Maxxie-Delu
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- Posted: Wed, 21 Jan 2015 00:51:42 +0000
So recently I've gone through some s**t with a group of friends, if you wanna skip that, move down until you reach 3 of emotion_bigvein , but the back story that I'm gonna explain first is kind of important. (ALSO! If I'm posting this in the wrong place please let me know! I'm new here ^_^;; )
So just for the sake of protecting names, the people involved will be called "George", "Sally" and "Jessica".
Also, the reason I am explaining this is so you can understand my stress in the situation, and to know these people like I do.
About 4 months ago, just a couple weeks back in from Summer Break, I formed a friend group within my school with George, Sally and Jessica. We were all good friends within the school for a solid month and a half before George and Sally began to date. When they did, both me and Jessica thought it wasn't going to last long as the foundation of their relationship was only on a touchy-feely basis (which works for some people, but you have to know them and the situation to see why it wouldn't work). Shockingly, it's lasted until now, nearly 4 months later. Thing is, with every month that's gone by, more and more stress is being put on their relationship which is severely putting strain on the friend group.
So as of about 2 months ago, just to put things into greater context, Sally has become extremely weak (She falls over constantly, is always telling us about disorders she's never been diagnosed with, and actually trying to get hurt by running into traffic at random), and over a chain of events I come to discover she is a hypochondriac (A person who fakes weakness, sickness and mental illness for attention, some also threaten suicide frequently which she does also, but that's a whole other discussion).
What's frustrating me about this, is she only does this stuff around George. I have known Sally for a grand total of 4 years and George for a year, and only in these past 5 months has she developed these things around him, and only holds them up around him as well. When her and I are alone, she is perfectly fine, the second he walks in the room, she faints, and yes, that is a real story.
What else is concerning in this situation is that George in the process has become over protective and is almost reaching abusive grounds (In my opinion). As of the past 4 months he hasn't let her fully speak to me or anyone else, he physically picks her up and moves her if he doesn't like the way someone is interacting with her, and he answers questions asked to her, not him. That, and he's shockingly ignorant (e.g., he thinks that a house is $10,000 (USD or CAD), and that once you pay that your bills are covered for as long as you live there).
What's even crazier in this is that Sally and George plan to get married this year and move away.
And if you're wondering where Jessica is in all of this, she isn't. She literally disappeared when they started dating, and since then I have seen her approx. 10 times.
So, now that I've gotten through the history of what's going on, now onto the current stuff that I need help with.
About a month ago I decided to step up our friendship to more than grabbing Starbucks after class. I had asked everyone if they wanted to hang out and do a day trip out to a big mall where I live, we had planned it 2 weeks in advance, and everybody was on board. About a week in, Jessica suddenly bailed, (Shocker). Then morning of I was running a fever of 100 and had to stay home, when I let Sally and George know they both said they had planned on bailing that morning anyways,
Then, about 2 weeks ago we had made new plans to do a day trip out again, except this time George and Jessica bailed, leaving myself and Sally. I had messaged her, asking if she wanted to hang out with me, to which she responded, "Where is Jessica? I want to do wedding planning with her.", before I could even answer, Jessica continues "I know you're not excited about wedding stuff.". That just broke me; I would have said no, but she could have at least offered for me to come over. I cried for 3 hours that night, realizing I was nothing more than a messenger owl.
We haven't really spoken since then, except for today which is what I need help with.
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Today at school I was in math when I realized neither George or Sally were there, so I messaged them asking where they were, they said they were hiding in the library (from class and teachers, they do this a lot, and they wonder why their grades are in the toilet.), I didn't bother arguing and continued on with my work.
An hour later after class had finished I had 2 hours to kill before going to my next one. I went to the library to meet them, only to find Sally sitting in the corner. She told me George had gone to the bathroom so her and I got talking. When he got back, he said nothing to me, and for 10 minutes stood behind my chair as if waiting for me to leave. Once he figured out I wasn't leaving he returned to his seat with Sally. She got up and sat on his lap while he wrapped his arms around her and proceeded to kiss her. (Any physical contact is banned in my school.). I continued to talk to her as she rejected the kiss (she doesn't like kissing in front of people) and George was just staring/glaring at me in silence.
A couple minutes pass of me talking to her, and George abruptly breaks in "Don't you have somewhere to be?" I told him no, and his reaction was physically picking Sally up and moving her slightly out of my vision, making it difficult to talk. As I proceeded to talk to her, he kept catching her attention by kissing her cheek and caressing her back and face/hugging her.
A couple more minutes pass, and he gets up again. She gets up with him, and they both disappear behind the book shelf. I ask what they're doing, no response.
I got up, peered through the shelf and see George flirting with her, he turns to me and snaps "When does your class start," Before I could answer Sally pipes up and says "He's trying to get rid of you" in a playful way. At that, I slowly hiked down from my conversation with her and left.
I literally went to the washroom stalls and cried for a good 20 minutes before class started. Now that I'm home, I'm more calm, but I really need some help.
Do I confront them? Or do I just move on? Do you guys think I've lost my friends? It feels like I'm completely alone in this...
So just for the sake of protecting names, the people involved will be called "George", "Sally" and "Jessica".
Also, the reason I am explaining this is so you can understand my stress in the situation, and to know these people like I do.
About 4 months ago, just a couple weeks back in from Summer Break, I formed a friend group within my school with George, Sally and Jessica. We were all good friends within the school for a solid month and a half before George and Sally began to date. When they did, both me and Jessica thought it wasn't going to last long as the foundation of their relationship was only on a touchy-feely basis (which works for some people, but you have to know them and the situation to see why it wouldn't work). Shockingly, it's lasted until now, nearly 4 months later. Thing is, with every month that's gone by, more and more stress is being put on their relationship which is severely putting strain on the friend group.
So as of about 2 months ago, just to put things into greater context, Sally has become extremely weak (She falls over constantly, is always telling us about disorders she's never been diagnosed with, and actually trying to get hurt by running into traffic at random), and over a chain of events I come to discover she is a hypochondriac (A person who fakes weakness, sickness and mental illness for attention, some also threaten suicide frequently which she does also, but that's a whole other discussion).
What's frustrating me about this, is she only does this stuff around George. I have known Sally for a grand total of 4 years and George for a year, and only in these past 5 months has she developed these things around him, and only holds them up around him as well. When her and I are alone, she is perfectly fine, the second he walks in the room, she faints, and yes, that is a real story.
What else is concerning in this situation is that George in the process has become over protective and is almost reaching abusive grounds (In my opinion). As of the past 4 months he hasn't let her fully speak to me or anyone else, he physically picks her up and moves her if he doesn't like the way someone is interacting with her, and he answers questions asked to her, not him. That, and he's shockingly ignorant (e.g., he thinks that a house is $10,000 (USD or CAD), and that once you pay that your bills are covered for as long as you live there).
What's even crazier in this is that Sally and George plan to get married this year and move away.
And if you're wondering where Jessica is in all of this, she isn't. She literally disappeared when they started dating, and since then I have seen her approx. 10 times.
So, now that I've gotten through the history of what's going on, now onto the current stuff that I need help with.
About a month ago I decided to step up our friendship to more than grabbing Starbucks after class. I had asked everyone if they wanted to hang out and do a day trip out to a big mall where I live, we had planned it 2 weeks in advance, and everybody was on board. About a week in, Jessica suddenly bailed, (Shocker). Then morning of I was running a fever of 100 and had to stay home, when I let Sally and George know they both said they had planned on bailing that morning anyways,
Then, about 2 weeks ago we had made new plans to do a day trip out again, except this time George and Jessica bailed, leaving myself and Sally. I had messaged her, asking if she wanted to hang out with me, to which she responded, "Where is Jessica? I want to do wedding planning with her.", before I could even answer, Jessica continues "I know you're not excited about wedding stuff.". That just broke me; I would have said no, but she could have at least offered for me to come over. I cried for 3 hours that night, realizing I was nothing more than a messenger owl.
We haven't really spoken since then, except for today which is what I need help with.
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Today at school I was in math when I realized neither George or Sally were there, so I messaged them asking where they were, they said they were hiding in the library (from class and teachers, they do this a lot, and they wonder why their grades are in the toilet.), I didn't bother arguing and continued on with my work.
An hour later after class had finished I had 2 hours to kill before going to my next one. I went to the library to meet them, only to find Sally sitting in the corner. She told me George had gone to the bathroom so her and I got talking. When he got back, he said nothing to me, and for 10 minutes stood behind my chair as if waiting for me to leave. Once he figured out I wasn't leaving he returned to his seat with Sally. She got up and sat on his lap while he wrapped his arms around her and proceeded to kiss her. (Any physical contact is banned in my school.). I continued to talk to her as she rejected the kiss (she doesn't like kissing in front of people) and George was just staring/glaring at me in silence.
A couple minutes pass of me talking to her, and George abruptly breaks in "Don't you have somewhere to be?" I told him no, and his reaction was physically picking Sally up and moving her slightly out of my vision, making it difficult to talk. As I proceeded to talk to her, he kept catching her attention by kissing her cheek and caressing her back and face/hugging her.
A couple more minutes pass, and he gets up again. She gets up with him, and they both disappear behind the book shelf. I ask what they're doing, no response.
I got up, peered through the shelf and see George flirting with her, he turns to me and snaps "When does your class start," Before I could answer Sally pipes up and says "He's trying to get rid of you" in a playful way. At that, I slowly hiked down from my conversation with her and left.
I literally went to the washroom stalls and cried for a good 20 minutes before class started. Now that I'm home, I'm more calm, but I really need some help.
Do I confront them? Or do I just move on? Do you guys think I've lost my friends? It feels like I'm completely alone in this...