virginity: your thoughts

[Massive Hemorrhage]

Senior Airman Lima Zulu

I mean, we all are to a degree, but not at the level you state it.

I didn't say that people are really carnal, I just said that sex is a carnal act.

[botticellis venus]

AyameRose

What religion are you, I'm really curious?

im unificationist.

[AyameRose]

Vagabond Vendor

AyameRose

She's not drawing a name from a hat, obviously there is some sort of matchmaking process involved. Probably her parents will meet with his parents, and it's never a coin toss, well, lets get this guy, decision. Arranging a marriage is a long, complicated process. Assuming she's going to end up with a b*****d is stupid. Someone has to arrange it, and they probably have the best interests of the families involved in mind.

You are aware what is best for the families may not be best for the individuals involved in the marriage at all, right?

People have been doing it for centuries, and the species seems to have survived this far. In India its still a huge cultural feature. Your parents aren't going to set you up with someone you hate or could never get along with. It works when the people involved know what they're doing. Usually it takes years of interviews, background checks, evaluation. And they don't have to be the love of your life. You just have to get along respectfully and raise a healthy family.

[botticellis venus]

its true. we dont go with the love of you life. some couples do feel that instant falling in love, but alot dont.

[Instructor12345]

I personally support you in your decison to be a virgin. I believe it takes true willpower to stay away from something that is so glamorized in this modern day. It is good and healthy, and you don't have to worry about STD's blaugh

[botticellis venus]

BombInABox

I personally support you in your decison to be a virgin. I believe it takes true willpower to stay away from something that is so glamorized in this modern day. It is good and healthy, and you don't have to worry about STD's blaugh

haha thank you.

[Vosi]

AyameRose

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AyameRose

She's not drawing a name from a hat, obviously there is some sort of matchmaking process involved. Probably her parents will meet with his parents, and it's never a coin toss, well, lets get this guy, decision. Arranging a marriage is a long, complicated process. Assuming she's going to end up with a b*****d is stupid. Someone has to arrange it, and they probably have the best interests of the families involved in mind.

You are aware what is best for the families may not be best for the individuals involved in the marriage at all, right?

People have been doing it for centuries, and the species seems to have survived this far. In India its still a huge cultural feature. Your parents aren't going to set you up with someone you hate or could never get along with. It works when the people involved know what they're doing. Usually it takes years of interviews, background checks, evaluation. And they don't have to be the love of your life. You just have to get along respectfully and raise a healthy family.

I don't think you understand that it used to be a business manuveur. Selling women for part of a company, or putting your son with some deformed fat ugly b***h so that two companies could merge, wasn't unheard of.

Your happiness back then, and now, comes second, not first.

[botticellis venus]

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AyameRose

Vagabond Vendor

AyameRose

She's not drawing a name from a hat, obviously there is some sort of matchmaking process involved. Probably her parents will meet with his parents, and it's never a coin toss, well, lets get this guy, decision. Arranging a marriage is a long, complicated process. Assuming she's going to end up with a b*****d is stupid. Someone has to arrange it, and they probably have the best interests of the families involved in mind.

You are aware what is best for the families may not be best for the individuals involved in the marriage at all, right?

People have been doing it for centuries, and the species seems to have survived this far. In India its still a huge cultural feature. Your parents aren't going to set you up with someone you hate or could never get along with. It works when the people involved know what they're doing. Usually it takes years of interviews, background checks, evaluation. And they don't have to be the love of your life. You just have to get along respectfully and raise a healthy family.

I don't think you understand that it used to be a business manuveur. Selling women for part of a company, or putting your son with some deformed fat ugly b***h so that two companies could merge, wasn't unheard of.

Your happiness back then, and now, comes second, not first.

actually, it was more land and livestock back in the day
and that kind of arranged marriage does still go on, but it has become alot more modern. happiness is considered important now. you have the wrong timeline.

[Urusai_Shinjitsu]

Virginity is overrated and has been for the last thousand years for women. This is the backlash to the hundreds of years of women expected and forced to be sexually repressed by society. Virginity is not a virtue and neither is sex.

[Instructor12345]

botticellis venus

BombInABox

I personally support you in your decison to be a virgin. I believe it takes true willpower to stay away from something that is so glamorized in this modern day. It is good and healthy, and you don't have to worry about STD's blaugh

haha thank you.

So, if I read this correctly, you have an arranged marriage? Hmm... well a truly healthy and fulfilling marriage is based on patience, understanding, and ultimately, love. Do you love the man you are supposed to marry?

[Sadist Sedated]

Virginity is only what you make of it. My concept of it has switched again and again based on my situation. Sometimes it's been something for me to be embarassed by and ashamed of, sometimes it's simply meant that I haven't found someone I truly love and who loves me back the same way, yet (which is the stance I'm in, now), and for a short period of time I viewed it as nothing but a concept people made up (I only had this idea when I had arranged with a friend of mine to have sex just for the hell of it, and I dropped this mindset after she backed out of it).

Just go with whatever works for you. If you lost your virginity in a humiliating or unsatisfying way, then just think of it as an irrational attachment people have to something that doesn't even really exist, and if you're waiting to lose it at the perfect moment, then hold it in high regard. Life's what you make of it.

[Trorbes]

botticellis venus

and that kind of arranged marriage does still go on, but it has become alot more modern.

To be honest, I wouldn't consider any form of arranged marriage "modern."

[Vosi]

botticellis venus

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AyameRose

Vagabond Vendor

AyameRose

She's not drawing a name from a hat, obviously there is some sort of matchmaking process involved. Probably her parents will meet with his parents, and it's never a coin toss, well, lets get this guy, decision. Arranging a marriage is a long, complicated process. Assuming she's going to end up with a b*****d is stupid. Someone has to arrange it, and they probably have the best interests of the families involved in mind.

You are aware what is best for the families may not be best for the individuals involved in the marriage at all, right?

People have been doing it for centuries, and the species seems to have survived this far. In India its still a huge cultural feature. Your parents aren't going to set you up with someone you hate or could never get along with. It works when the people involved know what they're doing. Usually it takes years of interviews, background checks, evaluation. And they don't have to be the love of your life. You just have to get along respectfully and raise a healthy family.

I don't think you understand that it used to be a business manuveur. Selling women for part of a company, or putting your son with some deformed fat ugly b***h so that two companies could merge, wasn't unheard of.

Your happiness back then, and now, comes second, not first.

actually, it was more land and livestock back in the day
and that kind of arranged marriage does still go on, but it has become alot more modern. happiness is considered important now. you have the wrong timeline.

Nah, I have the right timeline, but economically as a construct happiness still comes second. I am aware it's much more modern and has been updated to include the actual recipients, but there are times when it doesn't matter even today, especially in richer families.

Oh, and yes, it was cows. People like land and cows.

[AyameRose]

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AyameRose

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AyameRose

She's not drawing a name from a hat, obviously there is some sort of matchmaking process involved. Probably her parents will meet with his parents, and it's never a coin toss, well, lets get this guy, decision. Arranging a marriage is a long, complicated process. Assuming she's going to end up with a b*****d is stupid. Someone has to arrange it, and they probably have the best interests of the families involved in mind.

You are aware what is best for the families may not be best for the individuals involved in the marriage at all, right?

People have been doing it for centuries, and the species seems to have survived this far. In India its still a huge cultural feature. Your parents aren't going to set you up with someone you hate or could never get along with. It works when the people involved know what they're doing. Usually it takes years of interviews, background checks, evaluation. And they don't have to be the love of your life. You just have to get along respectfully and raise a healthy family.

I don't think you understand that it used to be a business manuveur. Selling women for part of a company, or putting your son with some deformed fat ugly b***h so that two companies could merge, wasn't unheard of.

Your happiness back then, and now, comes second, not first.

It was and still is a a business manuveur in some situations. The silk producer's son marries the fabric weaver's daughter. But it was also about the survival and the health of the group as a whole. Its a very western idea that the individual is more important than the group as a whole. In alot of these situations, the wife or husband would move into the same living space as their inlaws, so it became even more important for that person to be someone who fit comfortably into the group. I'm just saying, if it works and it makes them happy, whatever.

[botticellis venus]

BombInABox

botticellis venus

BombInABox

I personally support you in your decison to be a virgin. I believe it takes true willpower to stay away from something that is so glamorized in this modern day. It is good and healthy, and you don't have to worry about STD's blaugh

haha thank you.

So, if I read this correctly, you have an arranged marriage? Hmm... well a truly healthy and fulfilling marriage is based on patience, understanding, and ultimately, love. Do you love the man you are supposed to marry?

and communication.

i dont know who i am getting married to yet. i will probably wait a few more years.