all this stuff for her? Why are all women so stuck up? There is a habit of lumping all women together and a refusal to look at their own flaws. Everything is the other person's fault.
(There are female equivalents, as a disclaimer.)
Do not be a Nice Guy. Be a nice guy.