Yoshpet
Yeah, I think she's kind of missing the mark. Gradeschool children frequently pick on each other when they have a crush. That's what the parents are presuming. It may not be the case and instead be bullying or just a plain old fight, but it's certainly not society expecting men to abuse girls as part of a healthy relationship.
There's so much evil in this world, I often wonder why people grasp at straws and stretch scenarios to seem malicious when they most likely aren't. What a waste of time.
Edit: For reference - Helga G. Pataki
She wasn't saying it was setting up boys to abuse men later(though for some boys I'm sure it is) it saying it's setting up girls to think that rude, dismissive, inattentive, or otherwise negative behavior from a man is a sign of his affection. It's like the beginning of "He's Just Not That Into You." Where the narrator is talking about how her mother tells her that the boy in the school yard bite her and called her names because he had a crush. Her mother didn't then explain that it was an
inappropriate way to express affection regardless(in fact people who use that phrase never DO in my experience.), which leaves the girl thinking that's how affection is expressed in some men and that his dismissiveness and disrespect is a normal behavior, at least when it comes to romantic things.
And while society doesn't accept hitting in adults, it just translates into emotionally or verbally abusive standards instead.(that is the underlying disrespect stays and changes forms into something more "adult" acceptable, especially in a society that doesn't take verbal abuse seriously.) So when a guy doesn't call you back, or seems aloof, a lot teens and young 20 somethings still mistake that as "interest" instead of the dismissal it is, and the people who are predators take advantage of that.
(will give analysis of how this affects boys in a second.)
As for Helga...you do realize that girl went to a therapy
inside the show? It was an episode and everything. Her aggressiveness was based on her inability to accept the appropriateness of her affection towards Arnold. That is was an ok thing to feel, and that she didn't need to repress those feelings. In any case, she has lots of issues, and is NOT an example to be used for a well adjusted child's behavior or something that's even acceptable if at all a normal childhood problem.