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I really don't care for coming onto the ED threads because I really dislike debating, but a topic came up that I wanted to research came up and so I came here. But instead found this one. So I've decided to give my two bits and in no way shape or form am I trying to get into anyone's face about their opinions.
I myself, am a born and bred Mormon. My father is an extremely religious man and a regular person many of you'd find "annoying". He's the one that 'll invite you to church or other church functions or just try to have a conversation with you about it. And so, you have the hard headed Mormon. Then there is myself. After years of seeing some of the hypocritical practices in the church for too long, I'll tell you know, I have my own views and I'll share these with you.
We're taught "love one another as Jesus loves you". Well, I can tell you after moving 4 times in my lifetime, going to 4 different churches, I can tell you MANY of these people don't practice it. One thing me and a few of my family members have seen are cliques. Cliques with no way of getting in. Go to a church function and the majority of the time they won't bother you. I can recall going to camp with my sister but since she's younger, she had to stay at a different area of the camp. I had to go to her camp site a couple nights to calm her down because she was so upset. The other girls from our ward wouldn't have anything to do with her. And when the leaders scolded them for leaving her out, they invited her to join them but that very quickly turned around. My other sister had to drive down to pick her up to take her home finally, and all the mean while, the leaders kinda shoved the subject around. I can tell you that was one experience that enraged me about the church. And there were many other experiences like this. Not just ones with my sister or the youth, but with adults as well.
With experiences like this, it's made me question the church. While I can't just yet turn away completely from the church, I know where I stand and nothing can change that. Me and my family are NOT perfect nor do we try to make ourselves out to be. My older sister had a baby outside of marriage and while she's had a few looks here and there from the members, you can also find some of the most down to earth people there as well. A woman who is a good friend of our family, didn't treat my sister any different than if she were just a good friend outside the church. The same goes for others as well. And to be honest, I find the whole baptism at the age 8 very stupid. At age 8, we don't even know what smoking, cursing, sex, etc. really means. So getting"cleaned" at such a young age seems very far fetched. And if God is so loving and good, I can't understand why he'd put us here with so many problems, open to these "sins" if he would just toss us aside or separate us from all of the "pure" people. It just seems too cruel.
But honestly, it seems to me too many people generalize Mormons and their beliefs. And I know this was went over but caffeine isn't strictly forbidden. My family drinks Coke all the time. And while we're taught not to drink coffee, tea, liquor, gamble, smoke, and many other thing... I can say I've done several of these at least once. Because it's MY choice and I believe I have the right to it, even as a Mormon. If I get persecuted for trying these and realizing my own mistakes like I should be as a human, not because a book tells me, then I'll brush off my hands. Now I still hold some of my beliefs but I honestly think that comes not just religiously but politically as well. I don't believe in abortion, I'm straight, etc. However, have had very dear friends in my lifetime that contradict my beliefs or religion. I've had bi, gay, lesbian, druggies, alcoholics, gamblers, catholic, aethiest... and I can tell you right now that not once nor will I EVER try to change them or put my beliefs on them. I'll say no if I'm pressured into something I'm not interested in and we'll have discussions if they come up, but I have a firm belief in respecting everyone and their beliefs. Anyone that tries to do that, no matter their religion, sexuality, race, etc., I think, is wrong.
But wow, I think this was long enough... Hope this pretty much clarifies my view and feel free to ask questions or comment. heart
Edit: It's about 4:30 here. I'll peek into this topic tomorrow morning since I need my sleep for work.... gonk
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