Sexual Innuendo
Omorose Panya
I will rephrase and then give up. There is overemphasis of the idea that, if you're a guy and you're not gettng a girl off, it is merely because you're not rubbing her c**t the right way, "moving your d**k in her the right way," etc., and basically no emphasis on the idea that she possibly just isn't turned on right now and isn't all that interesting in ********. Maybe she wants the foreplay without the sex. Who knows. But there are other things to consider besides just body parts and "correcting" techniques. I was
furthering your original point.
'S'all I was saying.
I mean, yeah, but most people don't believe that a man is 100% responsible for the woman's orgasm, and if he can't make her orgasm, he is doing something wrong. Sometimes I can't because I am too tired, too full (lol what a fatass but seriously), too drunk, or am just not horny enough, even if my lover is doing the same stuff that always gets me off. Just depends on the situation.
But, I feel like 9 times out of 10, when a woman can't orgasm, her lover is either unskilled, uneducated, lazy, or selfish.
I never said or even implied that most people think men are 100% responsible for women's orgasms. Your last statement, however, does imply that men are damn near close to it.
You're painting with too boad of brush strokes. That a man might be having trouble bringing woman X to orgasm does not imply that he is, in a general sense, "unskilled, uneducated, lazy, or selfish." Remember that learning curb I spoke of earlier? It very could just be a matter of him having to figure out how to please woman X.
My guess is that it's much more likely that she's having sex when she doesn't necessary want to, or at least when she's not quite ready to, more than purely him being incompetent and/or an a*****e. And if he
is "uneducated" about and "unskilled" at pleasingt her, then in my mind it is her responsibility to teach him rather than blame or berate him for not simply knowing.