virginity: your thoughts

[Lord Setar]

Heart It Races

Several people become sex addicts after loosing their virginity and would have been better off as virgins.

Heart It Races

I know several people who were good strait A students as virgins, but slept with one other person and they became horribly slutty and their grades and life went downhill. I cannot name how many times I've watched this happen.

Anecdotal evidence cannot be verified and is not likely to be an accurate representation of the population as a whole. Try some, you know, actual evidence?

Heart It Races

And yeah, I'm in advanced classes at my school, and I know for a fact that most of the kids in there are virgins becuase I've heard most of them talk about their virginity. In the few regular level classes I've been in, all everybody talks about is sex and pot. Coincedence? I think not.

Correlation does not necessarily imply causation. See what Jaa said about social ineptitude.

Heart It Races

And prove that virgins are ugly. Prove that non-virgins are good looking, becuase most of the sluts I know are ugly and have a horrible physical appearance or they're severely overweight. I'm not saying everybody that has sex is a slut btw.

Strawman. Happy Day never claimed that all virgins are ugly.

[Jaaten Syric]

Heart It Races

And yeah, I'm in advanced classes at my school, and I know for a fact that most of the kids in there are virgins becuase I've heard most of them talk about their virginity. In the few regular level classes I've been in, all everybody talks about is sex and pot. Coincedence? I think not.

What utter bullshit. How do I know, you ask? Because I used to be one. I was in the AP program in my high school. I graduated with an advanced diploma (the highest standard my school awarded) and entered university with a total of 21 credit hours. The fact that I was a virgin had nothing to do with that, and believe me it was not for lack of trying, the fact that the smartest people in school also tend to be amongst the most socially inept, might.

[Clandestinus]

People like to view sex and love as a combination. Sex and marriage.
First of all, marriage has lost whatever "sanctity" it had, even it even had any sanctity in it. People get arranged to be married, people get married while drunk in Vegas or for money. It's wonderful if two people are getting married because they're in love, and I have no problems about that.
Onto that, I don't think that sex needs to wait until marriage, for the reasons I posted above. Marriage doesn't guarantee you'll love someone.Love and lust are very different from each other, however, I believe sex should wait until you're in love and ready for it. If you cannot accept the fact that there is TONS of responsibility involved in both parts, then you're not ready. If you have doubts, you're not ready.
Summing it up, I believe sex should be for when you're in love and ready, not marriage.

EDIT: I haven't read through the thread, so excuse this post.

[Lord Setar]

Toasty Marshmallow

i'm a virgin and waiting for marriage, for both secular and spiritual/religious reasons.

What secular reasons?

[Captain Verd]

I don't see why virginity is important, tbh. Sex, to me, is like a really big, personal hug. I share it with my friends as a way to tell them how much I care about them.

And I like c**k. Big deal.

[bluewolfcub]

Heart It Races

Virginity should be revered as a good thing. A virgin is alot more likely to be successful in life becuase we are more focused and not being constantly distracted by constantly having to have sex or constantly having to get laid or have a boyfriend/girlfriend. We're independent and able to function without.

rofl rofl rofl xd

On the plus side, those of us getting some aren't climbing the walls in sexual frustration and can get on with life. You're a funny little silly ignorant child.

alyssapie

I think that people who sleep around... or HAVE 'slept' with several people in the past...
Are gross. >.<

If you think people are "gross" you have no business having sex with them. Not because of any of their problems, but because you need to grow up first.
Also, if you're obsessing with your partner's past, you MIGHT just be 1/ emotionally insecure and immature and shouldn't be in a relationship, nevermind having sex; 2/ a bunny boiler

[Le recepteur]

In all honesty, I don't care about maintaining virginity or having an active sex life. Yes, I am a virgin, but I don't flaunt it in a 'holier than thou' way, nor do I obsess over finding at least someone to ********. I despise the way society makes sex seem like the answer to every single problem you've ever had, or something that if practiced outside of marriage will make your genitals fall off.

[cannibal-peach]

botticellis venus

i am a virgin. i have an arranged marriage. two things that people have alot of problems with.

its funny. i am quite happy being a virgin. i dont need some guy in my bed to have life experiance. ive traveled the world, lived in a completly different culture, volunteered in other countries.

everytime i see some disscustion about sex in the GD or in the CB or really anywhere, then the virgins are the bad people. we are considered immature, selfish, and ignorant. its crazy.

sex has become just instant gratification. it means nothing anymore. sex was a way to have a family. sex was a way to become one entity between two people that had a deep relationship with each other.
im not saying that everyone views it like this.
but it seems like that is the majority of how people view it. instant gratification.

oh, and my arranged marriage? bring it on.


what are your views on sex in this day in age?

I'm in the virgin boat too.(just thought I would say) I disagree somewhat with your view on sex though. A lot of younger people might see it that way but once people are more mature they see sex as another way to be with someone you love.

I'm a virgin because I believe that when I first have sex it should be with someone I love and respect. (obvioiusly I haven't found that person) I think that many people want to be wanted so much that they use sex as a way to feel wanted. It isn't just instant gratification, it's an emotional need.
And we're all human here. We aren't perfect and we make really crappy mistakes, including sleeping with the wrong person.


Sorry about you having an arranged marriage...I would run away before anyone forced me into a marriage. I know you said bring it on but I hope that he's turns out to be someone that you at least like.

bluewolfcub

On the plus side, those of us getting some aren't climbing the walls in sexual frustration and can get on with life. You're a funny little silly ignorant child.

Some of us have more control over ourselves I'm sorry to say. Just because you couldn't control yourself doesn't mean you should call people silly.
Not all of us are sex-aholics biggrin

[bluewolfcub]

cannibal-peach

Some of us have more control over ourselves I'm sorry to say. Just because you couldn't control yourself doesn't mean you should call people silly.
Not all of us are sex-aholics biggrin

olol
"Couldn't control myself"? No, I was in perfect control thanks.
And notvirgin does not mean sexaholic.

You kids really crack me up.

[Clandestinus]

RoRo22IB

In all honesty, I don't care about maintaining virginity or having an active sex life. Yes, I am a virgin, but I don't flaunt it in a 'holier than thou' way, nor do I obsess over finding at least someone to ********. I despise the way society makes sex seem like the answer to every single problem you've ever had, or something that if practiced outside of marriage will make your genitals fall off.

This. 100% how I feel.

EDIT: Sex is not a matter of losing control. Or if it is, at least one person involved is using drugs / alcohol. I would not even call having sex while intoxicated "losing control." If you can't control yourself during sex and don't want it, that's rape. Completely different issue.

[ReinVince]

cannibal-peach

Some of us have more control over ourselves I'm sorry to say. Just because you couldn't control yourself doesn't mean you should call people silly.
Not all of us are sex-aholics biggrin

I'd like to direct your attention to these well known facts about sex.
If she consented, then she was in control of her actions.
If she didn't consent, which would be the only time she wasn't in control of her actions, she would have been raped.
So you're basically saying "Haha, you got raped" without even knowing it.

Good looks, good looks.

[bluewolfcub]

ReinVince

cannibal-peach

Some of us have more control over ourselves I'm sorry to say. Just because you couldn't control yourself doesn't mean you should call people silly.
Not all of us are sex-aholics biggrin

I'd like to direct your attention to these well known facts about sex.
If she consented, then she was in control of her actions.
If she didn't consent, which would be the only time she wasn't in control of her actions, she would have been raped.
So you're basically saying "Haha, you got raped" without even knowing it.

Good looks, good looks.

That's ok, I'm sure s/he's happy growing up with an unhealthy undeveloped suppressed attitude toward sex. Or something.

[ReinVince]

bluewolfcub

That's ok, I'm sure s/he's happy growing up with an unhealthy undeveloped suppressed attitude toward sex. Or something.

Hey! Not all us virgins are assholes! crying

Granted, I am an a*****e, but not because I'm a virgin. ninja

...Or is it? gonk

[Captain Verd]

cannibal-peach

Some of us have more control over ourselves I'm sorry to say. Just because you couldn't control yourself doesn't mean you should call people silly.
Not all of us are sex-aholics biggrin

LOL I can't control myself. You're funny.