"Thank you everyone for the positive replies, however I'm looking for some more input then just "great thread". Now here is my input on some of the things said."
Penn Almasy
Yes, thank you. Cybering isn't all about pixel sex. It IS a type of RP, albeit being sexual. But if you're discreet about it, then no one else has to know. "I don't ever feel it's about pixels either, unless your avatar on whatever area of the net, if one is provided, is what you are while you cyber. This can go into affect saying that if you cyber on Gaia, not that you should, then your avatar is most likely the thing the other person is going to go along with. Most Cybering is done without visuals until a person gives a description."
Tyn_Dawn
ydoubother
a lot of people cant really help it, personally i blame the parents for not sitting down and telling them to get self control.
You can't always blame the parents. Children have their own sense of right and wrong, they're making the choice to do it, so it's their own fault, simple as that."This is all true. I started using the net at 13, and shortly afterwards I begun to cyber. My father didn't think it well for me to look at porn and such then, so this was my way of releasing what sexual tension I had."
A broken hearted idiot
I also believe that people cyber for human interaction, but I think theres more then that.
People often have online sexual relations because they feel that they don't have to be themselves for a while. Much in the same way as people who like to RP on Gaia. Its an escape from the harsh reality that most people who cyber are: lonely, unattractive, have a lower self-esteem, have closet homosexual or lesbian desires (a large portion of people who cyber pretend to be the opposite sex), or have any other type of social dysfunction.
In short people who cyber often do it to make up for a lack of social interaction in the 'real' world.
"This is where my part about role play comes into effect. People are able to be something they feel comfortable with. And I cannot say that people who cyber are lonely, unattractive etc... but that they just feel comfortable with their own setting and surroundings."
i.am.a.penguin
Adair-Nicca
Wonderfully typed. I always thought of cybering as a horrible thing, or, something only desperate people did, which was half true...anyway, thank you for this bit of information...thought I still think it's slightly wrong to do... stare
Same with me. I thought it was wrong and kind of gross (and I still kind of do), but I never really thought of it where the people are in love, but live far apart. Its just never been a reason thats come up.
"I don't understand how it is "wrong", unless some religion believes that even textual based erotica is bad. I can understand it not being something you'd care to do, but 'wrong' is a poor choice of words."