Insanity in a Bottle
I find I'm curious, and I'm looking for a more thorough answer than "drop tha b***h," or "castrate him."
If you had friends who were married, and they split because one was unfaithful, what are the general thoughts? Does it matter what the marriage was like prior to the adultery? At what point is adultery warranted, if ever?
Have you ever cheated? If so, do you feel you had good reason? Do you regret it? Would you change how any of it happened?
Popped into E. D. on accident, saw this and we'll, my thoughts on the matter are:
My thoughts on a friend or even a family members' relationship tanking due to cheating, and not just physical, emotional, and technological as well, happen to be similar to what they are when I myself am cheated on, with the added, I hope the one being cheated on is alright. But, the thought process goes, "How could they do that?!", "Why would they hurt someone they loved like that!?" "why couldn't you just be honest?!" "You're a coward." "What the hell went wrong? ", " How will he/she ever trust another lover? " and so forth..
The marriage, if good and a person cheated, would be null and void because then it just would not make sense at all. The adultery, in a good relationship, would probably be counted as" worse" in a way, because you're betraying somebody that cares so deeply for you, that they would do anything to keep the marriage healthy. This person cares for you, loves you, and is there for you whenever you need, and you cheat? That's wrong, no matter what the quality of the relationship is, but when the relationship is great and healthy, then there's something seriously wrong with the person committing adultery. Like, they have commitment issues or something, because to ruin a perfectly good relationship for someone you probably won't end up marrying, is just.. Sad.
Now, if it is a poor relationship, then it could only be mildly in the category of "I see why they did it, but seriously wtf". Even in a bad relationship cheating is not justified. Somewhat in a way understandable because there's something pushing you to it, but the fact that you would do it at all, is not okay. Why? Because you're in a relationship and if it's bad, just end it and then start a new with someone else. In reality you have no good reason to cheat because you can easily say, "hey this isn't working out, I'm sorry. We've grown apart" or something. You don't have to cheat
I've never cheated, and never will. I have very VERY strong loyalties and values that basically, make me have what seem like little panic attacks at even the thought of cheating on my Boyfriend in jest. Seriously, it's weird, I have issues. But, it's also because my Boyfriend was cheated on by his ex wife, and he still carries scars from it. And to hurt him like that again, would just be horrendous. I feel there would never ever be a good reason to cheat. And if something were to ever happen and I was to fall out of love with my boyfriend, I'd be honest with him, because that's what a relationship is about, honesty, faith love and trust. (and some pixie dust)