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Post: 48882821_151 created on Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:15:18 +0000
Posted: Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:15:18 +0000

I think there's more to sex than what everyone things. Love and attachment dose not have to go hand in hand with sex but it's AmAZING when it happens or well so I've been told. I've not had sex yet, though I've come close but thankfully I had a selfish lover who used and dumped me without 'taking' me. *shakes head*

Sex is a stress release. It's pleasure and other than Dolphins we are the only manual that just has sex because it feels good. Personally I need love and sex to go hand in hand and no one here is what i'm looking for. so yes in a way I can see where you get your views and yet at the same time not everyone is like that. It has just become openly casual in the last 30 or so years. YAY TO THE 60s.

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Post: 48882821_152 created on Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:17:44 +0000
Posted: Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:17:44 +0000

KittyKat127

virginity ends the sec you are touched, whether you wanted or not. i think those who can say they are virgins are lucky in my eyes. they get to have that chance to wait for that one true love. anyone that pisses on u about u being a virg. can shove it.
hey, if your happy with the arrange marriage for yourself then good for you. its good that you not unhappy about it and i hope it goes well. but, u understand that it is not for everyone right?

of course i understand that its not for everyone. obviously.

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Post: 48882821_153 created on Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:21:57 +0000
Posted: Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:21:57 +0000

Different people have different views, always have always will. What matters is how you view it. I, for one, commend you, it's hard not to bend to temptation. It's equally hard to withstand the pressure society places on decisions that are not in majority. I for one say do what makes you happy. Personally, I have never been with a man, and prolly never will, does this make me a virgin, guess it really depends on who you ask, some say yes citing the fact that I haven't had sex with a guy, others say no because I no longer have a hymen, to me it is just a thing, neither a vice nor a virtue.

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Post: 48882821_154 created on Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:22:48 +0000
Posted: Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:22:48 +0000

botticellis venus

i am a virgin. i have an arranged marriage. two things that people have alot of problems with.

its funny. i am quite happy being a virgin. i dont need some guy in my bed to have life experiance. ive traveled the world, lived in a completly different culture, volunteered in other countries.

everytime i see some disscustion about sex in the GD or in the CB or really anywhere, then the virgins are the bad people. we are considered immature, selfish, and ignorant. its crazy.

sex has become just instant gratification. it means nothing anymore. sex was a way to have a family. sex was a way to become one entity between two people that had a deep relationship with each other.
im not saying that everyone views it like this.
but it seems like that is the majority of how people view it. instant gratification.

oh, and my arranged marriage? bring it on.

what are your views on sex in this day in age?

I don't care either way about virgins, but why does sex have to mean something? why can't it be enjoyed for its' sake and its' sake alone if one so chooses?

I don't agree with any cultural construct of marriage, but if someone else wants it, by all means go for it!

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Post: 48882821_155 created on Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:29:33 +0000
Posted: Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:29:33 +0000

I feel sorry that you'll never sew your wild oats.

Or know what else is out there for you.

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Post: 48882821_156 created on Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:32:06 +0000
Posted: Fri, 10 Apr 2009 23:32:06 +0000

I've only slept with one person, and it means something to me. Look, different people place different values on sex, but for me personally getting to know another person's body to the point that I am/they are able to completely let go and orgasm is a very emotional thing that is an important part of a healthy, long-term, adult relationship. If I were sexually incompatible with someone, it would be a sign of bigger things than not being turned on. All that said, I place no value on virginity, and I think teaching kids to value their virginity rather than sex itself often leads to bad decisions.

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Post: 48882821_157 created on Sat, 11 Apr 2009 00:29:48 +0000
Posted: Sat, 11 Apr 2009 00:29:48 +0000

I agree with you..
I have no need to say further more.

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Post: 48882821_158 created on Sat, 11 Apr 2009 00:34:19 +0000
Posted: Sat, 11 Apr 2009 00:34:19 +0000

I don't know if it has been answered in the previous 11 pages, but what will you do if the person you end up marrying isn't right for you? Abuses you? Does your religion permit you to leave him? What IS your religion?

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Post: 48882821_159 created on Sat, 11 Apr 2009 00:38:09 +0000
Posted: Sat, 11 Apr 2009 00:38:09 +0000

I don't think being a virgin is a bad thing as long as you're waiting because you want to wait.

I also disagree with the viewpoint that woman who are no longer virgins are somehow worth less as a person than women who wait... there's so much more to people than whether or not they've had sex yet.

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Post: 48882821_160 created on Sat, 11 Apr 2009 00:41:52 +0000
Posted: Sat, 11 Apr 2009 00:41:52 +0000

KittyKat127

virginity ends the sec you are touched, whether you wanted or not.

So a person who was raped or molested is no longer a virgin? What if the person was just a kid when it happened? Does it still count?

If you ask me, that doesn't seem fair.

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Post: 48882821_161 created on Sat, 11 Apr 2009 00:48:44 +0000
Posted: Sat, 11 Apr 2009 00:48:44 +0000

Abstinence is a viable choice and kudos to the OP for making that choice. It's one of many viable pregnancy prevention options.

I would like to point out that, statistically, 90% of all Americans have sex before marriage.

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Post: 48882821_162 created on Sat, 11 Apr 2009 00:49:37 +0000
Posted: Sat, 11 Apr 2009 00:49:37 +0000

MercuryChaos

KittyKat127

virginity ends the sec you are touched, whether you wanted or not.

So a person who was raped or molested is no longer a virgin? What if the person was just a kid when it happened? Does it still count?

If you ask me, that doesn't seem fair.

Virginity is a social construct.

There are people who believe they lose their virginity if they use a tampon. There are others that believe they are virgins as long as they stick to only oral and a**l sex.

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Post: 48882821_163 created on Sat, 11 Apr 2009 00:59:11 +0000
Posted: Sat, 11 Apr 2009 00:59:11 +0000

complications are

i have the right to say no to whoever. i am permitted to leave the marriage. but its pretty stupid if you get married, like each other for awhile, then stop liking each other, to get a divorce. marriage takes work. i am a unificationist.

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