bobloon
What ever happened to young women(late teens to early 20's) wanting to go out into the world to find themselves, experience the beautiful opportunities that are available, and not be tied down instead of staying at home raising babies?
As has been stated I don't think many girls that age in developed countries WANTED to be tied down to children. This is something that happens at an astonishingly high rate. Those who do want children, it's a personal choice, maybe that's what they want to experience of the world.
bobloon
And to me personally, anyone who thinks they can do both is wrong because that child doesn't deserve to share you with anything else. Once you become a mother, your focus should be solely on the development of that kid. All your selfishness must go out the window. Oh, and it would be beneficial to know who you are before you give yourself up to a baby.
Part of being a mother is also keeping your own development from stagnating or else you fail as a human being and as a parent. You make it seem as though children are a death sentence. My wife-character has, after having our son, put herself through university so she could be a more well rounded person and a better mother with a degree and a stable job. Her intentions although self-improving are to the benefit of our kid.
bobloon
I wanna smoke cigarettes, stay up late, stare at the tv for hours, only have school to be stressed about, have a job to be able to buy whatever I want for myself and family and friends, decide to go out whenever I want, drink soda, eat food that's bad for me, travel with only a toothbrush, etc.
This is what you want to do that you consider knowing who you are?
bobloon
you can't stay up late for the heck of it because it'll only be hurting you; you can't travel with only your toothbrush when you have a child; having a job means money for your child, not for any silly thing for whomever else....
I dare you to try and NOT stay up late when you have a child. Just try and get some sleep.. Try.
You also assume that everyone's socioeconomic situation is exactly the same.
...There is nothing obvious about your post. You like everyone else has opinions and views vastly different from a lot of people. Forgive me if I find much of what you say baseless and juvenile.