Cybering. The intelligent discussion.

[Candied Catastrophe]

Angelic M ~Returns~

Rayne Nightrose

Angelic M ~Returns~

Rayne Nightrose

Oh thank you for pointing out that couples who live far away do it also.

Anytime my boyfriend and I can't see each other for an extended amount of time (which has been a lot this past year since I moved 2 hours away) we either cyber or have phone sex.

It helps ease sexual tension, and it's great when you're bored.

I've never been comfortable having such intimate conversations with complete strangers though. As open as I am, it just doesn't go well with me. It could also somehow relate to my being deathly afraid of stalkers (and watching too much Dateline xD))

"Getting to know the person better would be for cyber purposes, imo. Any type of RP could start out something sexual as you're just simply RPing... if that makes any sense..."

True. But I actually have issues with anything sexual after one of my exes. It took my boyfriend a while to help me become as comfortable as I am with him. So I can't see myself cybering on an intimate or even just an introductory level, if you understand. I hope I'm not coming off as too complicated xD

"Not at all, everyone has their standards, rules and boundaries. I have my own. You have yours. Anyone with a complaint will just have to leave it at the door."

Ha ha I love your way with words. I've never understood why cyber through PM's is against the Gaia TOS.

But hey, I have school in 5 hours and need to get off to bed.

[Angelic M Plus]

Rayne Nightrose

Ha ha I love your way with words. I've never understood why cyber through PM's is against the Gaia TOS.

But hey, I have school in 5 hours and need to get off to bed.

"Because Gaia doesn't wish to be responsible for anything done or said that leads to the advancement of sexual predators. I don't blame them for it. And again, thank you for the compliment. redface You're honestly making me blush."

[Nonesuch Solo]

I've always had an easier time processing written communication than verbal. I don't know why. Something to do with my learning style, I suppose. I think the first time I associated sex with writing was reading fanfiction (and I feel quite ashamed admitting it), before I started seeking out smutty stories on purpose. The stories got me off a lot better than any porn pics or videos I've ever seen.

I remember the first times my IM sessions got a bit spicy; it was really quite amazing. Some of the conversations I saved still turn me on, even though we're no longer friends, or no longer dating. Just the words, hearing motivations and how the other person feels as they're "doing" them is really hot. You can put little nuances into textual interactions that I would completely miss if I were just watching it. I know a lot of guys get off visually, pictures of holes stretched over thrusting members, whooptie-doo. Doesn't do it for me. Now, what in real life happens in mere moments--a touch passing from one spot to another, for example--can be drawn out through a handful of IMs. Savoring moments like you really can't as it's actually happening. And then, it's also partly the suspense and anticipation of what's probably coming but still not 100% sure, just hopeful, breathless...

There were a few people I played with that I'd never met and never had any intention of becoming physically intimate with, people I just wanted to give good dreams, good fantasies, help them get off, that helped me get off too. I was choosy with my "partners"--if I knew they were significantly older or younger, for example, or if they seemed mentally in the sort of state where they would get the "wrong idea" if you will.

The people I had the most fun with though were either my friends with benefits or my actual real-life partners. Usually, this only occurred when the relationship was long-distance.

[Cassidy Peterson]

Nonesuch Solo

I've always had an easier time processing written communication than verbal.

Same here. My memory is shaky, especially under stress, and with a short attention span on top of that I have trouble keeping track of verbal conversation, especially lengthy ones.

Nonesuch Solo

And then, it's also partly the suspense and anticipation of what's probably coming but still not 100% sure, just hopeful, breathless...

And then adapting to any surprises that do come up, without breaking the flow of the scenario. The writing can be just as exciting as what you're writing about.

[Nonesuch Solo]

Cassidy Peterson

Nonesuch Solo

And then, it's also partly the suspense and anticipation of what's probably coming but still not 100% sure, just hopeful, breathless...

And then adapting to any surprises that do come up, without breaking the flow of the scenario. The writing can be just as exciting as what you're writing about.

Aroused in so many ways... ;)

[B4T]

Angelic M ~Returns~

Rayne Nightrose

Ha ha I love your way with words. I've never understood why cyber through PM's is against the Gaia TOS.

But hey, I have school in 5 hours and need to get off to bed.

"Because Gaia doesn't wish to be responsible for anything done or said that leads to the advancement of sexual predators. I don't blame them for it. And again, thank you for the compliment. redface You're honestly making me blush."

Psh, you really think sexual predators prey by cybering with people?

Seriously think about it, that's really not preying at all, it's talking. Preying would be like "hey do you want to meet up to have some burgers?" and then pulling them into a van when they show up at McDonalds.

[Angelic M Plus]

Nonesuch Solo

I've always had an easier time processing written communication than verbal. I don't know why. Something to do with my learning style, I suppose. I think the first time I associated sex with writing was reading fanfiction (and I feel quite ashamed admitting it), before I started seeking out smutty stories on purpose. The stories got me off a lot better than any porn pics or videos I've ever seen.

I remember the first times my IM sessions got a bit spicy; it was really quite amazing. Some of the conversations I saved still turn me on, even though we're no longer friends, or no longer dating. Just the words, hearing motivations and how the other person feels as they're "doing" them is really hot. You can put little nuances into textual interactions that I would completely miss if I were just watching it. I know a lot of guys get off visually, pictures of holes stretched over thrusting members, whooptie-doo. Doesn't do it for me. Now, what in real life happens in mere moments--a touch passing from one spot to another, for example--can be drawn out through a handful of IMs. Savoring moments like you really can't as it's actually happening. And then, it's also partly the suspense and anticipation of what's probably coming but still not 100% sure, just hopeful, breathless...

There were a few people I played with that I'd never met and never had any intention of becoming physically intimate with, people I just wanted to give good dreams, good fantasies, help them get off, that helped me get off too. I was choosy with my "partners"--if I knew they were significantly older or younger, for example, or if they seemed mentally in the sort of state where they would get the "wrong idea" if you will.

The people I had the most fun with though were either my friends with benefits or my actual real-life partners. Usually, this only occurred when the relationship was long-distance.

"I am just exactly the same boat you are with everything you just said, it's as if I typed it all myself." xd

"I have some old saved chat logs also, from IMs, forums and even online games. I use to be a member of Furcadia, a horrible place now from what I remember the last time I logged on it 5 years ago, but I had met people at onetime that I adored to be with. I wasn't, and am not, much of a furry, but the detail a lot of people I met had was wonderful and drew me in. My cybering began much earlier than that, with chatrooms and small forums where I just happened upon girls my age who were in their exploring stages."

[Nonesuch Solo]

B4T

Angelic M ~Returns~

Rayne Nightrose

Ha ha I love your way with words. I've never understood why cyber through PM's is against the Gaia TOS.

But hey, I have school in 5 hours and need to get off to bed.

"Because Gaia doesn't wish to be responsible for anything done or said that leads to the advancement of sexual predators. I don't blame them for it. And again, thank you for the compliment. redface You're honestly making me blush."

Psh, you really think sexual predators prey by cybering with people?

Seriously think about it, that's really not preying at all, it's talking. Preying would be like "hey do you want to meet up to have some burgers?" and then pulling them into a van when they show up at McDonalds.

It's not unheard of, though, for sexual predators to "groom" using techniques including cybering. They're just covering their asses in case some parent comes on and reads their kids' PMs and flips out and sues them.

"Sorry, Ma'am, I don't know why your Little Timmy was cybering under the name sexybunny342 with DrHottness, but our legal team can assure you that we do not endorse such behaviors!"

[Cassidy Peterson]

B4T

Psh, you really think sexual predators prey by cybering with people?

Seriously think about it, that's really not preying at all, it's talking. Preying would be like "hey do you want to meet up to have some burgers?" and then pulling them into a van when they show up at McDonalds.

It's a form of establishing what the young & naive see as a more intimate connection. Children with limited understanding of the real world, dependency issues, or desperation for acceptance can latch onto the people they cyber with as a source of reliability in their world.

Cybering is a way of gaining their trust so that they tell their parents they're meeting "a friend" at McDonald's and not "a friend from the internet that I've never met in person."

[Angelic M Plus]

Cassidy Peterson

B4T

Psh, you really think sexual predators prey by cybering with people?

Seriously think about it, that's really not preying at all, it's talking. Preying would be like "hey do you want to meet up to have some burgers?" and then pulling them into a van when they show up at McDonalds.

It's a form of establishing what the young & naive see as a more intimate connection. Children with limited understanding of the real world, dependency issues, or desperation for acceptance can latch onto the people they cyber with as a source of reliability in their world.

Cybering is a way of gaining their trust so that they tell their parents they're meeting "a friend" at McDonald's and not "a friend from the internet that I've never met in person."

"What this lovely women has said is what I was about to type myself. However, I was hungry and had to grab food..."

[Nonesuch Solo]

Curses. I've just spent way too much time reading old chatlogs than is healthy so close to the wedding. >.>


Goodnight, thread.

[B4T]

Angelic M ~Returns~

Cassidy Peterson

B4T

Psh, you really think sexual predators prey by cybering with people?

Seriously think about it, that's really not preying at all, it's talking. Preying would be like "hey do you want to meet up to have some burgers?" and then pulling them into a van when they show up at McDonalds.

It's a form of establishing what the young & naive see as a more intimate connection. Children with limited understanding of the real world, dependency issues, or desperation for acceptance can latch onto the people they cyber with as a source of reliability in their world.

Cybering is a way of gaining their trust so that they tell their parents they're meeting "a friend" at McDonald's and not "a friend from the internet that I've never met in person."

"What this lovely women has said is what I was about to type myself. However, I was hungry and had to grab food..."

Cybering really doesn't set up any kind of trust or bond, necessarily. Maybe to some people, but then they probably already have issues.

More likely it is a way of establishing a connection with a person interested in sex because both parties are interested in it.

[bubbles_107]

I've just spent much time reading this entire thread and thinking a lot about it. There are a lot of strong aguements that are "for" cybering, and i have yet to see a strong one against it. I have one question (and maybe more to come). Do you think cybering should be limited to a certain age group?

And here is actually the first time i'm admiting this. I have cybered online before. more than once. more times than i can remember or count. Mostly I was just curious and the guys I was doing it with were urging me on. I was kinda young when i first did it, but i wont say how young. I have always done it anon. without pics or anything. I try and be safe, because guys have asked for a pic, an adress, a phone number, etc. but i always turn them down. It can be fun, and very entertaining, if you do it with the right person. I have begun to dislike it because so many people are so...whats the word.... well they're just horrible at it... plus you have to find someone who is into what you're into. cybering is a way to explore your sexuality without the negative reprocussions that real sex can have. It helped me learn new things from new people and discover what i'm into. It also helped me discover I was bi (even though i believe i was on that path anyways, it just sped it up). Once, a girl asked to cyber with me. I wasnt totally sure about it because i'd never done anything with a girl, but i said ok anyways. I ended up enjoying it as much as doing stuff with a guy, and helped me fully realize i was bi. I'm not saying this is a way to figure out your sexual orientation, because its not. That part was merely personal. When i first cybered, i didnt realize it was a for of RP, but of course, now I do. Done correctly, it can help improve your literary skills, and help develop your writing, especially as you go into more mature areas.

Sorry if my thoughts seem to jump all over the place, I was just writing down thoughts as they came to me.

[Angelic M Plus]

bubbles_107

I've just spent much time reading this entire thread and thinking a lot about it. There are a lot of strong aguements that are "for" cybering, and i have yet to see a strong one against it. I have one question (and maybe more to come). Do you think cybering should be limited to a certain age group?

And here is actually the first time i'm admiting this. I have cybered online before. more than once. more times than i can remember or count. Mostly I was just curious and the guys I was doing it with were urging me on. I was kinda young when i first did it, but i wont say how young. I have always done it anon. without pics or anything. I try and be safe, because guys have asked for a pic, an adress, a phone number, etc. but i always turn them down. It can be fun, and very entertaining, if you do it with the right person. I have begun to dislike it because so many people are so...whats the word.... well they're just horrible at it... plus you have to find someone who is into what you're into. cybering is a way to explore your sexuality without the negative reprocussions that real sex can have. It helped me learn new things from new people and discover what i'm into. It also helped me discover I was bi (even though i believe i was on that path anyways, it just sped it up). Once, a girl asked to cyber with me. I wasnt totally sure about it because i'd never done anything with a girl, but i said ok anyways. I ended up enjoying it as much as doing stuff with a guy, and helped me fully realize i was bi. I'm not saying this is a way to figure out your sexual orientation, because its not. That part was merely personal. When i first cybered, i didnt realize it was a for of RP, but of course, now I do. Done correctly, it can help improve your literary skills, and help develop your writing, especially as you go into more mature areas.

Sorry if my thoughts seem to jump all over the place, I was just writing down thoughts as they came to me.

"As long as you're safe about your own personal information and don't do anything to endanger yourself, age shouldn't be an issue. However, it is, and lots of kids are loose with information. And finding the right partners are key to enjoying it as you said. I've gone through many myself, some stick around for awhile, months, years... others vanish after a few rounds."

[Migi Lambkins]

The only fear that I have is someone I dont know becoming fixated on me.

Not just that, but I wouldnt go out an sleep with someone in one night.
I'm not going to lead fantasy about my body or my sexuality with someone I just met either.

For me, I have to actually KNOW a person to even be attracted to them; I like to interact, know how a person thinks, how they are like. I dont know if it is because I so like to know what makes the person ticks, or if its because I really get a taste for what that person would like sexually.

And..I dunno. I wouldnt really feel that wanted online cybering. I mean, I'd be one of a million available for that.

And I want a guy to want me, not just me as a person, but to know that I know EXACTLY what to do for him and make him crazy- not just the generals that you can count on any guy wanting....Wanted like "she does something that no one else does like that."

Cybering is like one night stands. You just cant get to that level.

PLUS so much of knowing all that is body language- and there is no body language in type. Little stars around action sentences hardly counts.

PLUUUSSS SOUND gets me off, not reading "oh."

And there is hardly anyone out there with the literacy required to turn me on via prose.
:/

Perhaps I just anticipate disappointment because of the lack of PRESENCE. *shrug*