Jessi Danger
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The Living Force
Jessi Danger
The Living Force
Jessi Danger
The Living Force
Emotional repression tends to cause difficulty with understanding others.
Inability to convey feeling through language is just another manifestation of emotional repression. It's hard to describe what you don't understand, and it's hard to understand something if you actively or passively avoid it.
Inability to convey feeling through language is just another manifestation of emotional repression. It's hard to describe what you don't understand, and it's hard to understand something if you actively or passively avoid it.
How is it repressive? Words may not convey how one feels in any meaningful way. A guy could wax on for hours trying to explain the intense feelings he may have for a girl, or he could simply hold her in his arms and show it. Emotions are pretty irrational and hard to understand, is communication solely verbal?
Maybe you and I have different concepts of communication and emotion? confused
Maybe its that society, or a lot of people, unfairly privilege verbal expression of emotion over others. One could express love all sorts of ways that don't involve words, frequently words don't do ones emotions justice. It need not solely be expressed in words, but in actions. Sex for example, could be an act that involves no spoken words, however it can convey all of ones emotions and passions towards the other person.
Perhaps the key stepping stone to an acceptance of verbal expression as a viable option is some word changes. Men are not sensitive, they are passionate. Men, obviously don't want to be weak and frail. None of those traits are particularly inviting to me or to many women at all. Passion on the other hand is alluring, sexy, intense, strong, all of the traits that entice. emotion_dowant It isn't what your asking, but how your asking it. "Be more sensitive guys!" sounds like a whining plea to be a weak, fragile piece of s**t. That isn't an endearing or attractive option. The idea of verbal expression can be part of passion. So can empathy, it's the "fuel of the fire!" so to speak. Also though, we have to recognize that not all emotional expression and empathy will come in words. A man may not cry, but he may hold you for comfort. Sex is also a form of emotional expression, so is art, making someone a meal, or just simply embracing your lover. I've found men are very emotionally expressive, even without words. But unfortunately the society police have decided verbal expression is the only valid expression and since men tend not to do that, they are heartless jerks. Women, well we talk a lot. Language is even stronger in women then in men do to brain development and stuff. So your just privileging the feminine form of emotional expression as the only valid one.
Perhaps that is your experience, it is not however my experience.