virginity: your thoughts

[zickkun]

Kilypso

zickkun

dude, u can only become a vampire only if you are a virgin. Otherwise, u become a... ghoul... sad

Where the hell did you hear that?

anime... rolleyes

[Neferet -House of Night-]

zickkun

Kilypso

zickkun

dude, u can only become a vampire only if you are a virgin. Otherwise, u become a... ghoul... sad

Where the hell did you hear that?

anime... rolleyes

Prove it. >:O

[zickkun]

well, if u watch hellsing ova, there's a part where this info was stated. I think in vampire hunter D, too! mrgreen

[AyameRose]

Dark Angel Rai

zickkun

Kilypso

zickkun

dude, u can only become a vampire only if you are a virgin. Otherwise, u become a... ghoul... sad

Where the hell did you hear that?

anime... rolleyes

Prove it. >:O

This one? Or the next one. Either way, it's a fun movie. biggrin

[AyameRose]

Lord Setar

Heart It Races

Several people become sex addicts after loosing their virginity and would have been better off as virgins.

Also, favorite poster. 4laugh

[Hashire-Greywolf]

Nature says the sole purpose of Sex is to reproduce....which is exactly correct...the only purpose it serves is for reproduction...


in nature, it doesnt mean anything except for that...

Humans, though, have tied certain meanings to it depending on their beleifs....none of which are right or wrong...

I am one who believes Sex should be saved for someone you truly love...not that youre gonna marry or not someone who youve dated for 6 months...I mean real love...
my boyfriend has the same beleif...took us 2 years to finally give in to it.

its not wrong to be virgin.

as for an arranged marriage, people usually look at it negatively because in the past, arranged marriages were without the consent of the two children...whether the kids liked eachother or hated eachother, they HAD to marry...

today, its not so...though in some cultures its still done that way, in most, the marriage happens with the consent of the two kids.
i would hope yours is the consentual type.

[Star Jelly]

I don't have a problem with virginity, in fact, if I don't experience sex for as long as I live I wouldn't give a damn. No, I am not a 13 year old pretending to be all 'perfect', I'm saying that I won't give a flying damn about me being a virgin for the rest of my life.

Arranged marriage is fine by me if both parties are willing and comfortable around each other. If you don't have that 'comfortable' air, then forget it. I don't agree with arranged marriages that didn't include the ones in question's say, though.

[Mr. Morrison]

Hashire-Greywolf

Nature says the sole purpose of Sex is to reproduce....which is exactly correct...the only purpose it serves is for reproduction...


in nature, it doesnt mean anything except for that...

Then, if sex is only for reproduction, what is the point of the clitoris?
Why are human females able to have sex whenever, and not just when they are fertile?

[Andariel The Dreaded]

To be totally honest, I've been shunned for being a virgin.

people call me a prude or arrogant just because i don't want to ******** a loser.

by loser i mean i dont want to give it up without being physically or emotionally ready and to feel something special for that person other than lust.

so i say that being a virgin is simply by choice, if your ready than thats perfectly fine.

[AriellaRaine]

botticellis venus

well, (as i said before) my reasoning is:

i am saving myself for my husband. and he for me. its as simple as that. just a promise to be with only each other. a way to show our dedication for each other. it dosent have to do with what sex actually is, its about what it can represent.


as to an over-glamourization of virginity, i suppose thats just how you see it. i think sex is overly glamourized.

How can you be so sure that your husband is going to be a virgin when you wed? He could always lie and say he is one but there is no test to see if he truly is one. For all you know could you end up marrying a guy who has had multiple sex partners and lie to his family and you about it and if he is highly trustworthy you nor his family would be none the wiser if he gets asked if he's had premarital sex.

I'm actually ok with premarital sex as long as you are being safe and not being stupid about it. My fiance and I were dating only 1 month and 16 days before we had sex. ~shrugs~ It wasn't a big deal to us because we used protection and checked afterwards to make sure it didn't break or have any holes in it.

I've noticed on here some arguments about not being able to get your "virginity" back. Other than the surgery yeah you can. I went to school with a bunch of Christians who had premarital sex but were allowed to take a vow of what they called Second Virginity. So in a sense yeah you can get your virginity back psychologically. I don't see why people make such a big deal about it to begin with; to me being a virgin is nothing special probably because I'm one of those people who end up going back into a virgin state after sex. So every time my fiance and I do have sex it hurts all over again like it's the first time for penetration.

To some people sex is sex; to me it's something that occurs between two people who deeply love each other and want to have a deeper connection with one another.

I think that the whole virginity debate is as old and tiresome as the religious debate. You believe what you wanna believe and we all agree to disagree.

[The Idioteque]

Wilczurak

I pretty much disagree with your whole entire view on sex and marriage

[Saint Viscosity Rape]

jkclaar

With the rampant std's out there, virginity is a great way to stay healthy.

I don't think there is anything wrong with staying a virgin til you are married. I'm a white american and my husband and I were both virgins. It meant that there were no questions about std's. No jealousy's to deal with. And it means something, to us, to know that we waited to make love, not have sex.

Because everyone who has premarital sex doesn't care in the least about what sex means to them, right? And why do we care if you're a 'white american'? You could be a blue Norwegian for all I care.
Marriage =/= love.

Kilypso

Daniel Adama

I think virginity is only a big deal because it is so easy to break. People are like, "Oh, I had sex, I'm so cool." It's not hard to get laid; the hard part is getting laid by the right person.

I'm going to have to agree with this. Like I've said before, possibly in this thread; hold onto your virginity until you're with the person you love more than life it's self and then you two make the decision together. Like my Rayne and I.

BAH, HUMBUG. You apparently have this thing I like to call a 'viewpoint'. This 'viewpoint' is yours to share with whom you want, not to force upon or judge others for not wanting to use that 'viewpoint'. Stop sounding so arrogant plz.

Zola_Rayne

botticellis venus

well, (as i said before) my reasoning is:

i am saving myself for my husband. and he for me. its as simple as that. just a promise to be with only each other. a way to show our dedication for each other. it dosent have to do with what sex actually is, its about what it can represent.


as to an over-glamourization of virginity, i suppose thats just how you see it. i think sex is overly glamourized.

How can you be so sure that your husband is going to be a virgin when you wed? He could always lie and say he is one but there is no test to see if he truly is one. For all you know could you end up marrying a guy who has had multiple sex partners and lie to his family and you about it and if he is highly trustworthy you nor his family would be none the wiser if he gets asked if he's had premarital sex.

I'm actually ok with premarital sex as long as you are being safe and not being stupid about it. My fiance and I were dating only 1 month and 16 days before we had sex. ~shrugs~ It wasn't a big deal to us because we used protection and checked afterwards to make sure it didn't break or have any holes in it.

I've noticed on here some arguments about not being able to get your "virginity" back. Other than the surgery yeah you can. I went to school with a bunch of Christians who had premarital sex but were allowed to take a vow of what they called Second Virginity. So in a sense yeah you can get your virginity back psychologically. I don't see why people make such a big deal about it to begin with; to me being a virgin is nothing special probably because I'm one of those people who end up going back into a virgin state after sex. So every time my fiance and I do have sex it hurts all over again like it's the first time for penetration.

To some people sex is sex; to me it's something that occurs between two people who deeply love each other and want to have a deeper connection with one another.

I think that the whole virginity debate is as old and tiresome as the religious debate. You believe what you wanna believe and we all agree to disagree.

No, we don't agree to disagree where religion is concerned. We agree to continually debate the issue forever.

[Kitahoshi_Hazel]

Gosh, there's just so much entagled in this one thread. We've got religion thrown in there, add a dash of morality and virtue arguments and a pinch of spat over virginity. It's interesting how much has gotten thrown into the same question.

First of all, I have never seen a shrine or worshippers in favour of either virgins or non-virgins. So really, it's time to stop thinking that you're special because people hate you. People will hate you no matter what you do, and they will always disapprove of your lifestyle choices. End of story. Just stop listening already if you're feeling offended.

Furthermore, arranged marriage is not twisted or wrong and it is not a brainwashing scheme. People get to choose how to live their life, and for some people it's much easier to find someone from the same religion to marry through arranged marriage. There are many benefits to arranged marriage, but like normal matchmaking from your friends, it's still much like rolling a dice and hoping you get a six. Benefits of meeting someone in the interest of marriage: you can align important things like parenting methods, religion/religious practice, morality, location of the family home, financial decisions. Bad things that can happen: two people who are horrible with money or both beat their children- but the same thing can happen if you met them off the street yourself. The only difference is that it's decided right from the beginning exactly where your relationship is "going".

Personally, if my neighbour wants to have a marriage of any sort with a consenting adult that's pretty much their business. Until someone gets hurt, and they're not following the BDSM rules that keep people from sustaining serious injury, I don't care.

Onto my opinion, which is what the original post asked for. My opinion on virginity is quite basic- young men and women should all masturbate beforehand (no pun intended). If you can't love yourself, then how can you love anyone else? Every person is different, but they should only have sex when it seems right to them and when they are mentally prepared or else the entire experience gets marred. As for virgins in general- I really don't care that you haven't had sex. You're not special, you're not selfish, you're just... a virgin. Like whether you're a man or woman it doesn't actually mean anything about you personally.

[Xyloid]

Good lord some people have some loooong opinions on sex.

Mine:

It's good. It's natural. We are supposed to bang and we were made to enjoy it. End of story.

[botticellis venus]

Zola_Rayne

botticellis venus

well, (as i said before) my reasoning is:

i am saving myself for my husband. and he for me. its as simple as that. just a promise to be with only each other. a way to show our dedication for each other. it dosent have to do with what sex actually is, its about what it can represent.


as to an over-glamourization of virginity, i suppose thats just how you see it. i think sex is overly glamourized.

How can you be so sure that your husband is going to be a virgin when you wed? He could always lie and say he is one but there is no test to see if he truly is one. For all you know could you end up marrying a guy who has had multiple sex partners and lie to his family and you about it and if he is highly trustworthy you nor his family would be none the wiser if he gets asked if he's had premarital sex.

thats true. there will always be that unknowingness about it. i cant know if hes had sex before. but usually people who have had sex before do tell their parents and they get married to other people who have had sex before as well. virgins to virgins. nonvirgins to nonvirgins.