ANSWER TO HOW SEXUALITY IS NOT SUPERFICIAL

In my sexuality I find that I am:

loved by many and I love in return	14.1%	[ 14 ]
I wait until others prove themselves worthy before I give.	23.2%	[ 23 ]
I am strictly superficial. I don't mind being shallow.	5.1%	[ 5 ]
Human behavior is very much hardwired.	14.1%	[ 14 ]
Sexuality is sacred and derives from our spiritual being.	13.1%	[ 13 ]
More than one of the above,	30.3%	[ 30 ]
Total Votes:			[ 99 ]

[Syndactyly]

No, the sex itself might not be superficial, but the choice of sexual partner, based on physical characteristics, is superficial. The sexuality.

You are incredibly thick.

[Methcalarjalope]

Syndactyly

No, the sex itself might not be superficial, but the choice of sexual partner, based on physical characteristics, is superficial. The sexuality.

You are incredibly thick.

I do have a thickening of my body, t'is true. However my thinking is much better than you. blaugh

*sings* gonk And as we have already irrevocably proven, genitals alone do not insure attraction! (imagine opera)

[Syndactyly]

I never said genitals insure attraction. But they are, for most people, a "requirement" or a "deal breaker." Attraction is an umbrella term that covers sexuality, romanticism/love, and chemistry. So stop trying to make it encompass only sexuality.

[Methcalarjalope]

Syndactyly

I never said genitals insure attraction. But they are, for most people, a "requirement" or a "deal breaker." Attraction is an umbrella term that covers sexuality, romanticism/love, and chemistry. So stop trying to make it encompass only sexuality.

Multiple people have already denied this! Alas, we live in a time of incredible learning. Genitals were not a requirement for me, but nevertheless most young virgin religious don't think about the genitals of the men they will marry. At first appraisal they resemble chicken gizzards. This is not sexy!

[Syndactyly]

Denying it without proof is useless opinionated hookum.

You might not think genitals were a requirement for you, and yet you give a horrific, disrespectful description of the genitals of an intersex person you had experiences with. Also notice how you are no longer with that person. Also take note how even if you accept "all" forms, sexuality is still superficial. Just because you're "okay" with everything doesn't mean you're not okay with it for superficial reasons.

[Methcalarjalope]

Syndactyly

Denying it without proof is useless opinionated hookum.

You might not think genitals were a requirement for you, and yet you give a horrific, disrespectful description of the genitals of an intersex person you had experiences with. Also notice how you are no longer with that person. Also take note how even if you accept "all" forms, sexuality is still superficial. Just because you're "okay" with everything doesn't mean you're not okay with it for superficial reasons.

No, I didn't give a horrific description it was impartial and accurate. His genitalia was of hte wet variety. I loved him for his elan no matter "what" he had in his pants or not. T'is you passing judgement, not little ole' moi. mrgreen I loved him madly and truly and passionately with all my heart, soul and being.

[Syndactyly]

LOVE and SEXUALITY are separate, idiot. I've said that so many ******** times. You don't sound like you were particularly attracted to his genitals.

[Methcalarjalope]

Syndactyly, I am on to you. You are the world's most effective troll because of your subtlety but I have finally caught on. No one could be as dumb as you IRL. You make all the classic mistakes of a noob and yet you have been on Gaia for as long as I have!

LAWL. hats off to you my dear!

You may have the last troll now, as I am off to beddy bye. xp

[Methcalarjalope]

Syndactyly

LOVE and SEXUALITY are separate, idiot. I've said that so many ******** times. You don't sound like you were particularly attracted to his genitals.

To tell you the truth I have never been particular attracted to anyone's genitals, being located between two sewers you see. I can definitely state for the record that I don't get hawt from looking at a p***s or wide open wussy. I pleasure the area out of love, not because I am gagging to suckle the throbbing member. Not saying that there are not many here who are attracted to genitals, but I prefer to look into my lovers eyes.

[Syndactyly]

Okay, so you're really just upset because you don't feel like my thread applies to you. rolleyes This is definitely the end of talking to you about this, because you've proven now that the concept has completely flown over your head, and you reacted EXACTLY how I expected (irrational) people to.

[X_Torric_X]

Methcalarjalope

Asevenex

Methcalarjalope

Asevenex

It's official-I'm set up for fail.
And why won't you PM me that info?

You are flailing more than failing. Get the jist of my list. Go on and try, be "that guy."

directions repost

Here's the deal. You need to actually leave your house and go on walks with regularity in safe neighborhoods. Don't go in parks after dark however as you won't meet a girl in their most likely unless someone's fraternal organization or church is having a late picnic.

Take a bath and look your best. Pump up your muscles and put on a dash of cologne or that new deodorant called AXE and leave the house. Go out. Look for some girl who attracts you.

Ask her out like for skating, or basketball. Don't cream her in basketball. Be nice. Don't hit her in the head. Don't try anything the first night. Find out her middle name and her favorite color.

Then do the same with a few other girls. Pretty soon you will get good at talking to girls.

Don't tell them about 1. constipation 2. your mother 3. your aversions to any particular groups of people.

Do: 1. ask her leading question 2. listen and repeat back what you hear her say 3. find out her likes and dislikes and try to put them to memory. Example: "Diane, what are your favorite flowers?" "Oh, no guy has ever asked me that before! I like pink roses!"

Next time you see her bring her a pink rose. Get it?

You just....don't understand...
It's not that easy for me.

If you are in a wheel chair, you can still roll out of the house, Asevenex.

No. I'm the problem. And just sitting here telling me what you think I should be doing isn't going to solve anything.

[Captain Verd]

Methcalarjalope

Captain Verd

Methcalarjalope

Animals are not superficial and neither are we. I would expect that the proof of this is the man or woman who deeply believes he or she was born the wrong gender.

I don't get the analogy. Also, if you have a source for this claim, you should put it in the OP.

It isn't an analogy, my dear. We are animals, animals are animals. Animals do not abstract they don't "think about" their sexuality. There mating is instinctual or in otherwords biologically driven. We differ from other animals in our ability to abstract and to think about our actions; to have self consciousness, self awareness. To this degree we may select superficial qualities that attract us, however deep inside us we are hardwired for mating selection that is far stronger than what we percieve.

I was talking about this:

"I would expect that the proof of this is the man or woman who deeply believes he or she was born the wrong gender"

[Olya]

We all meandered through our schooling haphazard; so, to God be thanks,

I can agree with the OP, but only half-way. I'm not a particular fan of separating culture from who we are at our core - that just isn't true. We don't look at pack animals as what they could have been or would have done outside of their packs. Why look at a human outside of its society? We create much of our own environment, yes, but we also adapt to it. Culture, civilization, abstract thinking - none of these things are here because we wanted them. You can't want something the outcome of which you do not know. They're here because we needed them.

From that regard, our sexual behaviours are very much proportional to our environment, be it internal or external, physical or chemical. The best media can ever do is play up these stimuli. It's very easy to say that something is superficial, but once you break it down to the most basic level, there has to be an underlying biological cause for it, because it is all we are - hoards of different cells existing in a symbiotic relationship and driven by reproductive instinct to pass on our genes along with those of a best mate.

If you dig far enough, is any of what we perceive as superficial really is so?

...it's easy, without too much fooling, to pass for cultured in our ranks.

[Rysidel]

The body is superficial.

[Methcalarjalope]

Captain Verd

Methcalarjalope

Captain Verd

Methcalarjalope

Animals are not superficial and neither are we. I would expect that the proof of this is the man or woman who deeply believes he or she was born the wrong gender.

I don't get the analogy. Also, if you have a source for this claim, you should put it in the OP.

It isn't an analogy, my dear. We are animals, animals are animals. Animals do not abstract they don't "think about" their sexuality. There mating is instinctual or in otherwords biologically driven. We differ from other animals in our ability to abstract and to think about our actions; to have self consciousness, self awareness. To this degree we may select superficial qualities that attract us, however deep inside us we are hardwired for mating selection that is far stronger than what we percieve.

I was talking about this:

"I would expect that the proof of this is the man or woman who deeply believes he or she was born the wrong gender"

Exactly that! His or her superficial characteristics do not correspond to who this person feels deep within his or her being. Thus superficiality is not the constant, but rather what the person is deeply.