I browse through a lot of forums and online communities each day, looking for something worthwhile to blog, and sometimes I feel the urge to share it with the world outside of my little blogging community. In that respect, this topic came up in another community I frequent. I will not expose the community in question, but it is mostly a community for women's health. Sadly, the community has devolved from real questions about women's health, to little more then "Help, I'm TTC, and can't, what should I do?" For those of you who don't know, TTC means Trying to Conceive, or become pregnant.
What bothers me is how a person is completely ostrasized in such a community for suggesting the nobler approach of adopting a child, rather then having your own. It sickens me just how many people I see in this, and other communities like it, who seem to believe that adopted children aren't even real family, and that they're little more then left-over refuse from trash parents.
Often, a person suggesting adoption will get several biting jabs, and see phrases such as the following;
"It's different when it's your own kid." Right, because unless the child shares your DNA you can't possibly raise it.
"But I'm the last male in my family, I have to have my own kids to carry on my family name." Yes, because a name is so very important. Guess what, your adopted child can legally take your last name.
"It's not really my kid, because the DNA is different, I couldn't possibly love him/her like I would my own kid." Sure, because your sperm/egg is so special that only it is deserving of your love.
"Adoption takes too long" Right, because you've been trying for years, what's a few more months to go through some paperwork....
The fact of the matter remains that there are already many many children awaiting adoption, and each day, perfectly healthy children are overlooked because two people are so incredibly selfish that they have to spend upwards of hundreds of thousands of dollars just to have thier own DNA.
It's sickening. If you're so dead set on raising a kid, yet can't seem to create one yourself, for the love of whichever deity(ies) you worship, please consider a child that desperately needs you, instead of forcing the issue to have your own.