marshmallowcreampie
Some people deserve it. Some kids are bastards who know very well what they're doing. I say kids should post videos of their bullying incidents on YouTube, with no attempt to hide the identity of the bullies. If the bully doesn't care about his victim, why should the victim care about the bully? Have this happen to a few bullies and it discourages the others. Let the whole world call them out, like those kids who were picking on that bus assistant.
God, I'm messed up...
Maltese_Falcon91
Yes, it might be gratifying to single out people who you feel have harmed you out, and show the world what horrible people they are. Then sit back and watch as the world marks them forever. But, then wouldn't you have come full circle? You yourself would become a bully, and you'd only add more misery and suffering to the world.
Instead, what schools
should be doing is focusing on counselling. Sit the bully and his victim down for an hour, and make them reconcile with one another. Make the fighting stop.
This discussion might have died, but please let me express my point(s).
1. I see where you're coming from Marshmallow. Believe me; I get it, but the kids who know what they're doing is wrong, they'd enjoy all the attention way too much and probably be proud of it and make it worse.
2. Mr. Falcon...I disagree. You've somewhat circumvented the problem by pointing out Marshmallow would become a bully in attempting to get rid of the bullies. Maybe so. But the truth is, some people have to taste their own medicine to understand how terrible it really is. It's not about self-gratification; it's about justice and having them realize that they will not get away with ruining someone else's life for pleasure or even if it's just because they're having a bad day. Let me make a decent example. In WW2, the U.S. got involved because Japan hit us at Pearl Harbor. Do you think if we had gone over there and said, "Hey don't do that anymore" that they would have backed off? No, certainly not; such are the rules of engagement in any war. Eventually, we would have had to strike back to SHOW them that they weren't getting away with it. Immediate retaliation instead of (probably useless) diplomacy solved a problem because I doubt they would have listened. It would be like any other country attacking any other country for the sake of war.
3. There is no reconciliation between bully and victim when most likely the victim is only being targeted by the bully for some reason other than personal grudge. You cannot make the fighting stop by making them pretend to be friends in front of you. An old acquaintance of mine had to explain this to me (because that is exactly what I thought before) and she ended up worse off for it because the bully didn't want to stop. Oh, the teachers and the councilor went on their merry way, patting themselves on the back for fixing a bullying problem when they didn't do anything at all because they, also, didn't address the problem. In this way, one cannot make the fighting stop.
4. To be honest with school bullies (and any bully really) there are only three realistic options to fix the problem. Identify the problem (the bully) and fix it by:
A. Getting the government irrevocably involved in his family, i.e. child services. Something's probably going wrong at home (which is by no means an excuse for bullies to be bullies).
B. Beating the crap out of them yourself. (This comes from personal experience. As a kid, this one girl would make fun of me and hit me sometimes (which went on for about six months) and one day in a nearby ballpark, she hit me and I...beat the crap out of her. And she might have hated me from then on, but she respected me. Actually we kinda hung out together after that, but you can never really tell how people really feel about you, right? Or at least, I can't.)
C. Suing the parents of the child for bullying. Of course, you'll have to have a psychiatrist and a bill to sue the parents for in order for this to stand up in court. Chances are, after being billed for their child's idiotic insecurity problems, they'll either get him counseling or "insist" that he stop bullying kids by taking away T.V. time or something. (This might make the bullying problem worse, but a repeat offender gets some time in the slammer.)