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Have you ever considered Infantilism?

Yes. 0.10983563788155 11.0% [ 421 ]
No. 0.69449517349335 69.4% [ 2662 ]
I am an infantilist...And I hearby claim one of your cookies! 0.1956691886251 19.6% [ 750 ]
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EliteDanneh
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EliteDanneh
Aww! Bless you! I highly advise a pacifier for you! I wish you all the best!

Pacifiers cut my insomnia from 2 hours to 15 minutes.
Not sure if I'm sleepy yet, but it IS making me more relaxed.


That's progress, right?

And congrats on taking a step to helping yourself. Thank you for believing in me. ^_^
Thanks. Just needed that confidence booster, I guess.


3nodding Don't worry about it. I have difficulty sleeping without my fleece blanket and Chotto (my teddy bear that's about 3/4 my size). Do anything you can to help yourself sleep, insomnia is bad XD
Working on getting the teddybear, too. I kinda left it in Tampa last year, then ended up running from a storm and getting lost. I don't know if it was ever shipped to me or not.

Gah. Wonder what my roommate will think if she sees the teddybear and pacifier. She's always trying to get me to act like a grownup. I mean, hello! It's possible to act mature without acting grown-up, right? Hmph.
rolleyes
EliteDanneh
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Doubt it. He's never had the opportunity to control his anger. But he never acts that way in front of our parents. It's when I say no to him, like when I don't want him looking over my shoulder (it makes me uneasy). that's when he gets physical, or throws/breaks stuff.


Ah...I've never had a little brother or sister...So I wouldn't know what that's like.

Take control of him and let him know how you feel...He's at an impressionable age...If you don't sort him soon, he'll move on to violence upon others.


There's the problem. Not only do I justify it in my mind, but I take no action against it. He's calmed down over the years, but it's still there. And I'll be moving out on my own soon. So there's little I can do.


I suppose you just do your best then...Huh? Just cope with him for now...And once you get a place of your own, you can be all happy and stuff!


Whee! whee Yay for happy and stuff! I'll be a lot more comfortable once I get out of here. Then I'll actually be held and some of my paranoia will go away.


And you can deal with your infantile tendancies and experiment a little more. ^_^
What have you actually tried so far?


Not much. Right now I'm concentrating more on my transgenderism because it's a more direct issue for me.
crystalline138
I want my slaw!
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EliteDanneh
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EliteDanneh
Aww! Bless you! I highly advise a pacifier for you! I wish you all the best!

Pacifiers cut my insomnia from 2 hours to 15 minutes.
Not sure if I'm sleepy yet, but it IS making me more relaxed.


That's progress, right?

And congrats on taking a step to helping yourself. Thank you for believing in me. ^_^
Thanks. Just needed that confidence booster, I guess.


3nodding Don't worry about it. I have difficulty sleeping without my fleece blanket and Chotto (my teddy bear that's about 3/4 my size). Do anything you can to help yourself sleep, insomnia is bad XD
Working on getting the teddybear, too. I kinda left it in Tampa last year, then ended up running from a storm and getting lost. I don't know if it was ever shipped to me or not.

Gah. Wonder what my roommate will think if she sees the teddybear and pacifier. She's always trying to get me to act like a grownup. I mean, hello! It's possible to act mature without acting grown-up, right? Hmph.
rolleyes


My boyfriend is the one that gave me my giant teddy bear. So he's fine with it XD Helps I'll be living with him.
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uh, no comment


Then please don't post...

This is an EXTENDED DISCUSSION thread after all...
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EliteDanneh
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EliteDanneh
I want my slaw!


There's the problem. Not only do I justify it in my mind, but I take no action against it. He's calmed down over the years, but it's still there. And I'll be moving out on my own soon. So there's little I can do.


I suppose you just do your best then...Huh? Just cope with him for now...And once you get a place of your own, you can be all happy and stuff!


Whee! whee Yay for happy and stuff! I'll be a lot more comfortable once I get out of here. Then I'll actually be held and some of my paranoia will go away.


And you can deal with your infantile tendancies and experiment a little more. ^_^
What have you actually tried so far?


Not much. Right now I'm concentrating more on my transgenderism because it's a more direct issue for me.
You too, huh? That kinda sucks... it's obviously something I wouldn't be telling the therapist about, that's for sure. razz

Almost as bad as being multiple or something in their eyes, honestly... "Oh, you're an infantilist, you can't be sane or mature enough to undertake this..."

Something like that, I guess.
EliteDanneh
Some people believe infantilism is wrong and incorrect.

Some people believe that infantilism is even somewhat peadophilic.

Some people believe that infantilism is just sad and stupid.

Being an infantilist myself, I would like to discuss with you all my reasons for which I enjoy it, I am willing to take on all criticism as long as it is constructive, and i'll TRY to answer all questions to the best of my ability. Now...I'll give you MY best definition of infantilism:

Infantilism is the act of having the mindset of a chiild or roleplaying out the act of a child at a much younger age. (Usually below nine...Anything past such is usually referred to as age play.)
Infantilism consists of different elements for each infantilist.
Now, I will try to address some of the items what make it special for an infantilist and why some infantilists may enjoy it.

Pacifiers: Many infantilists (Like myself) take great security and find safety in sucking a pacifier. For some it is because of an oral fixation, and for some it is just all part of being an infant.

Diapers/Nappies: Too many infantilists, they may remember the love put into the application of such items...The feelings, the love, and just the general idea of it. For some, the dirtying and wetting of a diaper is a major turn on, these come under two categories:
Coprophilia - A paraphilia in which sexual arousal is attained in connection with feces. (From the Greek copros, meaning "dung." wink
Urophilia - A paraphilia in which sexual arousal is associated with urine.
(Thank you to Mallow Nimbus for finding this information out for me.)

Clothing: Many infantilists find comfort and innocence in the clothing...For some its all just about the look.

TV Programs: Depending on the regressed age of the infantilist and maturity of the real person, this can vary, programs can vary, and as their are too many programs to mention, i'll not give examples...Though for many of us, the bright colours and odd elements of such programs are quite attractive and entertaining...Much like any of you watching a drama or a documentary.

Cribs, cots, strollers, toys ETC: For some, the fixation with toys is all part of the fun and can tie in with the TV programs. Strollers are a rare fixation as are cots/cribs. These are usually for those lucky enough to have found a 'mommy' or a 'daddy'.

To make it easier to understand, I have decided to define 'mommy' for you, this can easily be changed in the basis of a 'daddy'.

A mommy is a person who will 'take care' of the infantilist in a manner which is desired by both parties, this mommy is rarely a legit mother, but usually a sexual partner or a VERY close friend, in the rare cases of teens who have come out about it, it's possible to be a nanny, a legitimate mother or a surrogate mother...And in quite a few cases, a friends mother.

Now. What I'd like to ask is:

How do you view people like myself?

And before you judge my needs and likes. Here is some general information about me:

I am 16, own three of my own business', have an active social life, was never sexually or mentally abused and am what most would consider normal being a college student studying both BTEC computing and CISCO Networking.
My interests in infantilism are: Pacifiers, TV Programs, fuss, love and attention.
I DO NOT have issues, as proved by several psychologists and psychiatrists whom I have spoke to about this subject.
My involvement within this activity varies from about an 1-2hours a day and usually sticks to my own bedroom. It usually consists of me watching TV programs at about 6am to 7am and sucking a pacifier to get me off to sleep.
Out of the home, my activity sometimes extends out to giddiness and clingyness, I DO NOT have any interest in strollers or baby like toys. My infant age is '4'.
I have considered diapers and am still willing to try them, I don't know if I could bring myself to USE them, but the idea of the comfort of wearing one fascinates me and I know the only way i'll find out is by wearing one.

Now, I hearby claim this discussion thread to be open!

Topic of the thread as of current: (Due to the need to always change the topic on hand, topics will be changed with posts from myself stating a topic change, please read round to find out the most recent topic or raise a relevant topic yourself.)

Links:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ageplay - Contributed by Ruffil
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Infantilism - Contributed by EliteDanneh
http://www.arielcrawford.com - Awesome 50 chapter story about a young 6 year old girl who regresses backwards and forwards, it illustrates that infantilism can incorporate both adult and infantilist items, for a mix that the person is comfortable with. - EliteDanneh

http://www.toddlertime.com/dx/regression/infantilism.htm - Contributed by Open Book.
http://www.toddlertime.com/regression/infantilism.htm - Contributed by Open Book
http://www.gaiaonline.com/gaia/redirect.php?r=http://www.toddlertime.com/regression/infantilism.htm Contributed by EliteDanneh
http://www.dpf.com - Contributed bylucivaryaslana
http://www.gettingit.com/article/621 - Contributed lucivaryaslana
http://www.liljennie.com/infdef.php - Contributed lucivaryaslana http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Meadows/5838/facts.html - Contributed by lucivaryaslana


Very unusual, but well stated. I would have no issue with it unless it actually involved a juvenile, other than yourself, and since it doesn't, merely adults, I think you are fine, just rather unique in your personal desires.
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crystalline138
I want my slaw!
crystalline138
EliteDanneh


That's progress, right?

And congrats on taking a step to helping yourself. Thank you for believing in me. ^_^
Thanks. Just needed that confidence booster, I guess.


3nodding Don't worry about it. I have difficulty sleeping without my fleece blanket and Chotto (my teddy bear that's about 3/4 my size). Do anything you can to help yourself sleep, insomnia is bad XD
Working on getting the teddybear, too. I kinda left it in Tampa last year, then ended up running from a storm and getting lost. I don't know if it was ever shipped to me or not.

Gah. Wonder what my roommate will think if she sees the teddybear and pacifier. She's always trying to get me to act like a grownup. I mean, hello! It's possible to act mature without acting grown-up, right? Hmph.
rolleyes


My boyfriend is the one that gave me my giant teddy bear. So he's fine with it XD Helps I'll be living with him.
In my case, our girlfriend is ok with it as well, but she's across the ocean.
crystalline138
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EliteDanneh
I want my slaw!
EliteDanneh
I want my slaw!


There's the problem. Not only do I justify it in my mind, but I take no action against it. He's calmed down over the years, but it's still there. And I'll be moving out on my own soon. So there's little I can do.


I suppose you just do your best then...Huh? Just cope with him for now...And once you get a place of your own, you can be all happy and stuff!


Whee! whee Yay for happy and stuff! I'll be a lot more comfortable once I get out of here. Then I'll actually be held and some of my paranoia will go away.


And you can deal with your infantile tendancies and experiment a little more. ^_^
What have you actually tried so far?


Not much. Right now I'm concentrating more on my transgenderism because it's a more direct issue for me.
You too, huh? That kinda sucks... it's obviously something I wouldn't be telling the therapist about, that's for sure. razz

Almost as bad as being multiple or something in their eyes, honestly... "Oh, you're an infantilist, you can't be sane or mature enough to undertake this..."

Something like that, I guess.


Wouldn't embracing it show that you're more mature instead of just assuming you're messed up? That's how I think about it. Hey, I got my kinks from a lack of love from my parents. I'll admit that. And if the therapist is actually worth your money, they'll understand that.
crystalline138
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I want my slaw!
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EliteDanneh


That's progress, right?

And congrats on taking a step to helping yourself. Thank you for believing in me. ^_^
Thanks. Just needed that confidence booster, I guess.


3nodding Don't worry about it. I have difficulty sleeping without my fleece blanket and Chotto (my teddy bear that's about 3/4 my size). Do anything you can to help yourself sleep, insomnia is bad XD
Working on getting the teddybear, too. I kinda left it in Tampa last year, then ended up running from a storm and getting lost. I don't know if it was ever shipped to me or not.

Gah. Wonder what my roommate will think if she sees the teddybear and pacifier. She's always trying to get me to act like a grownup. I mean, hello! It's possible to act mature without acting grown-up, right? Hmph.
rolleyes


My boyfriend is the one that gave me my giant teddy bear. So he's fine with it XD Helps I'll be living with him.
In my case, our girlfriend is ok with it as well, but she's across the ocean.


How old is she? Does she or you have the funds to move in with each other at some point in the future?
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Aww! Bless you! I highly advise a pacifier for you! I wish you all the best!

Pacifiers cut my insomnia from 2 hours to 15 minutes.
Not sure if I'm sleepy yet, but it IS making me more relaxed.


That's progress, right?

And congrats on taking a step to helping yourself. Thank you for believing in me. ^_^
Thanks. Just needed that confidence booster, I guess.


3nodding Don't worry about it. I have difficulty sleeping without my fleece blanket and Chotto (my teddy bear that's about 3/4 my size). Do anything you can to help yourself sleep, insomnia is bad XD
Working on getting the teddybear, too. I kinda left it in Tampa last year, then ended up running from a storm and getting lost. I don't know if it was ever shipped to me or not.

Gah. Wonder what my roommate will think if she sees the teddybear and pacifier. She's always trying to get me to act like a grownup. I mean, hello! It's possible to act mature without acting grown-up, right? Hmph.
rolleyes


Just come out about it and tell her, you'll feel better for it. ^_^
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I never saw Infantilism as any form of *****. There might be acceptions to this, but most times when I've seen things on this form of fetish, it always involves adults.
As long as no ones getting hurt, it doesn't bother me.
EliteDanneh
crystalline138
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EliteDanneh


That's progress, right?

And congrats on taking a step to helping yourself. Thank you for believing in me. ^_^
Thanks. Just needed that confidence booster, I guess.


3nodding Don't worry about it. I have difficulty sleeping without my fleece blanket and Chotto (my teddy bear that's about 3/4 my size). Do anything you can to help yourself sleep, insomnia is bad XD
Working on getting the teddybear, too. I kinda left it in Tampa last year, then ended up running from a storm and getting lost. I don't know if it was ever shipped to me or not.

Gah. Wonder what my roommate will think if she sees the teddybear and pacifier. She's always trying to get me to act like a grownup. I mean, hello! It's possible to act mature without acting grown-up, right? Hmph.
rolleyes


Just come out about it and tell her, you'll feel better for it. ^_^


Make sure she understands it's not always connected to sex though ^^;;; Otherwise you might get a very negative reaction.
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How old is she? Does she or you have the funds to move in with each other at some point in the future?
She's 23.

We're working two jobs at the moment to get there for September or so. We've got a couple of transition-related expenses to get out of the way first.
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There's the problem. Not only do I justify it in my mind, but I take no action against it. He's calmed down over the years, but it's still there. And I'll be moving out on my own soon. So there's little I can do.


I suppose you just do your best then...Huh? Just cope with him for now...And once you get a place of your own, you can be all happy and stuff!


Whee! whee Yay for happy and stuff! I'll be a lot more comfortable once I get out of here. Then I'll actually be held and some of my paranoia will go away.


And you can deal with your infantile tendancies and experiment a little more. ^_^
What have you actually tried so far?


Not much. Right now I'm concentrating more on my transgenderism because it's a more direct issue for me.


One step at a time is the best way to take it. <3
EliteDanneh
crystalline138
I want my slaw!
crystalline138
EliteDanneh


That's progress, right?

And congrats on taking a step to helping yourself. Thank you for believing in me. ^_^
Thanks. Just needed that confidence booster, I guess.


3nodding Don't worry about it. I have difficulty sleeping without my fleece blanket and Chotto (my teddy bear that's about 3/4 my size). Do anything you can to help yourself sleep, insomnia is bad XD
Working on getting the teddybear, too. I kinda left it in Tampa last year, then ended up running from a storm and getting lost. I don't know if it was ever shipped to me or not.

Gah. Wonder what my roommate will think if she sees the teddybear and pacifier. She's always trying to get me to act like a grownup. I mean, hello! It's possible to act mature without acting grown-up, right? Hmph.
rolleyes


Just come out about it and tell her, you'll feel better for it. ^_^
She already knows. It didn't really help matters.

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